People, Pathways & Potholes

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Welcome to Success with Srini, today the January 25. Year 2022. A happy Tuesday morning to you. Yesterday on the podcast, I talked about how our thoughts, design or destiny. And I said or thoughts, or words or words of create or actions or actions create our habits or habits create our character and our character designs, our destiny. So thought to design of the destiny are interlinked incredible code. Unbelievable when I first heard it, I was young, I couldn’t make any sense of it. But today as I progress through life stages, this code profound.

Now, let’s take this code and just zoom in into your situation, my situation. You see, we all are saying, I may have a business, you may have a job, maybe you’re retired, maybe you’re a student still trying to figure out your career path. And we are in different timelines. But we are humans, we are the same. We all deal with the same issues. I deal with community issues, I deal with weather, I deal with politics, taxes, all kinds of stuff. You also deal with the same, maybe you are not dealing with all of them. But depending upon the stage you are in right now in life, you could end up dealing with all this. At the same time, we are bound by the rules of this universe by which we all are. But there is something about you that distinct. Something about me that is very different, which is my set of beliefs and values are different than your set of beliefs and values.

Life is neutral

With the set of beliefs and values, we happen to life. Life’s not happening to us, we are happening to life, life is neutral. It’s not positive or negative, it’s neutral. It’s what we make of it. So we thought beliefs and values, we create problems with the same beliefs and values, of course, different beliefs and values, we find solutions to our problems.

So if a set of beliefs and values are creating problems for you, you know, you realize and then you look for a solution. As a part of the solution, you need to now change some beliefs, change some values. So the problem goes away. And as you continue to live, you continue to create more problems. As they say, life is a problem. A baby, just born three seconds ago has a problem. Somebody who is about to leave this earth, in next three seconds, still has a problem. Wherever there is life, there is a problem. But the beauty of this life is it’s a privilege to be in this position.

Being humans like this, having this intelligence, having this set of emotions and ability to analyze our own actions, our own behavior, it’s a privilege only given towards humans. And we also carry the privilege of finding solutions to our problems. Amazing.

Okay, let’s stop there for a second. Let’s zoom in into your situation. See today, depending upon what you are trying to do, you have a job, you have a business, you will meet clients, you’ll meet your partners, you’ll meet your suppliers, different situations that we all are in today, you want to meet people. Remember yesterday podcast, I talked about having the mindset of pure intent, like a pure thought you will meet people who are trying to achieve something today. Big or small goals doesn’t matter. They’re also they have some outcomes that they have in their mind. And you also have some outcomes in your mind that you want to accomplish today. Now, every time somebody wants to do something, somebody has a job to do. Somebody has a business to do. They are on a pact. They are on a path. Now this path every time somebody is on a path, there are hurdles, some are visible, some are invisible. Your job with your intent with a pure thought is to help these people overcome these hurdles. That’s it. That’s your job. That’s the job that you do. You do not know this. That’s the job y’all do. Somebody asked me long time ago, this is my story. Somebody asked me what do you do? Srini. You’re a coach. You’re a trainer. You’re a speaker? I said, Yeah, I do many more things. I do a radio show. I do seminars, I do workshops. But really, as I started thinking more, because I was getting this question more frequently. What do I do?

As it becoming obvious to me that it was less than less than what I do. But as a result of what I’m doing what happens to people that matters. So after about 10, 15 years, I simplified this, the statement instead of writing a whole big bio, I said I turn around people. I turn on people so some people have challenges along the way. I turn them around. And I do that through coaching, through training, through mentoring, all that stuff. But even then, even though I got that one line answer. But still, it was not something that I could connect to. I cannot do but I don’t connect to because depending upon where I’m philosophically, sometimes I need to have a better answer or a bigger, deeper answer meaningful answer.

I sell you to you

So, here’s what I found out over these years in recent times that I sell you to you. So I’m in a sales job I sell you to you. So when somebody comes to me, and they say, I’m going to struggle, I’m going to this pain, I’m going to the suffering, what do I need to do? Uninformed coach or less experienced coach or somebody who has not gone through life themselves. Their suggestion would be, let me find a solution to this client’s problem. They have this problem, let me find the solution. So coaches and therapists and mentors, they’re driven to just find the solution. Not all, but a lot of them that I’ve seen. That’s not what the client is looking. That’s not what anybody who you are encountering today, they are not looking for that. See, your job is not to provide the solution to somebody who is on a path to a goal where they are facing an hurdle. Because you don’t know that hurdle. But you want to fill a passenger yourself on the same path. Maybe your job is to lend a helping hand.
When you flip the narrative in that way, in your mind, suddenly your role in the company doesn’t matter. The title you carry doesn’t matter. The significance that you demand doesn’t matter. What matters is whether you’re a participant in the proceedings, and can you lead the participation? Can you lead the proceedings? That’s what matters. I hope I’m coming across.

