How To Find Your Rhythm in Life and Work

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Welcome back to Tuesday morning already unbelievable. I’m yet to come out of my Monday funk. And here we are on a Tuesday. Happy Tuesday morning to you. So let’s get into this. today’s podcast episode is something that had been on my mind for a long time. And I did not get a chance to develop this. And as I’m recording this, I’m still not very clear about it. But I’m not really I didn’t get my content in place. I didn’t get my ideas in place. So maybe this may sound shallow. But even though it may sound shallow, I think it has a, it has potential. So I want you to listen to this. If it makes sense. Take it if not ignore it. We’ll move to tomorrow’s podcast tomorrow.

Okay, so here is the background. I have been getting questions about goals, goal setting, achievement, results, outcomes, and all that there are a variety of questions, I keep getting those questions. And the general pack them is I’m getting results. But I’m not able to do them again, I am not able to produce the results. Again. This is the truth with most people, people set goals, and they achieved those goals. But if a similar goal comes again, or the same goal has to be accomplished again, they do not know what they have to do now they’re forgotten, then never really documented that journey. So they can’t repeat. They cannot repeat. And you see this in sports. And the games were sportspersons they performed very well that was amazing. But then some way along the path along the way, somewhere, they lost their form, or they lose that form. And the struggle to get back into the game. I talked about this a few days ago on the podcast here. So let’s take this as an example. Let’s look into what’s happening with you right now. Let’s say if you take life in general, and you will break it into multiple parts, you have health, wealth, finances, and you have relationships, you have your work, then you have your recreation, you have your spirituality, and all that. So there are different ways you can dice and slice different categories of life. And all these categories make sense. Some people said there are eight some people said that is 16. Some say 32 depends on who you listen to who you talk with, and who whoever is putting this forward. So in my mind, there are four major categories, we are spending a lot of time with ourselves, or with other people, or with our work, or with investments and money and all that. So making money growing money, spending time with ourselves, and spending time with our relationships. Now spirituality, friendships, all those things can be grouped into relationships, in my mind, that’s how I see it.

So your work is going great, let’s take that as an example your work is great. And you are really putting in all the hours, you’re working very hard, you’re getting the recognition, you’re getting the money, and all that is fine. But then you don’t have enough time for managing your money. And you will not have as much time to focus on your relationships and your healthy sticking at all. But you’re very focused at work, not because that’s the only thing you want to do. But it’s just that you got so used to it. And you really do not know how to break away from it. Because as you’re doing more and more work, that’s the place where you are getting more and more appreciation. And you feel more connected to it. So this is okay. As long as other areas are okay. So, health is not bad. But it’s okay. Could have been better, but it’s okay. You continue to operate. You’re doing okay. Your money could have grown better, and your investments would have performed better but they’re okay. Your relationships. They could be addressed. It could be you could spend more time with them and you can try more depth into them but then it’s okay. As long as other areas are okay, you really don’t have that much. focus there. You’re focused at work and work is giving you all the necessary attention that you need. So you stay plugged in.

It’s all good. Wait, as long as the work is going great. Now once you have turbulence, and people do have turbulence, and nothing is permanent that you know, and no job, no title, no role, nothing is permanent. So if there is a setback, then people have trouble. And this is what I’ve seen, they do not know where to go. Because they can’t take the time, they did not give time to other areas of life. So they really do not know how to compensate. So for example, somebody is laid off or they lose their job, they don’t know what to do, they are now caught in a situation where the amount of appreciation, the amount of acknowledgment, the amount of belongingness, all that was coming from work suddenly goes away. And they feel like they are fish out of water. It’s interesting. It’s funny. So let’s, I don’t want to get into the overall aspect of how to fix this. But what I want to focus on is if, at all, you lose your form, or you lose your rhythm. How can you get it back? Sometimes people lose the rhythm, everything is going great. And suddenly, something happens. And the focus goes away from it. And they want to come back to it. And they cannot come back. I’ve seen that happen. As I was referring to earlier I was saying, specifically, in sports, we see this, a player playing an amazing game loses her or his focus, and they cannot come back to the game. This struggle, sometimes people retire this go away. Sometimes people can jump so much by it, that they know even though other areas of their life are going great. Other areas are amazing. But just because they lose the form, and on the one thing that they’re really focused on, they somehow feel as if the whole world has fallen apart for them.

