The Truth About Achieving Completeness In Life

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The question of the morning, early morning is, will you ever attain completeness? In everything that you’re doing? Is there completeness? See, you will have goals, you have ideas, your thoughts, there are so many activities that you’re engaged in throughout the day, at home at work, you’re juggling many things, you’re juggling others’ expectations, you have your own expectations of yourself, and then everything that is coming in between everything demands your time, everything demands your attention. the question now becomes his will you ever get to that final end line? And that end line is not just on a daily basis? It’s, you know, eventually will you ever get there? We’re not talking about just goals here. We’re talking about getting to that state where you say, Okay, I did all these things. They all are complete. Now. I did attain completeness. And I’ve been effective throughout this. So that’s the question. And this is a question that I had the privilege of talking to many people, elders, and many seniors, people who have seen the world from a better place than I have seen it for a long, much longer time than me. And very rarely, I have found someone who said, Yes, I have that completeness. And, yes, you know, whatever I did, was effective, or whatever, at least I felt it was effective. I live an effective life. And I’ve attained the completeness, very snobbery, one or two people, I don’t know whether they’re making it up. Or maybe it’s their ego, but whatever it is, it’s very difficult to attain it. That’s the point. And the point is, we don’t even talk about this.

Nobody talks about this at a level that it should be otherwise. We talking about? So why is it twice that we are setting goals? We are working hard? We have an agenda, we have a path? We have the resources we do what we do, but still, why is that completeness not achieved? Or is there something called completeness? That’s even a bigger discussion. Well, let me here’s my observation, there is completeness. There is a state, which is completeness. But it has more to do with the way you attach meaning to it. What is a completeness to you? Think about it. Take a pause. Think through the reason why you are let’s say you are setting goals and you’re achieving them. But you somehow do not feel that completeness. Completeness here can also be said, as fulfillment. You don’t feel good. You don’t feel Yeah, you know, I did it, you don’t feel that way. Is because deep with them, there are some desires. There are some innermost desires that are not addressed. I’m not saying with everyone, but most of the time, that’s what I’ve seen, at least in therapy. In consultations, I’ve seen this there are some deep inner desires that are not met. And it’s not just one or two, there are multiple inner desires. And sometimes these desires are in conflict. See people pursue careers, for example, money, so you work very hard for money. But if I pause you for a second ask you, Hey, why do you? What’s the point of making this money? Then I hope you have an answer to it. And here is here’s what I’ve seen. Nine or 10. People ask that question. They do not. They are wrong. If I ask them for more questions that are incorrect. They’ll come back and say, Yeah, you’re right. Yeah, my first answer was incorrect. So yeah, if I can make, you know, if I can make $100,000, then I can just buy that house, I can make a down payment. If I get $50,000. I can go buy that car. So I hear that. I also hear oh, if I just can somehow make this million dollars, then I can quit my job. But you don’t. You don’t put the job. You don’t stop. You know, with whatever money you make it’s on. And I was referring to a term called compulsive neurosis.

That’s the only way we know how to live and we have to live that way. No matter what doesn’t matter what changes along the way. Good things do happen, but will not recognize the good things will live this way. We’ll continue to work hard and we’re going to just spend our time away. And work takes away a significant amount of your life. That’s the truth. That’s the truth. It takes away a significant part of our existing work. So unless the contrary Licht is identified and resolved unless you do something to fulfill your innermost desires, then you will always feel this vacuum will always feel that Yeah, you don’t have the completeness, you don’t have that fulfillment. See why you make money while I make money because I want to pay the bills, make money because eventually, this money is going to set me free. This money is what I do for this job, because this job only pays this month, this much amount of money. And this job is the only thing that I know how to do. So this is what it is. And I don’t want to do anything else. Or I don’t want to try anything else, or this is what I bank on. And this is going to save me. What if that money doesn’t save you? What if? What if you have worked 20 3040 years? And what happens to the men most desert at that time thinks what you wanted to do when you were kids or when you know, whenever you had an idea to pursue something, what happens to that? What happens to that goal that desires deep within you, you’ve suppressed it, you’re not given a voice to it, and you’re doing everything you’re doing? Because there are things I asked somebody said, why you want why you go to work because I’m scared of life. That’s why I go to work. I want all kinds of answers about work. I’m scared of life. That’s why I go to work. I go to work because I want that paycheck. It supports my family. I heard that. That’s okay. I go to work because I don’t know what else to do. I’m thinking that if I keep on doing what I’m doing, eventually I’m going to do whatever I want to do. No, you’re not. You will never be able to do whatever you want to do. Eventually, eventually you’ll be old, eventually, you’ll become bored like me, eventually, you’re going to lose eyesight like me. Eventually, the eventuality sets in, and eventually, there’s nothing eventual. Everything thereafter is eventual. Sorry.