Once people started calling me and I was going through this and doing consultations and all. The core question was this. They were not calling for a solution. They were going through suffering and they wanted a way, if I could take the suffering of the obviously, but then there was something else they were seeking. And that is that, can I instill confidence in them? Can I instill possibility in them? That’s it.

Now whether we get to the solution or not, it’s a whole different story. But they’re seeking the confidence that yes, I can deal with it. Yes, possible. I can do it. Srini, can you provide a little bit of help? Can you instill this in me, ever since I shifted my narrative, in my mind, they’re looking for confidence, they’re looking for possibility. My whole thing changed. I have several of my coaching clients, I keep telling them, ask them what you do. And I know I’m a broker, I sell houses. And that’s why people reach out to me. They don’t, they’re not reaching out to you, because you sell houses, they’re reaching out to you because they want their house that day, or going through pain living in apartments and losing their money, and just not building an asset. So they’re coming to solve a problem. As a good broker, or, as an agent, your job is to understand the underlying pain.
When you understand the underlying pain, suddenly the conflict goes away, the friction goes away. Boss is yelling at you at work, or your spouse is yelling at you, your partner is yelling at you. It’s a cry for help, seriously Sakai for help. And you come across a new start back again with a higher, much bigger volume bigger aperture with your voice and getting back at them much more louder than they are guess what happens? They even short more. Every approach ends with a slam door. When the motion dissipates, you go into different rooms, the rooms close. That’s it. Every uproar ends with a slam door. So what is that? That you as a dentist, chiropractor, broker, software engineer, homemaker, what is it that you need to do? So that these people who are on the path to success, this could be your son, this could be a daughter, this could be your husband, your wife, they are on the path to that goal?

What is that you can do to remove the hurdles that facing because you don’t know the solution. And the way you do that is buying, instilling confident possibility. But before that, and you do that, by using certain words, you see that this is where the words come in. This is why I believe in you, I trust you. I support you, I am with you. When you use these words in any conversation, it empowers people.

People are seeking certainty from you

So what people are seeking is not solutions to the problems. They are seeking certainty from you. If you can instill the feeling of certainty into them, then they become unstoppable. Then they succeed you succeed. I’m perplexed by how people run to solve the problems without understanding this very core principle. Of course when people come to you, and they ask you for solutions to the problems, you need to gather intelligence, you need to understand them who they are what they do, you have to build rapport. That’s true.

But then the most important part they’re seeking is not a solution to the problem. But the certainty, which comes when you instill confidence and belief and possibility in them. So when you affirm their beliefs, that’s when success happens.
So today, my challenge to you is, when you meet people, wherever they are going. At work, in your business, wherever they are, I want you to create certainty for them. Don’t have confusing discussions, don’t participate in negative conversations, don’t create chaos to that which they already are having. I have been a consultant to many corporations, I’ve been in many hallways, during tea break or whatever. I overheard conversations and people have engaged in conversations in the break room during having coffee in the lunch room. And I have negated any conversation within which I was not contributing towards instilling their some kind of confidence or possibly into them.

They dragged me into politics, they dragged me into some kind of war between countries, any conversation, I completely detach myself. And I said, No, I’m here, Because you are on a path. You want to get to a goal. I want to help you get there. I will remove any kinds of kind of indecision from you. And I’m going to instill possibility into you. That’s my mindset. So I want you to do that. And I want you to see how suddenly now you’re controlling the environments. Amazing when you do this. I’m gonna stop here. This is a logical point to take a break. I’ll be back here again tomorrow. We continue this conversation.

Hopefully this is helping. If it is, let me know. Just text me, my number is 888-818-0404. You have a question for me, let me know. But then, this is how we design outcomes. This is how we design our destiny, by design the destiny of others, so easy to use words and influence positive changes in people. It’s very powerful. That’s all for now. You take care.

Thoughts Are Things

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Welcome, or welcome back to a Success with Srini, a daily podcast on human design, human engineering, human excellence. Today is the January 24 2022, which is a Monday. So Happy Monday morning to you. Monday is the start of the week, you are going back to work, same work, new work, same business, new business, vacation, whatever you have, for this week. Monday should set the trajectory.

