Manage Stress To Protect Your Future

Here is the complete transcript of the podcast

Good morning, everyone. Welcome back to Success with Srini. Trust, your long weekend is going great. Today, I was thinking, you know, what should I do so many thoughts in my mind. And I was kind of thinking, about which way should I take the podcast, I went back to my inbox, and my email had not been working for some time had been some issues with it. And we moved the hosting servers and all but then I went to my archives. And as I was scanning through the inbox, I was looking for some questions to answer. Some emails, I could not access some. But I was able to find one email that I thought I answered on the podcast, but turns out I have not. So I thought I’m gonna take some time today on the podcast, and I’m gonna answer the question. And this has to do with stress. And from a very elite performer, somebody who, who I know somebody who is doing some incredible stuff within their field, and asking about stress, not because, you know, in, in different stages of his life, he has experienced stress. But then he started to get worried now, thinking that the kind of opportunities, the kinds of responsibilities he’s going to take on from this point, he’s worried at the stress that these indicators of stress, may completely cripple him. That’s the question. And he explains in the question, it’s a very interesting question.

He says I do a lot of things to deal with my stress, and nothing seems to work, or it’s working. And I don’t think it’s working at the level that I want it to work. I have followed many of your suggestions, I do a lot of yoga. And I also have a good eating schedule, a tight schedule. I drink a lot of green tea. And I don’t exercise a lot, but I do walk. And occasionally, I also do massages, and I’m an overall happy man. But somehow I’m feeling the pressure of stress taking over. In whatever projects he’s doing. Anyway. So that’s the gist of this email. And the question he’s asking is, Will hypnosis work? Okay, so that’s where the question ends. Okay, so first of all, I don’t want you to be hard on yourself, I think you’re doing all the right things. It’s not about winning over stress, it’s more about managing stress. So stress is a given, it’s a factor. It’s like, you have weather, you have traffic, you have taxes, you have family, children, everything you have. And this is also one of those things, this is invisible. This doesn’t stand in front of you. It’s not like a shadow that follows you everywhere. But it in a way does shine, at least you have an image of the shadow. But stress is an integral part of existence, we need to make friends with stress. So this is given, there are no second thoughts about this question becomes says, how much can we do internally, such that we don’t get overly impacted by stress? What can we do internally, to not get impacted by stress?

So you’re getting stressed out by thinking about the opportunity you have ahead of you. And even though you’re successful doing what you’re doing, you’re worried about what’s going to happen. So I think if this is this is more about worry, then this is about stress. And I think you’re over-projecting yourself into the end outcome. And getting worried about it, I wouldn’t do it. If I were in your situation, I would take if you’re a true practitioner of yoga, meditation, and everything that you’re doing, then I would let go, a part of that is letting go. So I let go, I will let go of my inhibitions. I would let go of my preconceived notions about things, situations, and projects that I’m working on. I would simply exist. And that is one of the core lessons of self-improvement is to exist. Of course, you have to have the pursuit, that’s what’s given. But you got to exist, you got to be in the moment, and you got to stay with it. When you try to pace yourself in your thoughts and think about what’s going to happen to you a month or a year or 10 years from now. Then now you’re not in pace with the moment. So now there’s going to be some level of the current the present moment demands a certain side of you and that side of you is not available to it. So there are some penalties that you have to pay because This moment is going to inflict some damage on you. So this is about managing your thoughts and ignoring the body as much. Now, will hypnosis help? That’s the question the answer is yes, you know, any mind-mending technique helps. And to think that you’re doing something, and it’s not working, and going on to something else, which is more or less identical. And expecting that to work. I don’t think it’s smart. I don’t think it’s good thinking. So I would continue to do what you’re doing, and not worry about hypnosis and other things. These are, you know, they have a, they do play a role, and they have a place, but then I think they should be somewhere else. So if I categorize everything that you said in the email, then there are three buckets into which I can put everything that you said, the first bucket is escaped, okay, and I came up with this hot meal a long time ago, by the way. So first is called Escape. So every time somebody is under stress, they want to escape. So what people do, and you’ll see people doing now, a lot since everything has come back to normal after COVID, is people going on vacations.

So people escape from the reality for some time, which is good. But the problem is the comeback of that reality. So if you’re using hypnosis, I’ll tell you where hypnosis helps in this specific case you can escape the reality in your mind. And you don’t need to come back to reality, even though you are physically there. Vacations, you go out, and you come back. And I talked about this also several weeks ago. So when people are under stress they want to escape. The second category is the reason why you are feeling stress is that you want to do good. You want to excel, you want to engage more. So the second category is engagement. So what can you do, to engage and engage in a better way into everything that you’re doing? So the idea is not to really run away?