So how do you prevent it? How do you stop this from happening? The key is to get into them, whether you have career goals, life goals, or relationship goals, find whatever goals you have, right now, the key is to get into a rhythm. If you don’t get into a rhythm, then it’s hard. And the very core of finding and getting into a rhythm has two aspects to it, I want to give you those two aspects. First and foremost is behind everything that is the math behind everything that is an equation. Your job is to identify that equation and master that equation. So if you’re able to create success, once you should be able to do it a second time, third time, and fourth time, if you know the math. Let me give you some examples. Piano, you play piano, using your ear. Some people do it very, very well. I used to do it to myself, I can play piano, and I can move my fingers. I can listen to any tune move my fingers, can replicate the tune. Can I do it? Exactly. Maybe not. But I’m okay with the tune. Yeah. But I was able to do this 40 years ago. Now, 35 years ago, I was able to do it. But 35 years later, I can still do it. But here’s the problem, I could have done better. I can listen, I can play. The problem reason, why I could not excel, is that I never took the time to understand math. So which key goes into which key? Which scale? How many scales are there? How does the major scale work? How does a minor scale work? What are the differences? What’s a flat key? What’s a sharp key? I never spent time learning those. And because I did not spend time learning those. The math is weak. So sometimes I can get it tuned. I can listen I can play it very quickly. Sometimes I cannot. And I cannot because I don’t the math simple.

Okay, let’s talk about weight loss, people do not get results because they don’t know the math. Very simple. They don’t know how many calories they’re putting in there, how many calories they’re burning, they do not understand the equilibrium they don’t understand how to balance it out. And they don’t know how to catch up if they fall behind. Very simple. There’s math, let’s talk about cooking. You know, cooking. Some people just do it just like that. Just like that by the taste by the field by the mood of the day. They just cook at that moment. Whatever is in their mind they cook however, they want to cook. Say you cannot create a product like McDonald’s or Burger King, or for that matter Taco Bell. If you do not precisely measure everything. You can’t replicate it unless you don’t system and you can’t system unless you measure. So the key is to find the equation, anything that you’re doing, find the equation. Now, before you find the equation, there’s also one more thing, you got to establish this as a problem.

People achieve a goal, set a goal, achieve a goal, celebrate too quickly, and then move on. But at the end of that success, you got to look back and ask a question to yourself, can I do this again? Did I document all this? Is there a process for this? Is there learning that I can take that I can apply next time around? Most people don’t depend on their talent, their skill, or their capabilities, which by the way, will all fade away, skills fade away, we know that capabilities also diminish, we know that. So you got to establish the success of the problem. Now, most people do not establish successes problem because the minute you call something a problem, now, you, you really have to, you’re taking away all the glitters from the glory. And we don’t want to as humans. So the message on this podcast is simple. You got to get into a rhythm. And if you’re struggling to get a rhythm, get the math first. And get the math because you did it. So somebody has some success already.

So get the math and takes time, by the way, takes time. But get the math once you know the equation, then again, just because you know the equation doesn’t mean it’s going to work. And for that, you need to know of course your moods, and your emotional state, all these things do play in but then when mastering the question means that at least you got one aspect of this very clear, which is the foundation. Okay? So it’s better not to lose fall. It’s better to never get into a situation where losing fall in anything that you’re doing doesn’t matter. Doesn’t matter. I wish a coach would have told me this when I was growing up. Somebody as loud as this should have told me this. Never get out of fall. Never stop doing what you’re doing.

Never overthink, never ignore. Take it for granted. become complacent. I wish somebody would have told me this. And I’m telling you this. We’ll watch if you’re listening to this or watching this. I’m telling you this. I wish I had more time to develop this idea. Maybe we’ll come back a month from now and redo this podcast episode. We’ll see. Hey, that’s all, for now, you enjoy your Tuesday and I will catch up with you as early as tomorrow. Stay tuned.

How To Heal Yourself In 5 Steps

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Welcome back, happy Monday morning to you on the podcast today, I want to spend a few moments and talk about hypnosis and healing, and how hypnosis helps in healing and the core principle behind it not necessarily kind of becoming overly excited about hypnosis and promoting it, and things like that. But you know, just in the context of healing in general, people have been asking me questions like, Will yoga help me? Should I do this? Should I do that? And what’s my opinion about hypnosis if working for a specific thing could be stress, anxiety, or whatever, whatever thing that they are dealing with? So here’s my general observation. I talk about hypnosis because hypnosis is specifically self-hypnosis is something that does quite a number of things. When done right, it could really set the course of the day and could set the course of the night. And when you do that consecutively, day after day, after day, and night, after night, after night, maybe a couple of times, or once a day, whatever the frequency is, over a period of time, your brain gets trained to act in a certain way. Along the way, some inconsistencies in the unconscious mind can be removed. And you’ll see gradual, slow, but gradual improvement, for whatever outcome, that you are going after. That’s the gist of it.