For this week. For me, it’s the podcast, this is something that I’ve been trying to do literally every day. And my goal today is to set the trajectory for the remainder of the episodes so high that you as a podcast listener, you as a subscriber, you as my friend, you should listen to tomorrow’s podcast and Wednesday’s this podcast and Thursday’s podcast.

We know something about podcasting or radio shows or seminars, you know, when you keep doing something over a long period of time, fatigue sets in, decline in quality happens, declining thoughts happen. People think the same thing he keeps on saying over and over again in a different way. That’s the challenge I deal with. How can I come here and I do a podcast that is refreshing, that’s new, that’s different. How can I have better openers? How can I have better storytelling? How can I provide new data in a different way? Where do I collect? How do I research my challenges? So Monday, this is what’s happening in my mind as I’m doing this.

I want to share something with you today that will set the trajectory for your remain of this week. And if you take it into your heart will set the trajectory for the rest of your life.

As a 17 year old, I read this and it changed my trajectory. I promise you. Every time I come here, every time I talk about a book or a qoute, or someone I keep saying that they changed my life. This qoute changed my life, that book changed my life. I keep saying that. And I truly mean it. I’m not fabricating this, I’m not making it up. This is the truth. So this qoute change in my life. “Be careful of your thoughts, because they become your words. Be careful of your words, because they become your actions. Be careful of your actions, because they become your habits. Be careful of your habits, because they become your character. Be careful of your character, because it becomes your destiny.” You see the connection between your thoughts and destiny.

So as you step into work today, and whatever you’re stepping into, be careful with those thoughts. You don’t have purity in the thought you don’t have clarity in the thought you don’t have depth in the thought you don’t have the width in the thought, you’re not crafting your destiny. So if I don’t have this thought, I can’t craft this podcast. I can’t say these things.

People are moved by the depth of your conviction, rather than the height of your knowledge.

Here’s what I found out. People are moved by the depth of your conviction, rather than the height of your knowledge. Don’t tell anyone what qualifications you have, which degree you have. We are all human to what all you accumulate, it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how many books I keep telling I have hundreds of books in my house, how does it matter to you? It doesn’t. I have hundreds of podcast episodes, how does it matter? It doesn’t. 400,000 People listen to my radio show. Complete nonsense. Honestly. How does it matter? It matters. If I say something that’s going to impact you directly. Otherwise, it doesn’t matter. It’s all fake. Otherwise, you see.

“Thoughts are things”

So when you step into work today, whatever that work you are doing, what is the thought? Prentice Mulford said, “Thoughts are things”, he wrote a whole book in 1926, I have it, a physical copy of it. Thoughts are things. Everything that you’re seeing around you was a thought. Look at this beautiful building that you’re working in the beautiful house that you live in. It was a thought, somebody thought, why can’t you think? You know, by the way, as I’m doing this, I have no reference. These are completely embedded into my subconscious as I’m doing this podcasts, nothing. There’s no reference, even by said research, no research. It’s already there. You see it’s already there.

Everything that you have done, speaks through you

It’s a wonderful state to be in within which everything that you have done, speaks through you. You’re not speaking, speaks through you. So my message to you is this you step in today into whatever situation you’re stepping in, see what can you do to raise the quality of that meeting? How can you elevate the status for meeting the highest level possible? What all can you individually do to people in that meeting? What can you collectively do for the people in that meeting?

How can you take everybody? Some people lack something, we all lack something. Some people may not meet your standards, some people may not appeal to you. What can you do? To take them along with you to the outcome? You see, step in with this mindset. Tell me, towards the end of the week, have your week planned out? How is it possible that you walk in with this mindset into a situation and do not come out with a win? See, the win is not tangible people are looking? If I do this with you, will you pay me something? Will you do the transaction with me? Will I make money with this? There are the universe runs on invisible returns. Returns are not direct. So there’s always a gain, when the mindset is right.

Thank you, is the best prayer that anyone can say.

Alice Walker said, “Thank you, is the best prayer that anyone can say.” I said that one a lot. Thank you expresses extreme gratitude, humility and understanding. So what is the thought that you should walk in today into any situation that you are going to walk into? The thought of Thank you. If the thought of thank you is there, the word Thank you will come from your mouth. You see words modify the source before they modify the target, every word that I say here, modifies me, this podcast is for me to start the day. The byproduct is your likes, your comments, your sharing. All that is a byproduct and you’re listening is a byproduct. Primarily dismissed modifying me before it is modifying anyone.

