2023 Life Changes – 9 Things I’m Going To Do Differently

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I’m going to start the podcast today with a disclaimer. And the disclaimer is that if you are a regular listener of this podcast, then today’s podcast episode is something that is not new. This is a repeat podcast, even though I’m recording this fresh. So there are discussions happening via email via text messages about some of my recent podcast episodes where I was talking about the new year coming up 2023 is just six weeks away less than six weeks away. So we are entering a new year. And I talked about some goals set I talked about things that need to happen. Now, if they have not yet happened this year, so you had some goals for this year, but you did not accomplish them. Time is running out, you need to act now. And I had talked about it multiple times across multiple episodes.

But today, I want to share with you something that I am doing pretty aggressively leading into the next year, the new year. This is something that is not mine. This is something that I read somewhere I took notes. So I claim absolutely no credibility or rather claim on this. That’s the right word claim on this. But I do claim that I have implemented this multiple times over the years. And I’ve gotten some success, even though I should have gotten much more. Hence, I am going even harder on this like even giving more to this, this principle. So if I have to sum up the entire life, all success across all areas of life has to sum it up. These nine things are necessary for anyone. So you are a school student listen to this, you are a homemaker, you are a professional, you are a retiree, you are trying to figure out what you want to do with your life, doesn’t matter where you are, these nine things are going to be applicable to you. And these nine things need to be worked on. I’m working on it. As I said, I tried this several years ago, nearly 14 years ago. And I kept on improving one was improving the other was kind of going out of my hands. So for 2023, I’m committing myself even more by giving more time to this by giving more effort to this. So here is what I’m doing.

Okay, so let’s get into this number one. Sleep well. There are chances that you are not sleeping well. Nine out of 10 people I talked to do not sleep well. Sleep is the only single biggest tweak that you can make that can completely change outcomes across the board. Literally, sleep. Okay, how long do you have to sleep, how deep do you have to sleep? I’ve done numerous podcast episodes here. There are, I mean interviews. Literally, I’ve spoken to experts on the topic of sleep, and I have shared how sleep can be manipulated using hypnosis. I mean, there’s a lot of content here, at least on this podcast. And of course, there are incredible other podcasts by other people who talk about sleep, I’m going to be working on improving my sleep. So starting in 2023, I’m going to be changing my bedroom, I’m changing the mattress, and I’m going to get this new device that controls the temperature of the bed called bed Jack. I’ve been getting, I’m seeing a lot of reviews, and people are talking about it online. So I decided to get a back jet to improve the quality of my sleep. I’m going to do that. So that’s my commitment to myself. So sleep fell. That’s the point, figure out whatever you have to do on your site.

The second one is you got to hold your temper, no matter how, how much you can control your anger. You can do better. And I have lately seen myself even though I’ve been working on my temper for a long time. Lately, seeing that there are some situations that are some circumstances if I encountered them, or I find myself in those situations and circumstances. I tend to lose my temper. So I’m working on it. That’s a commitment I’m making for myself. In 2023 Not I don’t need to wait for that I’m working on it now. third on the list is to lead a life where you have no worries. Somehow you get there, do whatever you have to do. But get yourself to a position where there are no worries. Because its energy, its effort. It’s an expense. The more you think about something that is not happening, the chances are nine out of your 10 worries are not going to happen anyway. So why think about them? Why expense yourself for them? The next one, learn to laugh. I’m learning to laugh. I don’t. But I’m, I don’t laugh enough. But I’m learning to laugh. I’m trying to bring more humor into my conversations. I’m relearning some aspects of humor. Humor is a learnable skill. By the way, not some people are born with it. But you can learn to really understand timing, understand rhythm, have a conversation, inject yourself and say certain things in a way that you make other people laugh in the process you also love. The next one is eliminating harmful habits. If I take anybody who claims to have absolutely no harmful habits, they say that they have full control over their habits. If I spent 24 hours with them, I’ll find something in them, that is invisible to them, but visible to me.