So you know, this, people spend in in this loop where they go from, I’ll start everything out. And then they realize they start to realize that things are coming at them. And they can’t sort them out anymore. I’ll tell you where today’s podcast is coming from today’s podcast is coming from a video I saw of Tom Brady the other day, talking about somebody asking you some questions. And he’s saying, Man, I’m 45 years old, a lot of shit is going on in my life. That’s the exact words, man too many things going on in my life. Tom Brady, is so successful. And now he’s like he’s saying, or at least the media or I don’t know, sounds like that, that marriage is falling apart. That’s where this coming from? You see the conflict. See, when people go through this phase where they have given a lot of time to something and things have not happened for them. They know that they’re not attaining that completeness. The only path that they take at that point is self-exploration. Like why is this happening to me? What can I do to come out of this? Do people go to spirituality? People go to reading books. And you know why this happened to me? They come into Spain, um, this agony? How do I get out of this? What can be done? If we go there. So, self-examination, self-exploration, self-examination. And if you go that route, people go that route, because they don’t know this, but I’m telling you why they go that route is when you self Examine yourself, you are doing that because you want to choose a belief that you can put everything that you have to it. So that maybe that belief is going to take you to that desire, that unfulfilled desire, whatever, so you can attain it. So you want to apply your spirit to that specific belief. So you’re exploring yourself to discover that belief. You can choose that belief, the discomfort of discovery, you have beliefs already. So you’re choosing the picture, this is the one and then I’m going to put all my spirit all my soul into it. So I’m going to get to that. Now. See, they know they have some conflicts. They know that the time is running out, and they don’t know what to do. So they go into self-exploration. They go to spirituality, they go do different things. But even then, even at that state also, they’re lost.

Because they don’t know what they’re doing spiritually. They don’t know what they’re doing with meditation or whatever it is. Hope you know they want the answers, but somehow they’re not able to arrive at those answers. The answer there is you need to quickly find that specific belief to you got To get to a position where you can choose the belief, and whatever belief that you choose, you can apply your creative spirit to it and get the goal to fulfill those innermost desires, whatever they are. This is a very difficult concept to be explained on a podcast. But this is a concept that needs in-person interaction. And that are some demonstrations. In fact, the self-examination is an activity that you can, you can do inside a room, it’s an in-person seminar of the workshop. So, I study the process of choosing a belief, first of all discovering the belief, if it is not there, then instilling that belief, and then applying all your resources, your emotions, your thoughts, your ideas, everything that belief and kind of stand on it so that it can allow you to fulfill the innermost desires you have. I’ll give you one simple closing statement. The reason why people don’t get to completeness is that they have not spent enough time in loneliness. They’ve not spent enough time to identify their uniqueness in that loneliness. They will accommodate everybody else. Their expectations, their demands, their timelines, their nuisance, lack of a better word, their atrocities, and the forgotten who they are. And that is why they can’t get to that completeness, loneliness, uniqueness, completeness.

Okay. Hopefully, it’s helpful if please let me know. And I’ll be with you as early as tomorrow. Stay tuned.

Setting Your Sights High and Making a Plan to Get There

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Today’s podcast episode is for you, if you are an individual contributor, you are in tech or in it. But you have a desire to grow and start leading your organization at the highest level. If that’s who you are, and that is what you have in your mind, then today’s podcast episode is for you. Welcome back to Success Srini. Happy Wednesday morning to you. It’s hump day. So I’m looking forward to this weekend. A lot of things happening this weekend. Okay.