I hope today’s podcast sets you on the trajectory to success that you are seeking this week. I’ll come back tomorrow, we’ll continue this conversation. You see, success is a daily thing. It’s a daily grind. I wish there was a permanent destination of success. That’s all for now. Wherever you are, start, maybe you’re listening to this on a Tuesday or Wednesday. Consider this to be a Monday for you and start the grind. With that mindset. Go into any situation with that mindset. And tell me after a week what happens to you. I promise you, it’s invisible to you. It’s invisible to me, but your destiny is slowly shifting as you do this. Take care.

Do Introverts Make Successful Entrepreneurs

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Welcome, or welcome back to Success with Srini. Today is the January 23, 2022. Its a Sunday, happy Sunday morning to you. Today on the podcast, I am answering a question that came in sometime in August of last year. I played this question on my radio show. I answered the question there. But then the recording of the radio show never made it back into this podcast. So Shiva who is asking this question, probably never got the answer. First, let’s get to the question. And I’m gonna come back and come with the answer.

“Hi, Srini. My name is Shiva. I want to ask you a question like, is this entrepreneurship skills is only for extroverts or can introverts like me who can get into this and can excel at this entrepreneurship?” If you can play my question, and you can answer in some episode. Thank you. Bye.”

Thank you Shiva for the question. And again, sorry for not answering this in a timely manner for you. But hopefully today’s podcast episode will help.

Introverts rule the world

I think introverts rule the world. I think you look at Bill Gates, you look at Warren Buffett, you look at Elon Musk, they all are introverts, and they are ruling the world. So I wouldn’t disqualify myself from entrepreneurship, because I think I’m an introvert. And here is what I think about myself. For a long time, I believe that I was an introvert and I have a podcast episode that I did a few weeks ago specifically talking about it.

It takes a lifetime to discover who we are

Sometimes we get tagged by people around us as who we are. And it takes a while for us. It takes a lifetime to discover who we are. So I was raised in an introvert culture. But I did feel that I was an extrovert because I had some traits for a while. And I went through a lot of tests myself, when I got into speaking, training, coaching, and I was trying to discover myself. So for a while, I thought I was an omnivert, and then I came back and I found out that I’m an ambivert, using a proper balance between being an extrovert and an introvert.

So we have everything within us. And the media tells you that if you are this way, then you will succeed. If you’re not this way, then you will not succeed. When you look at any business and entrepreneurship specifically, historically, a business was divided between a motherly function and a fatherly function, a fatherly function within which you have sales marketing to the fatherly functions treated as fatherly functions because their outward and motherly functions are engineering research, product creation, all that stuff.

And then you also have some brotherly or sisterly functions like HR and customer service to that bodily functions, but primarily motherly functions and fatherly functions. And the reason why that was that way. Because that’s what families used to be. Mostly, I was raised in a complementary family structure, like in a complementary relationship. Father does what he does, mother does what she does, Mother handles the kitchen, and the house father goes out and does what he does. So they complement each other. But the times that we are in those relationships, they have become symmetric.

Anyone and everyone could do anything, doesn’t matter who you are.

You could have been sales and marketing, you could have been customer service, you could be in engineering, you could be in product research, design, all of that. So I don’t see introverts not fitting in or fitting in in a certain way. And extroverts not fitting in or fitting in a certain way. Just because you’re loud doesn’t mean that you make the point. I could spend next 30 minutes on this podcast and miss out making a point, what’s the point? Right?

So I think introverts are incredible listeners. I think they are incredible thinkers, because of these two things that also observing. And they also net worth well better than the extroverts. So you combine listening, thinking, observing, networking, suddenly now you have those are the four mandatory attributes of a visionary. There are many more but then those are, at least they stand out. So suddenly, you have a visionary. So you go back and look into Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, you look into Roosevelt, nine Stein, they all were introverts and they, they change the world.

Don’t disqualify yourself

So I think don’t disqualify yourself saying that you are an introvert and you cannot succeed, you will. And there is proof already. And thanks to the Creative Economy That within which we are in today. That is tremendous amount of information flowing and creators coming and influence us are coming from all different spheres of life. You could be totally silent, totally alone totally away, completely removed from the facts of the world. And you could be creating magic.

I hope I answered your question. I think. And if not, let me know. I hope I answered your question. Hope this motivates you hope that inspires you. All the best with your entrepreneurial journey. I look forward to hearing your story.

Thank you.