So there are things that you are doing that are invisible to you but are visible to others. So your job is to ask them, Hey, what is that I’m not able to see that you can see and ask for their feedback and their help to take out those self-debilitating or disturbing habits, harmful habits, eliminate them, not just identify them. So once you identify what they are, you got to really put a plan and go after them, kind of take them out from your system, then the next one is sensible eating, I have not been as sensible with my diet lately, which I want to change, I want to bring in more meaning more structure, more understanding more involvement, and removing my unconscious mind and thinking about food consciously. Most people don’t. And I also do not, but I’m changing that. Going into 2023 Exercise has been a challenge. And I was very fit at the beginning of this year. And slowly, it went away. Starting from the middle of this year, I’m going back and working out even more getting back my shape, my posture, my composure, and all that. So exercise. That’s the next one, followed by love people. love people. The lesson, no matter how much you love, you can do more. And there is no success without loving people.

You can seclude yourself, you can make yourself separate from everybody. But you can’t you neither will be happy nor you will create anything, and you will not have joy and fulfillment. And all that which we crave for as humans we crave for. So because we have to live with people, why should we spend time finding faults in them? Because nobody is perfect anyway. And we don’t we are not given any superpower to judge people. Because we can’t judge and we can’t fix what’s the point of criticizing? So if I can’t criticize, let’s say, then this is the only option that’s left is to love them. So one of my is funny, I say this, but one of my goals for 2023 is to love people. You know, listen, either you have empathy or you don’t have empathy. I mean, either you love you don’t love that said, you know, it’s very difficult to do because I think I have it. I’m looking to expand it. That’s it. Okay, I think I do love people. So because I think I know I do, I’m gonna expand I’m gonna go deep, deeper into it. But how to explain this to somebody who hates people? It’s I don’t know, it’s very hard to explain this to them. The next one on the list is learning to play.

Learn to play. So don’t take pole positions. People take positions in situations and in different aspects of life. Now, this is what it is. And this is how I see this. This is where I stand this is how it’s going to be it’s my way or highway don’t become the goalpost. I become the player. And don’t pick up the ball, either you got a ball that will be kicked around. To become the player and learn to play the game by the rules. And you’ll be healthy, you’d be a giant. And you’ll enjoy it. So learn to play, okay, in anything in life, just not only in games but in any aspect, of life will just learn to play. So these nine things are dominant in my mind. And these nine things are not new. I talked about them multiple times on this podcast. And these nine things are not from me, this is from a book, I don’t know which book but I took notes. I’m simply reading those notes, the set, I know it’s going to be helpful to you. I know. Somebody who will listen, or who is listening to this podcast for the very first time will still benefit from this. I know that.

So these are the things I had on my mind. And that brings us to the conclusion of today’s podcast episode. I hope you like this. If you do, do me a favor, write me a review, read the podcast, and share it with a friend or a family member. And go start your Monday in a great way. It’s a new week, one of those six weeks that are left for us in 2022. So go make the best of it. And I’m going to be with you as early as tomorrow. Stay tuned. Bye now.

My Top 3 Books To Read Again Before 2022 Ends

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Today’s podcast episode is going to be a little different, has a refreshing angle to it. Because what I’m doing now on this podcast has never done this before. So today’s podcast episode is for you, if you are a reader, you believe in reading. And you believe in reading books, not listening, reading. And you also in your heart, you know, that you can gather more wisdom, knowledge information that is already there in the books. And books are the perfect medium for you to enlighten yourself. And if you believe in that thought, then today’s podcast is for you. So here’s what I’m doing. I’m sharing with you three books that I read as often as possible. And a majority of the podcast episodes here, and everything I’m talking here, everything I’m talking on air, every, every time I’m deep, I’m dealing with people’s problems and situations, and I’m working with individuals everywhere. The knowledge and wisdom from these books have dominated my mind. And the reason why I’m sharing that now and today are that I these three books, and I’m rereading them before the end of this year one more time. There are many books that I reread. Sometimes I read for information.

