Core Beliefs: What Are They & How To Discover Them

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Today on the podcast, I’m taking up a very difficult topic. And I’m making an attempt to convey this. This is the basis. This is the core of my coaching, this is the core of my training, everything that I’ve done on radio, even on this podcast over the years, this is the foundation. We are talking about core beliefs. On today’s podcast, happy Saturday morning to you. It’s a weekend, I want to keep this simple to the point. So let me start out by asking this question. Has it ever happened to you there, you thought you can do it? But no matter what, no matter what you do, it’s not happening. You know, you can do it. But somehow you cannot do it can do versus cannot do. Yesterday, we talked about doing right versus what is right. Today can do versus cannot do.

Now, if you struggle a lot, this is what we call the struggle. People say I struggled a lot. So you struggled a lot with you trying to you know, you have the skill talents, they know how experience or all the gifts to get a specific thing done. But somehow, it’s not happening. That’s what we call to struggle, you stay in that zone for five years, 10 years, 15 years, that what we call to struggle. Now, how do you come out of this, how do people come out of this? Well, they cannot do pot has to be confronted. And there is this cannot do pot, this cannot do pot there is a high probability that this cannot do pot is happening is coming, or is present in the unconscious part of the mind the subconscious part. And there is a high possibility that there are two things that are responsible for this not happening for you two things, one is your beliefs that are in the unconscious mind. And the second is fears, some fear, fear of success, fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of whatever. And beliefs are things that either you knowingly put into yourself or you were influenced unknowingly, either you deliberately flushed yourself or unknowingly got influenced, and there is a high possibility that it was an uncontrolled influence. And it happened through some situations that happened to you during your childhood. Anytime I get any radio show, specifically talking about hypnosis, talking about change, this is probably the intro to each of my shows.

Now, the older you became, or the older you have become, or the older you are becoming, the more difficult it is for you to change because the stronger these influences are becoming in the unconscious mind. In other words, the beliefs in the unconscious mind and the fears in the unconscious mind are becoming stronger by the day. I get this question about beliefs. Every time I talk to a friend or a client, you know, well, I don’t know what beliefs or I don’t know what values are, you know, how do I differentiate between these two? Well, beliefs essentially give you an understanding of yourself, the way you understand yourself, or the way somebody understands you. Okay? Your beliefs. They give the dare the formations that they form you, let’s say, through your actions or through your inactions, or through your words or through your expressions. You seem to hate money or dislike money. So people around you can see and this they start to see they see. Yeah, you know, he doesn’t believe in money. I know you might have heard this. He doesn’t believe in relationships, he doesn’t believe in a job. See, he doesn’t believe in politics. Because you are telling the world what you believe in and what you do not believe in beliefs also create your understanding of others. And beliefs also create your understanding of life. So if you really take change as a subject or a topic, and you seek positive change, yes, people There are so many things you can do, to create positive change in your life. But it comes down to this. It comes down to you, your understanding of yourself, your understanding of others, and your understanding of life. Three things, these three things, each category has its own specifics, but it comes down to these three core beliefs. Now, how do you discover what beliefs are dominating your mind? A long time ago, and I do not know who came up with this, but we have used this quite extensively. It’s called the downward arrow technique. Now, what this technique does is it helps you to discover the beliefs that you are hanging on to that you should otherwise you shouldn’t be. So every time I explain this concept to any of my seminars, people, you know, how do I know which belief I need to change? And how do I even know which beliefs I have? So the downward arrow technique teaches you to discover the beliefs that you have, and that you foster. And the ones that are positive and the ones that are negative. And the negatives have to go.

Obviously, positives have to be understood. So you need to figure out what these are, and then you know what you have to do with them. So how does this work? Well, think about this. Let’s take a recent situation that you had in your life. So let’s say you have been let go from your job. By the way, I’m getting a lot of people telling me this. So I took that as an example. And you’re applying for jobs and you’re not able to get jobs. I’m applying I’m not getting jobs. So no matter what I do, I’m not able to get a job. So that’s the situation. Now, let’s look at what is your understanding of this. Your understanding that means what it means? About you? So what does it mean? To us specifically? So it means and you can even attach different meanings to this. You might say, Yeah, you know, I lack communication skills. That’s why, or maybe I lack some tech skills. Or maybe, I don’t know, I just got lucky in the previous jobs. But I don’t think I have what it takes. And maybe these guys are right, they eventually figured out who I am. And my luck has run out. Or maybe you might say, I don’t have what it takes period. Right. So the different meanings you can attach. And these are your beliefs. Okay, that’s you. Now you take the same situation, and you start what others are thinking about, like, what is your belief about others.