You know, it’s just so you want to engage better? That’s the question here, and how can I engage better so that the future opportunities I’m having, I’m going to really accomplish those opportunities, kind of get a handle on them. So the engagement, improvement of an engagement or engaging in a better way, is one of you know, another. So that’s why people do, is they go to yoga, they go to meditation, and hypnosis is another area why you’re asking this question. The third category is entertainment. People listen to music, people go dancing people do these things, not not, because that’s the calling, they want to do it because they did it some time ago. But along the way, somebody told them, if they do these things, then their stress is going to go away. Or you will feel better about yourself, which is good, nothing wrong with it. So people deal with stress, by escaping by engaging in using some tools, and by entertaining themselves. So think of this problem as a triangle. And look at each side of a triangle as an escape, engage in entertainment, entertain. Now see, and if you see yourself with a dot inside the triangle, which side are you leaning more towards? So move the dot around to each side of a triangle, and see where you find the most control. This is a question of control. So So what it means is that started taking small vacations. Go on small vacations, you don’t need to wait three months or six months to go on a big vacation. And who knows the big vacations may work or may not work. And usually most of the time people say they don’t.

So makes no sense to take that kind of vacation at all. So take small ones. Start to engage more, you’re doing meditation, you’re doing yoga. That’s all great, awesome. So how about going into nature? How about taking walks or hiking, whatever to engage? And the last one is entertainment, you know, entertain yourself, is there some something in you inside of you that has that you have a natural you know, softness, for example, dance or music or poetry or whatever, whatever that is that kind of takes you away from who you are, and takes you into a different world altogether. I would do that. To see where the dot moves and where you feel. Whichever one you feel that you’re having better control over or by doing that gives you better control. Keep it That stupid that stays force for whatever amount of time and there comes a point where, where even these opportunities you’re talking, they will come your way, and you will accomplish them. And then you move on to do even bigger things. So I’ll tell you something, and I want to leave you with this, with this thought or this notion. It is, at this moment, you’re thinking the next two opportunities are big for which you don’t think that you have the time and or you don’t have the capability or you don’t have the mental state to accomplish them will tell you that, you know, five, 710 years from now, these opportunities are going to become bigger and better. And you tend to age and you tend to slow down. And you tend to not have the same energy levels, the same energy levels that you take pride in today. So the opportunities are going to become bigger. And each opportunity is going to demand that you show up in a bigger way. So your job is to not worry about the opportunity that you have right now. But strengthen yourself and go after them. Whatever you can, as much as quickly as you can, as strong as you can, as well as you can go on to these opportunities and expect the other, the later opportunities to be much bigger than what you have got going now.

Okay, so I’m going to stop here you go enjoy your Sunday, and I’ll catch up with you all whether it’s listening tomorrow, and it’s Halloween tomorrow here in Silicon Valley, or in bed in America. I think it’s all over the world. No, I’m saying that. Okay. That’s all for now, but everyone is safe. And before you know it. I’ll be with you tomorrow. Stay tuned.

4 Emotional Obstacles That Are Sabotaging Your Happiness

Here is the complete transcript of the podcast

Happy Saturday morning to you welcome back to Success with Srini. And on the podcast today, we are talking about four feelings that act as obstacles towards you achieving your peace and freedom and happiness and joy or fulfillment, whatever that is. So you can’t get to the Zen state, because these feelings are restricting you, in a way sabotaging you, I don’t think I ever spoke about them. At a level like this, I don’t ever remember just doing a podcast talking about feelings. Because feelings are feelings, they are very subjective, they are to that individual, whoever is going through it. And very personal. And they can only identify with them. Others cannot. They can only resolve others may not. Of course, you can go to you get some outside intervention, it’s possible. But this is you trying to deal with yourself. And here’s the funny thing. These four feelings are these four obstacles. Each one of us, regardless of our financial, spiritual, religious, you know, whatever affiliations we have, regardless of all that we either have gone through or will go through at some point in our lifetimes. So that’s the truth. So let’s get into this. The first feeling is the feeling of being trapped. To one, feeling trapped in a relationship, feeling trapped in a job feeling trapped, in finances, feeling trapped, like trapped in the sense, there is no other avenue left, there is no other way left, and the oxygen is going away. If you’re feeling carbon monoxide everywhere or something, you just don’t know what to do in deep within you are starting to decay.