The first time around for information second time around for knowledge, the third time around for reference, fourth time around because I’m in putting in a situation I really want to deal somebody with somebody’s problem or with my own problem. And I know that that book has the answer somewhere. So I have to go back again and read it every time I read, I derive a different meaning from the same content. So that is what a good reader does, is read the same thing and derive a different meaning. So here are the three books I’m going to I’m not going to go into each one of these books, because these books are there in the in literally in the public domain, not public domain, but in the front. And it’s there. You might have seen these books at the bookstore, or you might have seen them online, there is nothing that I need to talk about these books. So the first book, on which I’ve done multiple podcasts here is called the PSYCHO CYBERNETICS by Maxwell Maltz. The more I read this book, the more I feel, I’m inadequate, and the more I feel a deep emptiness within my heart. The more I read this book, there’s something about this book that I do not know I lack words when I talk about this incredible book, game changer, a life changer for me personally. And this book has changed many more people’s lives. Ever since it came out. I think it came out in 1960. And ever since it has been a number one selling book, always on the top 10 bestseller list ever. Crazy. This book is amazing. I’m gonna read it this book again this year, I’m telling you because I want you to read, okay, it’s very simple. The second one is thinking Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, the book that started the self-improvement revolution, practically speaking, if you ever want to become serious about self-improvement, and you want to become serious about your thinking, you want to become rich, you want to grow, all Think and Grow Rich, is that the name of the book, but each one of those words individually, is the reason why you need to read this book. So you want to think big think better.

The first word is thought, grow, you want to grow yourself. You grow emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, whatever ways you want to grow yourself. If you have read this book, and you want to become rich, then obviously, read this book, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. That’s the second book. And the third book, which actually is the first book on my list. And this is a book that. I mean, I don’t know how many times I have read this book. This is a book that I would make it compulsory in school. This is a book that will make it compulsory in college. I’m going to give this book to married couples. I’m going to give this book to people in relationships. I’m going to give this book to somebody who just lost their partner just lost their business or just is about to lose their life. This is the book I’m going to give them. This book has answers to some of your deepest and most difficult questions. This book has answers to your questions that you cannot ask yourself and you’re left alone. Forget about you asking somebody else that’s how deep this book is. Man’s The Search for Meaning Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl, get this book, read it. If you come with a problem, and you consult me, which I’m not asking you to, but I’m just giving you a frame, of how I’m thinking, every time anybody who came up to me and told me that I have a problem that I’m dealing with, I’m suffering through this, I don’t know what to do the tried different solutions, different techniques, nothing is working. I tell them, I have told them, nothing I will do will work either. And the solution is in this $10 book, go read this book, I just give that book to them. So many people, I bought this book I gifted, just literally gifted this book away. So many listeners on my radio show, when I used to do book drawers, I used to send books to people, which I still do. I give this book away. Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl, I believe the second third fourth fifth book, the best book was ever written. I don’t know which one is the first one yet. I’ve done a podcast on this also talking about this book, too. So these are the three books I’m reading this year. One more time, this is these books will give me the footprint, the platform, the grounding, the elevation, the flight, and everything I need to really start my 2023 in a big way. Don’t look at this as 2023 and 2022. That’s not the point here we are doing. I’m doing this podcast. And we are right now here at this time of our lives on this date. But doesn’t matter if you listening to this and yet 2029 Do the same. I started reading these books just about four years ago. I try to catch them at least once a year. And this year, I’m catching Man’s Search for Meaning for the third time this year. If I do not if for sure, I’ll read this year. And I want you to tell me if these three books were helpful to you. And how many of these three you are able to read this year before the end of this year? So I’m challenging you to read this year. I’m challenging you to reread them this year.

That is the idea of this podcast episode. And that’s all I had. Have a wonderful, incredible Sunday. And tomorrow. I’ll be here. Brand new week, the Thanksgiving week. And I have several other questions that I have to answer and some other of my own ideas that I want to share with you. So stay tuned, appreciate you, being a listener, appreciate you being a subscriber. And you’re finding value here. You’re finding anything good that I’m sharing with you? Not all of that I’m sharing is good, I understand. But at least if you find some value in it, do write a review, do rate this podcast. And that way I can reach some more people. That’s all for now. Keep listening. Talk to you soon. Bye now.

90-275: My Coaching Template For Success

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Welcome back to Success with Srini. Happy Saturday morning to you, as I’m recording the podcast. I’m actually recording this a day early. I’m recording this on the 18th. And I’m doing that because as a part of the 18th podcast, I had a thought I had an idea that I wanted to share with you a principle or a formula for success in the new year. And I said that I mentioned that on the podcast. But then because I was recording it in podcast anyways like I was done with it. And I continued to record for 19.