So, for example, I was right. But the manager was incorrect. The hiring, hiring manager, or one of the people I spoke to deliberately wanted me to fail in the interview. I didn’t like that company. I didn’t like the commute. So you start looking into other things. Okay, and, you know, outside of you now, like you’re looking outside of you, then maybe from a life perspective, the third one is life. So your understanding of life, you, you may start inferring this as, okay, this world is dark, everybody’s going to be fired anyway. Anyway, never wanted a job. So so everything is maybe an indicator that I just want to go and do something else. So you have three different core beliefs that could be coming out. Now your job is to write down all the possibilities the way you what does it mean about you? Or what does it mean about me as you’re writing it down? If I’m writing now, what does it mean about me? What does it mean about others? And what does it mean about life? So I write down all possibilities.

Now as you’re doing this, you start to see that clearly some of these understandings are misplaced. Some of these observations are misplaced, okay, and you will start to see that depending upon how good you are at this, or how honest you are about this, you start to see some of these very drastic, that extreme. And you don’t need to go there. And you have to change them. I suggest people and when back in the day when I used to do a two-day or a three-day seminar I used to make people go through this at the seminar. And I used to tell them that you got to do this at least once or six once every six months or once a year. Because this is critical. This gives you an understanding this is how you build yourself And I force people to go through this exercise and just constantly visit their beliefs about themselves about others about the world and try to bring them as a singular entity and kind of make them well-rounded about life. This is hard to explain on a podcast like this, but I think I tried. Whether I failed, or I succeeded, you let me know. 888-818-0404 is the number where you can text me. And if you have a question for me more than happy to answer that. That’s all for now for today. So go enjoy your Saturday. If you’re listening to this on a Saturday, before you know it, I’ll be with you as early as tomorrow. Stay tuned.

How To Function In This World

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On the podcast today, I’m answering a question that nobody asked me lately, recently, nobody did. But I know this is on your mind. Because this was on my mind for a long time. And occasionally, not even though not in recent times, occasionally I do keep asking this myself, which is, how can I function in this world, when I’m doing things that I think should create success, that I think should create the happiness that I think should create joy. But no matter what I do, nothing is happening. So if you are in a situation where you are doing things, but things are not happening, you’re working hard, you’re taking action, you are giving whatever you have to whatever that is that you want to accomplish. If it is not happening for you, then today’s podcast episode is for you. welcome, or welcome back to success with Srini. Happy Friday morning to you. I’ll keep this short. I’ll keep this to the point. So I talked about this. About eight years ago, in my book, I wrote a book. It’s called How to create a career breakthrough. Okay. And this is a book on creating career break tools, your career focused your professional. And there was, I was, at a time when I was getting a lot of questions about my career, I was doing career seminars. So it made sense. Okay, shall write a book I did. And in that book, I talked about this, you know, how to function the right way in the world, because functioning in itself is a challenge. Because there’s a lot going on, there’s a lot going on in this world. So doing right, versus what is right. Doing Right, versus doing the right thing, there’s a big difference, there is a possibility that you are doing the right. But are you doing the right thing? That’s the question.

So, there are three things based on my observation that will get you on the track for doing the right thing. Of course, you have to do it right. Look at that aspect, when you are in pursuit of a goal or some outcomes, so you have to do it right, but are you doing the right thing? So first and foremost, is you got to observe that which is being displayed. Sees success is something that cannot be hidden. If somebody is successful, they may hide from the outside, they can hide, they may live a modest life, they can hide their money, they can hide their wealth, and all that. But when you talk to them, and if you do talk to them, you see, you know, the way they speak the way they convey, there is Veldt and you can see you can feel you can just read their aura. So success cannot be hidden. And so it’s true with failure, you cannot hide failure either. We can hide it for some time we think nobody is, seeing it and all but people do see people do read. And we are in a world where everything is visible to everyone. So there’s nothing to hide. Either way, in either scenario, there’s nothing to hide. But the point here is you got to study people who are successful, you got to be observing all the time because, for an observant eye, it is being displayed. So if you really want to find intellectuals, you can, if you want to find successful individuals in business finance in tech Hvidovre you have the eye, you can see them you can spot them.