Now, there are multiple questions not in a specific question. But there are multiple questions within the space and how do I grow within? Within the corporate structure? How do I send a ladder, and I’ve been in an identical role for a very long time, I want to really grow up, take on more and make myself more relevant. And all that. So there have been questions over time. So I thought it makes sense, to come back and revisit all those questions. So I’m just taking some time out today. And answering this question, kind of makes it more contextual. So that if you are in that situation, you can relate to this. You’re an engineer, you are an individual contributor, and you want to grow up the ladder and go to the highest position that’s available to you. It could be CIO, the CTO, whatever the C-level position is, or the CEO, and on maybe CEO doesn’t matter. So you get to the highest position. So that’s the discussion here. So here’s what I’ve seen. I’ve seen engineers, with whom I’ve worked a lot, and I have been an engineer myself, there are certain business functions that internationals understand or choose not to, or somehow do not give enough time, recording engineering in itself consumes a lot of brainpower takes away a lot of brain space, and tools. And when you’re engaged in designing solutions, or solving problems, at the lowest level, it’s very difficult to take time and space and bring something new when, but unless you don’t bring the new things in, it’s very difficult to grow. So that’s also the truth. So the question here is, how do I grow? So keeping growth in mind? Let’s answer this, again, I’m not saying one is better than the other. I’m just staying with the context of this question. So what are the things that you have to learn or do to get to that highest position? So there are two things that are proven to always take an individual to the highest level, an individual decides that they go inward inside of them, and make themselves bigger. So going inside means really understanding what are the things that you do not have that you need to have as an individual so that you can grow and you can grow big. That’s the first one. The second one is, what can you do to go into the business and see what the business doesn’t have? Or has, what he’s not using, and kind of glued all that together, so that the business can grow.

So there is individual growth, and there is business growth, as an individual, you cannot grow and go up the ladder, without you taking the business along with you. Simple, a business cannot grow, you cannot grow. If you grow businesses and grow, then you will be unhappy. It’s going to be temporary, and short-lived, and it is not much you can do about it. It’s better to take the business with you, but better to qualify for the tool rather than justify yourself for that role. Or demand the rolling, get it. So let’s talk about these two things, business growth and as well as personal growth, let’s start with business growth. So what do you need to do? What do you need to bring in? Well, you got to understand finance, how money works, how to budget, how to expense, how to operate, the numbers, the financial numbers, clearly. And then comes operations. You know, how to get things done, how to plan things, how to understand movable resources, immovable resources, silent resources, active resources, I mean, just the resource management itself is so big, there’s so much to it, that means systems process all that so that and nothing to do with technology yet but these are every organization has its own systems and processes, how they operate, how they interoperate, and how they all add up to the highest level, all that that level of understanding has to come in that involves time and all that.

Then obviously see As marketing, that function is sometimes alien to engineers. But that has to be understood because you’re going up the ladder. And every position on the top is a salesperson anyway. So finance, operations, sales, marketing, all these things have to be understood, learned, ideally learned, but understood, experienced. But within the context of tech, how can technology be used to leverage this because you are going up it CTO CIO ladder? So you got to keep technology as the dominant leader in all these understandings, and you bring them together, and glue them together in your mind. So that you know that anything and everything that you’re doing within the space is helping the business grow. So this is the first track the second practice is again, personal crack, which are you going inward? And finding out what can you do to yourself so that you can become bigger, and grow as an individual. And for that communication? You know, How good can you communicate how well you can articulate how deep can you present in all that? So communication is important. Secondly, team building, hiring and recruiting, and retaining incredible people who can not only support you but support each other. And forward, your agenda is very important. And once you have them there, how do you manage them? So management comes in. So you are communicating the team building you’re managing. But there has to be an element that has to glue all these three things together, which is leadership.

So finance, operations, business, sales, sales, and marketing, all that. Technology is gluing it, communication, team building management, and leadership are gluing it. So one is people’s performance. The other is business performance. When you bring these two things together, then you automatically just, you’ll be pushed up simply. You’ll be given those roles, you’ll be recognized at that highest level. Now, the question becomes how long does it take to do this? And how much do you have to give up? To get this? I don’t know the answer to that question. Sometimes people do it very, very quickly, sometimes. Depending on which path you take some people to take the educational path to get all these three things, all these things in, they want to go take go to a training and learn business growth, want to go to a training and learn leadership? Yes, you can. But again, you got to apply what you learn takes time. The key is that you know, you’re running a marathon and you know that you have to run 26 Odd miles. Question is, will you run it in three hours? Or will you take 30 hours to run this? Totally up to you, but you know, the path is there, you know, which, you know which way you have to go? Simple. So, do you need to do more than this? And then I have an overly simplified this. There could be that I have oversimplified this. And there could be more to that. This obviously can add a lot of things to this. But the point is, these are the things and you get the idea.

That’s the point. Okay, so I want to stop here. I think I got everything that I had on my mind. Across you go have a wonderful Wednesday. I’ll catch up with you. Tomorrow, right here. Keep listening.