So you should be listening to this on November 19, a Saturday as this podcast is coming out. But this is recorded yesterday the 18th. Okay, I want to make that clear to you so that you know that I’m not really recording this life, okay? I want to share with you a formula or a principle, an approach, or a template, whichever way you want to call it. It’s called 90 to 75. Okay, that’s the formula, this formula, or this template that I have used for the last three, or four years now. I’m a little bit more than that, since 2018, specifically started in 2018, four years, four years now. And entering into the fifth year. This template is so incredible. And I tried this across six coaching clients in 2018 2019 and 2020 2021. I did not personally coach anyone, and in 2022, I did not, I’m sorry 2021. I did 2022, I did not. So for three years, I have successfully tested this across 1820 individuals, I’ve seen this work. And I’m sharing that today here because I need some time you need some time to put this template into your life. And this template is essential if you really want to take charge of your life starting the month of January 1, January, but the first of January, ideally. Okay, so let me break this 90 to 75 template, step by step. Here’s how this works. If you take the entire 365 days, then we are talking in two chunks, we’re talking the first 90 days, and then the next 275 days. Okay, first 90 days, next 275 days, if we take 90 days out the remainder two santur days in my life working with people, I’ve come across two kinds of people, people who say that, tell me whatever you want to tell me or shared with me, here’s my problem. And I’m going to take my time to figure this out. So I put them in the 275 categories, then I have people who tell me that I have some time I can put in the effort. I want to get things done. Can you tell me how this is going to work? So these are aggressive, these are concerned, these are intentional individuals. So I put them in that 90 categories. So they will get the result in 90 days, the 275 categories, will get the result, but they work at their own pace. So this is how this is this is a different mindset. But then you categorize them into different categories.

Now, let’s say you want to put obviously for ask the question, do you want to get to 75 or do you want to be 90, your answer is going to be 90, I want to be 90 Because I want to get things done. I’m hoping for 90. Now, the template works very simply. The template is you have to find one area in which you want to create ultimate success in the new year. And ultimate success, maybe business maybe relationships, maybe finances, maybe your job, maybe your vacations, and all that so leisure and or whatever that area is just pick one area where you want to have the maximum outcome with a singular focus. Now I call it and in the coaching setup, I say choose an area that you want to revolutionize you want to drastically it’s so big and so huge that the world will stop and pause for a while you’re doing this. So just one. I’m not saying to have other areas where you have goals, you have some expectations and you have some projects that you want to pursue great, do that, but then choose one area that will stand out. And if you get this right and you do this, it’s going to completely change your game. I’ll give you an example. Let’s say I want to completely revamp my health completely gonna turn around with my health. I’m going to Get back energy, I want to get back my momentum, I’m gonna get back my entire good, just I’m gonna feel good.

So let’s say I’m 200 pounds overweight, I want to lose weight, lose weight, and get back my strength and get back my energy, my stamina, and all that that’s because if I do that, that’s going to completely revolutionize my entire life. And of course, it’s going to impact other areas of life. So I’m going to pick that as an example for the podcast.

Now, what I’ll do is I’m going to set a goal for myself to achieve that in 90 days, starting the first of January. Now, I do not know how I’m going to do it. And I do not my first of January is going to make sense of not. And I don’t want to show up on the first of January, with some lethargy and the same mindset that I have today. So as I’m recording this podcast is November 18. Right? So I don’t want to even though I have the intention to lose weight and get feel better and build my health in the new year. Why should I wait till the first of January to take charge? So I take charge now. So here’s how this works. So you take a three weeks timeline, in this year, three weeks, and three weeks that you choose? So start December 10, go three weeks, start tomorrow, go three weeks, starting November 28, go three weeks, choose three weeks, three weeks, for me, is precisely 21 days. So pick 21 days. And in these 21 days, you will do everything that you think you need to do in some shape or form. I’m not saying you go aggressive, I’m not saying that you need to really, totally dial in. But you do things with your own understanding at your own pace. But you will do. So you will go eat right exercise, sleep, drink water, whatever it is, whatever those basics are, at whatever level that you can do. at your own pace with your own understanding, understanding is the key to your own understanding. You start doing it for three weeks, that’s all, the idea is that you do it for three weeks to get a baseline. The three weeks of this year will define the three months of next year.