The first is to observe that which has been displayed. If not, he got to keep on searching. If you keep searching, you’ll find that’s the point the then you branch out into two areas. So once you observe now, what are you observing specifically that can my model the duals you see, there are two things to anything that you see one that you can do that is an aspect of something, whatever you’re saying, one aspect of that you can do the other aspect of that is you can’t do so, you got to model that which is doable. So, every successful success leaves traces. So, you can trace some aspects of whatever has been done and you can model it and you can model it using your own skill and talent. Now, there are certain things that cannot be modeled the nondurables cannot be modeled because you don’t know how that can be done. So for that, your job is to bridge the gap. I hope I’m coming across so you bridge the gap and the bridging of the gap will involve acquiring some skills, some talents, some know-how, and if you want to accelerate that, then you’re talking about coaching, mentoring, and some training and all that. So, the key is to first of all spot success, then see whether some aspects of the success be done on your own. So, easily you can model it, and then the second part which is the non-doable part, can be breached three-step process to this, now, I did not write all these things in the book, these are my later understandings, these are my later observations and life has been teaching me all through these years. So, at that time I talked about doing right versus what is right, but then I started developing these things later on.

Now, are you doing these three things, there is a high possibility that you are doing this already. And still, there is a possibility are still there is that you’re not getting to the outcomes, you’re not getting to the success, well, there is one approach that most people miss out on. The approach here is that you do all this as a leader you got to lead these things, which means, you lead yourself to find success in whatever area that you are seeking success in. So, you find those people who are doing or who have already done then you find those things that you feel are doable, and you model them in your life. And then whatever those nonverbals are, you spend time to bridging the gap. But you have to do all these things as a leader not as a doer also, I heard this on the podcast just let me do this No, got lead. It means you got to invest time, and effort, you know, to you encounter failure or your stand up, you know, to stick to your convictions, you to stand in your beliefs.

A lot of things happen as a leader so you got to take a leadership position, that’s when things happen. Okay. I want to keep I want to stop here. It’s a Friday so go enjoy your Friday. Luckily I just got this done under 10 minutes. And I will talk to you as early as tomorrow. Stay tuned.

3 Secrets To Creating A Rewarding Life

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Welcome or welcome back to success with Srini. Happy Thursday morning to you, today is the first of December of the year 2022. I’m excited as I’m recording today’s podcast episode because officially completed 11 months of daily podcasting. So if you’re a regular listener of this podcast, you probably know that I made a commitment to myself that I’m gonna run this podcast every day, for the whole year of 2022. And here I am just 30 more days away. Today on the podcast, I want to I think I did this before also not sure. But there are three primary things that are responsible for creating a rewarding life, I want to share those three things with you today. You call them secrets, you call them insights, you call them, you know, whatever, whatever you want to call them. But there are three things that you should do to create a rewarding life, create an exceptional life, for yourself. And this is very important because we are stepping into the next year 2023 is coming up and we are only 30 days away. So these three things are a must. So this is what I do when I work with coaching clients and mentoring clients.