That’s what trapped means. How do you come out of this feeling? All this Do you know that it is a feeling just know that there is never going to be anything that can bind you down to that level if you choose not to? So it’s a choice of belief. We talked about it the day yesterday, choice of belief, self-examination, choice of belief, with an application of great creative spirit, your self examine, you choose the belief and you apply your creativity that perfectly applies to the situation. So choose not to be trapped. That’s the belief. I don’t want to be trapped anymore. That’s the choice of belief. And now you apply everything that you have, like your creativity, your soul, your entire existence goes applies to that I don’t want to be trapped no matter what. And you will find your way out from this cage, whatever cage that is.

The second feeling is frustration. Frustrated. Do you know what frustration means? Frustration means that you have the capability, you have it, you have that which it takes to really get there. Frustration means that there is no lack of strength, no lack of capability, no lack of ability, no lack of intent. That’s what frustration means. Frustration means that something external is causing an internal rift. So there is something in the environment, something outside of you, that is coming into you and stopping you from getting from you to get wherever you want to go. That’s easy to spot, you can spot what frustrates you. And just don’t be around that. Sometimes. Now I’ll take that and also add one more to this. Sometimes the frustration could be that you’re trying to solve a problem. Maybe something and you know, you can have it in you, but somebody’s not getting there. And a lot of time is going away a lot of energy is being spent and somehow you’re not getting there. Yes, you may become frustrated. That’s okay. That should be okay. It’s okay to get become frustrated.

Now, how do you come out of this? Very simple. Every time you feel a sense of frustration, understand that you’re human, understand that you have limits, understand that there are limitations within which you have to exist and there are limitations in other people with whom you work. Simple, simple. Now, you know philosophy that the third feeling is this feeling of inadequacy? This has to do with self-esteem. It could be real, we all are inadequate in some shape or form. And that also has to do with again, going back to the earlier comment, which is limitations. But inadequacy is, ah, I don’t have this. If I would have had this, then I could have done that. See, then the mind goes if, then else, that’s how the mind starts operating. It’s not a good position to be in, where you, you say, Okay, if I could have had that, then my life would have could have been this. Because the reason why I have my life is this, I could not have that. So that’s how people rationalize their existence, that is living through inadequacy. And I think that just a mind, the state of the mind. And all you have to do is a simple affirmation, which is, you’re unique, you’re different. You’ve been born, raised, and existing in this way. And there’s nobody else like you. Hence, the situations that are happening to you. And things that you’re dealing with are unique to you and to your existence. And this is a way of life, and everybody has their own set of unique situations that are not identical to anybody else’s. And everybody is making a living, dealing with the cards that are being given to them.

So you play your game with the cards that are given to you. It’s okay to be inadequate, but it’s not okay to think too much about it is the point here, then comes envying, or unnecessarily admiring other people’s success and wealth. Power, this is a big one, I see it all the time. You see, whatever wealth you have, I can never have whatever success you have, I can never have. It’s interesting. Notes. The second individual can have the same success. Like the first individual, it’s, every individual’s journey is different. Everybody’s destinations are different. Mentally, we all seem to be in the same boat. But we are on different journeys, even though we are in the same boat. So it doesn’t make any sense, to envy other people’s success and wealth.

The opportunity, the privilege is for you to create your own wealth. And your own wealth doesn’t have to come from money. It doesn’t have to come from assets and belongings and possessions don’t, I don’t think so. An asset can be created with literally anything, wealth can be created from anything, anything is, wherever you give value, whatever you give value to that becomes wealthy to you. Or that could become wealth to you. So be careful how you apply the value. The only individual to who you should apply value is you and nobody else. What are you doing every day to work on your value equations? And I did a podcast just a few days ago talking about how to increase your personal value. And I put five things there and, one thing was giving thanks to God for this life and for this opportunity to have this consciousness to see the world this way exist here for this limited time. And experiencing all these things which many lives did not? How many people do you know who were born and take they were gone early? couldn’t live the life that you are living? Think about it. So what’s the point? Where does this envy of other success and wealth come in? I don’t know. I struggled to understand this. See, these feelings have no place. Honestly, none of these have any place and you can justify them and say yeah, I need them. And that’s how it is and they don’t have any place honestly. And the quicker you addressed these feelings, the lesser obstacles you will have on the path to that emotional freedom. We are talking here.

Too many people have financial freedom. Very rarely do people have emotional freedom. What’s the point of having all the money all the laurels all the success when you don’t have the emotional brain space brain space to enjoy them to relish them? Think about it. Yeah, every time I start the forecast here I see oh the Friday a lot go deep and all that but I’m sorry the Saturday I’m going so deep into this don’t want to okay go enjoy and I will catch up with you right here tomorrow keep listening. Bye.