The simple three weeks of this year will define the three months of next year, the first three months. So if losing weight, is the goal is what we are talking about here today on the podcast, you’re going to spend the next three weeks, doing all the activities that are related to weight loss. Do you know what those activities are? I’m not going to call them out here on this podcast. But you get to know what it is because you know because you’ve been stuck working and thinking and struggling maybe to lose weight. So why not use whatever you already know, that’s the message here. No need for me to repeat them. While you’re establishing a baseline, you’re doing two things only. You’re assessing at the end of three weeks, will you will get two data points. Clearly, you will get two data points. one data point you will get is consistency. Did I do it consistently? Did I work hard for six days in a week, let’s or five days, or whatever timeline you set did I do? Or I did not do that simply. So consistency will stand out. The second one comes is a capability you will also come to realize your capability. Do you have it in you or you do not have it in you? Or you may have to some extent, may not be the whole extent but to some extent you have some you’re missing.

So you will assess your ability. And you will also understand many other things beyond. We’ll get into that sometime later on. But the idea is I want you to do this alone. Alone. When you’re doing it alone. You’re assessing what you’re doing. Now, these three weeks will tell you going forward when you really start setting deadlines and goals and all that and execution plans and all that now whatever format you’re following, for first of January onwards, you will figure out whether you can do this alone. Or you can do it with help, or you need help, clearly. Now, let’s say you were inconsistent through these three weeks. That means you need an accountability coach. You do not need a subject matter expert coach or a subject matter. Mentor. You need accountability. That’s all you need.

Let’s say you were lacking capability you are consistent but the capability you are lacking, you are showing up every day in the morning at the gym. But somehow you are doing the weights incorrectly, you were doing the treadmill incorrectly. So it’s a capability discussion, you need the abilities of somebody else to argue that which you are lacking. So you need a subject matter expert to come in and tell you how to lift the weights, how to run, how to swim, how to jog all that. And this is very important, you cannot mess this up. I see people messing this up. Some people, Oh, I know what to do, I just need a little bit of accountability. Accountability coaches, there is a range and a variety and a wide spectrum of coaches in any area. But accountability can be replaced easily you can build accountability through your friends and through your partners through your children, I mean, the different accountability techniques you can use to overcome that deficiency. So you’re inconsistent, you can overcome that with a variety of tools, and capabilities. Also, you can overcome with a bunch of tools, but mostly, if you are in a situation where you need capabilities, and also accountability, then and also you need some level of insight and knowledge and all that.

So at that point, you need somebody who can do all these things with you, then we are now talking about a different level of indulgence from a coach or a mentor. The most important part is that you lock these three weeks, these 21 days, and discover yourself. And when you do it, the next 90 days are going to be at the beginning of the year are going to be awesome. You don’t want to be in a situation where you flip the formula. And you spend the next 275 days, starting the new year, trying to figure out what you will do with life, and then show up oh, we are here, this is October 1, and I have only three months. And I’m gonna accomplish all my goals. You don’t want to be there. You don’t want to be there. I’m starting to condense my goals. I’m starting to string the timeline to get more things done in the shortest and slickest timelines I am trying. Of course, I have goals that I want to accomplish in the next 21 days. For myself, I have December goals number goals, I set 90-day goals starting from the first of October.

So there are different things I’m doing. But the key is to follow what I’m doing I’m using this template is more than this template. But I’m just giving you the idea here I’m sharing a 50,000-foot view of this template, how it works, the keys to value the first 90 days and you value those 90 days by valuing the three weeks or 21 days of this year, you live 2022 at a level as if you are already living 2023 That’s the secret. Take this, apply this, and see what you get out of it. And if you are already setting you’re 21 days, let me know to drop me a message, or text me at 888-818-0404. If you already know my email, which is Srini at Srini saripalli.com. Let me know, send me an email letting me know that hey, I’ve started doing this. And I’ll let you know what I’m going to do. Now. Is it possible that you do something completely different for the first 2421 days in this of this year, and then take up something completely different in the first 90 days of next year? I’ve seen people do that some of my coaching clients have done it before. But try to stay away from it. So if you want to change your career in the next 90 days, starting the new year, then work on that part. For three weeks this year.

Okay, so keep that in alignment. Okay, that’s all for now. I’m going to stop here. I want you to put this into play. Let me know how this works out for you. Okay, before you know it, I’ll be with you tomorrow and tomorrow. I have something incredible to share with you because I’m getting this question from a lot of people. And this has to do with reading and the books I’m sharing. I’m giving away some resources on tomorrow’s podcast. So stay tuned. Keep listening. Thank you.