So let’s get into this. First and foremost you need to get into the habit of asking empowering questions. Don’t ask cheap questions, don’t ask mediocre questions, ask empowering questions. Questions are going to rattle you at any point in time like literally shaking you up from your core. Questions like okay, what’s my purpose? Why am I here? What am I doing my time? Where am I heading from now from this point on? Know what kind of change I’m seeking? What can I change in others? What you know, the little space that I’m given in this small little corner of this world? What am I supposed to do? What am I doing? Empowering questions? Or things? Should I change? What one thing should I change that is going to completely change my entire game, my entire trajectory, one move that I’m going to make so that my next 12 months my next while we are going to be different empowering questions? And I don’t know why would people choose not to. But I start my day by asking an empowering question, What can I do? People surrender to this, to the proceedings, don’t surrender, empowering questions will make you rise above those situations. The second insight is given the time so you are in the information, the knowledge, the insights we have, we should be able to pick and choose the beliefs. You want to master beliefs. See the beliefs that are given to us early on in our childhood, all those beliefs are okay, at that time, we were very small, and we did not know we did not have that awareness. But now we do. So we can choose. But the irony is most people end up choosing negative beliefs somehow, the tools are they don’t want to change or whatever it is. But the negative beliefs are, you know, one of the most immediate effects of a negative belief is it makes the mind procrastinate. So you are not in action anymore. You don’t work on yourself, you don’t work on the projects that you otherwise shouldn’t be working on. It just pushes you behind, and you’ll be left out of the game. So start questioning the beliefs that you have. If you choose on the other side, you choose a positive belief.

Now you have confidence. Now you have heightened self-esteem, you now have an agenda you now have or outcome centric, and all those things fall in place. So choose the belief. For example, I don’t know why I should do this because my time is over. I’m will retire I’m going to be done anyway, you know, this is how life is gonna be anyway, I didn’t do much anyway. So why should I deal with this? I meet people who tell me that all the time. The exact opposite of that is, hey, what if it clicks? What if it’s true, nothing happened to me? But what if now that I have no apps, I’ve seen the world I’ve gained experience? Now I have some leverage. What if my next move is going to completely undo or will undo everything that happened to me last 2030 4050 years? Empowering belief right that you see how I shifted. So the one technique to do this is let’s say a thought crosses your mind. I think I’m very lazy today. I don’t know why am I doing all this. Okay? Reverse the word every word every negative word in your thought just reverse it. But I’m lazy today. I’m feeling lazy today. No, I’m feeling energetic today. Okay, see that? That lazy up just takes anything and takes the opposite Why should I do this? Why should I do this? Nothing happened for me, maybe something happened for me. There’s no proof that something is not going to happen for me. Right? So the point is you can choose, and you gotta choose the right beliefs otherwise you nobody, you cannot succeed. The period doesn’t matter how many skills you have, or how many talents you have, you’re not going to make it. promise, I promise. I’ve seen this enough to tell you this. And I’m pretty old. I’ve seen a lot. Okay, I’m not saying I’ve seen everything. I’ve seen a lot of work with people a lot. I know this.

The last one is, I’ve seen people build motivation. But I think the right motivation is important. He got to really understand the motivation that you’re choosing, see people choose the wrong motivation, like or the build wrong motivation. I want to lose weight because my friend is losing weight. Now, I want to make money because if I have my cousin’s made money, the incorrect motivation I want to make or I want to build or I want to lose, or I want to, whatever you want to is because you really want to, I want to make more money, because I want to impact more people, I want to make more money because I can do charity I can do I can create, I can invent I can, I can literally, and part of me making more money is that not only have the autonomy, I have the freedom, but I also have an impact. And the impact is the primary driver for my making money. If you shift that and you go, the motivation is if I just want to make money because I can pay my bills. Now you have a problem. Because you know, you’re chasing, and you know that that kind of you know, motivation is now you know, you lose out in the long run. And that’s why people lose out people like I’m meeting my friends like, Oh, I’m 5152 5355 I don’t have motivation. I want to retire. What are you talking about retirement, don’t use a life had not started yet? Literally, if you’re 55 or 60, or live, you didn’t use all 60 years was just elementary school. Okay, this is the time for you to really make it happen. This is the beginning of the spot and you’re trying to you’re giving up already. I don’t know.

Okay, so those are the three things. I want you to surrender to the idea of asking empowering questions, mastering beliefs, and seeking great motivation. If not, you know, you can’t have a rewarding life. You can’t build you can’t maximize 2023 or any year. Doesn’t matter. You can’t maximize. It’s going to be challenging. It’s going to be hard. Okay, I don’t want to sound like that, but I have to. I’m a coach. Okay, I want to stop here you go. Enjoy your Thursday. Get ready for Friday. And before you know it, I’ll be with you. Stay tuned.