6 Things You MUST Do To Create A Big Life

Here is the complete transcript of the podcast

Happy Friday morning to you welcome back to success with Srini. Today’s podcast episode is going to be small to the point, it’s a Friday. That’s why I have six things that I want to share with you, that will completely change your game, or the life that you’re living right now and take it to a whole different new level in a much bigger way, obviously, in a positive way, if you give it a try, this list is fully curated this list, I have experienced it myself, I have gone through it tested this out with many of my coaching clients. I’ll tell you, there was a question on this, but I’ll come to the question a little later. Okay, so let’s get into the six things. If you just focus a bit more focus, just focus a bit more and figure out what can you do to fix your focus. So you engage in activities that are going to increase your focus, let’s say you have the highest focus, but simply change the focus just a bit. So work, take all your energy, spend all the time that you have right now, and work towards increasing the focus. See the magic happen. I tell you, whatever game you’re in, it’s going to go to the next level, I promise you that this is such a powerful thing, focus. And I’ve done numerous podcast episodes, I’ve spoken about this multiple times at my seminars, workshops. This is one thing that I want back and I want it back in a very, very big way even though habit. But I want it back even though the habit is focused.

The second one is exercise, work out, go work out. If you’re already working out, change the routines, do something different change play with the times, play with your diet, play with your sleep, you know, alter chain, but change, alter, but change and work a little more rigorously work a little bit longer. Exercise will change your life, I promise you then comes the third one in this curated list empathy. And I’ve been talking about it for the last few days already. I think yesterday for Yesterday, I talked about this empathy, anything, you’re already showing concern, you’re already caring for people you’re already working with people you are giving your time to them. Just show a little bit more empathy, whatever you have. And there are numerous ways you can learn to be more empathetic towards yourself and the people around you. And we’ll talk about those things later. But just to just you know that empathy will completely change your game and take your life to a whole new level. At the beginning of this podcast many, many months ago, earlier, like February or March of this year. I did numerous podcast episodes for days and days and days together talking about languaging the way you speak the words you speak, I’ll tell you just change one or two words, or two words, in your vocabulary right now. And see the magic happen, your life is going to be completely different. And I meet and talk to people, they’re using words that I can’t even you know, they’re sophisticated. They’re amazing. They’re learners, they are brilliant people. But the choice of words is so incorrect. And the way they speak the way they express themselves.

How can you express great things by using the wrong words? I don’t know. It’s not necessary that you to use great words to communicate an idea. You don’t need to keep it very simple. But how can you use the wrong words? How can you use words that are socially not acceptable? And still, come across as an intellectual and say things? I don’t know. I don’t know how that works. I don’t know how that works. Even the ambulance in the back? I don’t know. You can hear it. Do you hear that? I don’t know what’s happening early morning. No idea. I hope it is. I don’t know. Maybe it’s not on the recording. But there’s an ambulance going in the back. Change the words and see the game change. The next one on the list is your appearance. The way you show up. The last time I talked about this, somebody said oh, I don’t need to dress up to show up. No, you don’t. That’s one of the points of appearance, appearances. There’s only one argument for appearance, which is to show up smiling. Show up happy. Show up excited. Show up exuberant. Show up with your absolute total you as yourself. Don’t worry about your clothes. Don’t worry about all that that’s not the point of this discussion. If you do try it you’ll impress the right people. And you get the attention of white people and they will accept you and great things will happen your life will change and tell you, Okay, the last one in this curated list is giving.

Giving means a lot of things. It could be your time, it could be your physical health, it could be your monetary help, whatever way, whatever things that you can give the so many different ways to approach giving. But then if you just subscribe to the idea of giving, your life’s gonna change. Now, ideally should be doing all six. Okay, and I know you do, and all of us do this, but then you should be doing a lot more in these areas. But let’s say that you choose, you do not to do any of these six. But as a part of this podcast, just pick any one of these, just any one of these, and see the magic happen. You’ll see how your life doesn’t change, I promise you, you know, and you can’t do this once or twice, give it some time, do it over a long period of time, maybe 1015 40 days. And see, you know, you’ll start to see the change happening within you. Nobody else has to tell you anything, the change will happen within you. And you’ll start to see the new you evolving. It’s a very powerful thing. If you can do all six, amazing, amazing, I get this question all the time, you know, can you tell me the one ultimate thing that I can do that will change my life? Is this a once is there any deep secret? Is there any hidden secret? And there isn’t any honestly there isn’t any and I’ve said that also multiple times there isn’t. And all it involves is just trying to change that which you’re already doing. And if you have space and time you want to learn something new that you’re not doing. That’s great.

Change, whatever you’re already doing, and see the magic happen. That’s all for now. Stay tuned. I’ll talk to you soon.