4 Signs You’ve Made It As A Professional

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Today’s podcast episode is for you, if you are a professional or you want to become a professional now, how do we know that you are a professional? How does the world know that you’re a professional? Well, you tell them that you are a professional. That’s how the world knows. Question is, how do you know that you are a professional? It’s very simple. That answer, right? So you have years of experience in education, you have credentials, you have certifications, you have some awards, rewards. And yes, on social recognition, all these things add up. And that’s what makes you a professional. I live in Silicon Valley, so a lot of tech professionals around, but there are professionals doing what they do.

So many, many years ago, in one of my seminars, this discussion of enthusiast, passionate, professional, all these different categories that there was a discussion that was around people. And I explained how I describe a professional how I see a professional as a professional. Within its context, let’s talk about that because that was what was going on back then in the seminar. Now, this applies to every field, not just it. So I said there are four things that have to happen for anybody to call themselves a professional. Now, this has nothing to do with how many years of experience he or she has, how long they have been in this line, and what credentials they have none. This is completely unique, completely different. So I shared this in the room, and I’m sharing that with you and telling you why am I doing that today on the podcast, also, still use your to stay with me to the end. The first indicator is that you have been fired from the job that you are doing. Because you made a mistake. It’s your fault. So that’s the first level of your graduating to becoming a professional. That’s level one. You still are not a professional. But this is the first step in your you were a job. And you got fired because you made a mistake. That has happened to me. Okay, let’s go to the next one. You are fired from the job. Because of someone else’s mistake, somebody else made a mistake or committed a fault. You were fired? Why would not? No, that’s not the point. The whole discussion.

So you know, you are not at fault somebody else, but they escaped, you are fired. If this happens, you have now successfully graduated the second step. The third step, yes, you are fired. Because of no one’s fault, you have no idea who made the fault, or who made the mistake. In fact, according to you, nobody made a mistake. But you were let go. That’s the third step. You are now graduating through the steps of becoming a professional. The idea is this. It’s a very simple concept. I want you to understand the humor in this. The humor is at every stage, you are becoming stronger and stronger. So there is this thing there is this layer around you that is becoming thicker and thicker, that you have been now through the grind that you are now being trained by life to deal with situations that you never expected. Now, this has nothing to do with as I said nothing to do with your talent, skill, or experience. You might be having all of that you might be the best in the game. Still, these things are happening to you. That’s how you know that you are evolving. The last one is also the last one, which is you are fired. And then you’re hired back. That’s the last page if that happens to you, that means you are truly professional. You are amazing. There is something about you that nobody else has. I’m telling you what has happened to you. All these four stages have happened to me. Okay. All these things have happened to me in some shape or form. Okay, and that’s how I was sharing the story in the room. Now, why is this podcast episode like this today?

Well, two days ago, I came across something on the internet where this young man was working for a company with a second employee of the company, I think this is in the state of Ohio. And he is working for a company that does payments, like payment processing. And he was called in and he was let go, right? He thought he had an easy job, just going to businesses and convincing them, Hey, make this move, we’ll save you money, whatever. But along the way, he couldn’t really produce sales. And he moved in with his girlfriend, he was renting a place and his girlfriend was working in Wells Fargo as a temp. And he was working here. So he goes into the office, and the boss tells him, hey, I need to let you go. Because whatever, I don’t know what the glands are to the article. But then, at that moment, the boss realizes that there are, you know, even though this, this individual is not good for this position, but there is one more position that they’re in the company, maybe he’s good for that. And that’s what goes through the mind of this boss. So he decides to make an offer after firing him in that meeting. And this gentleman goes home, talks to his girlfriend comes back, and accepts the other position, which is a customer service position, where he’s getting less money, but has the job sick picks up the job. And he was fired and hired in the same meeting. And explanation the boss gives is there is something about this individual that he could not deny. So he had to make that offer. And five years later, you know, this individual is not the director of operations or strategy or something like that. He is married. And everything is great. So there is a happy ending to the story, an incredible ending. And this is a five, six-year-old story that played out over six years, something like that. I was reading this, that got that reminded me of this seminar I did many, many years ago and the specific thing that I shared in the seminar. So that’s how this podcast happened. Hopefully, this motivates you. If this inspires you.

The idea is to inspire you a bit. And then that’s all so you go have an incredible Tuesday and I will catch up with you before you know it. Before you know it. By the time you’re done with this listen to this podcast. Chances are tomorrow’s podcast is already there in your inbox. Okay, that’s all for now. Take care, talk soon.