Now, I can run a whole seminar webinar and explain all that I’ll need more time. But in just a few minutes, that’s how I would, I would explain this and I’ve gone on to say this, you know, when you have two different opposing ideas in the brain, so your unconscious has an idea, the conscious has a different idea, these two ideas are opposing each other. That’s when you have what is called a conflict. And you have the Battle of the mind and heart. And most of the time this happens because you have some false beliefs that are in the unconscious mind that are causing the separation. For elimination, the best way to deal with that is to remove the false belief. So that’s the gist of it. And hypnosis is one of the ways to overcome any kind of unite between these two minds. Okay, I was looking to explain that, okay. So Can something else help? Or if I try something else? And the answer is yes, of course, many there are many pathways to the mind hypnosis is one. And everything works. I’m not here to disqualify others, and qualify hypnosis, because that’s what I focus on. Here is what I’ve seen. Behind every technique. I have seen hypnosis, every technique every time there is a technique that somebody says, I figured out, I see some element of hypnosis. Because hypnosis is the natural state of the human mind.

The human mind naturally goes into a state of hypnosis. If you guide the mind, it goes into its amazing. And if nobody’s guiding it goes into. And there are numerous examples of this. You’re driving on the freeway, and you forget an exit, but still show up. At the final destination. It’s hypnosis, when you are in an elevator, you forget which floor you are going to, but you come out, it’s it, Moses, on a different floor, it’s of Moses, you’re sending important emails, but you get distracted because your child got your attention. It’s hypnosis, you put food on your stove, and you forget something else took over your mind and hypnosis. So it’s everywhere. But here is the core principle. I want to share the principle of healing with you today. And that’s why I was that’s what I had in mind when I started the podcast. There are five things when you put into play regardless of whether you’re using hypnosis or yoga or meditation, whatever it is, there are five things you put into play, that are proven to produce results. This is the principle, the first and foremost principle is you got to relax the body. So hypnosis, Self Hypnosis will relax the body. That are the parts if you give suggestions to the mind to relax the body. Even now, let’s say you decide to relax your body, all you have to do is sit, sit or lay down in a place and then just don’t touch anything, close your eyes, and don’t touch anything, and automatically body starts to relax and you’ll go to sleep.

Very simple. So first and foremost is to relax the body. The second is you got to quiet the mind. This is true in meditation also, this is true in everything. You quiet the mind. Just shut down everything and remove everything from the mind mentally, right? The three things you need to remove from the mind as you are, are silencing the mind. The first is you got to remove the assignment. You got to remove fear and you remove anxiety. And the way you do that is you tell yourself I’m not I want to feel anxious, I don’t feel anxious, I don’t feel I have no fears, I have no anxiety, and I don’t send anything. That’s it, just tell yourself mentally and just stay quiet and stay relaxed. Okay, then you visualize, mentally visualize that there is a wholeness that is coming into you. And a wholeness that is uniting all the parts of your body, you visualize this part of the body and see that it is, as wholeness is completely taking you over, mentally visualize that as different parts of the body come together into one piece into one entity.

Okay. Visualize that. And then internally, you tank the God, or the higher power which of your beliefs for healing you. That’s it. Five steps. People ask, you know, I’m going to this I’m going to this pain, the suffering, how do I heal myself, this is the principle. Now, you use the name hypnosis, you use meditation, yoga, you use whatever, whatever it is, I’m just using the words that I hear all the time. Use whatever, give it whatever this is the newfound healing. This is this, you know, this method, that method, whatever you want to give, this is, whatever, whatever Kriya Yoga, whatever you want to give whatever name principle is the same. I hope this helps you, before you go running to some crazy solution, give this a try. Do this in the morning, do this in the evening, do it for 1015 20 days, whatever duration you can. Don’t worry about how much time you’re doing this. But make sure that you apply these five principles and see how you’re coming together as an entity. It’s amazing when you start uniting all the body parts your mind your soul. Oh, it opens you up to a whole different possibility. Forget about healing it just opens you up to a whole new dimension of life. It’s crazy.

Okay, that’s all for now. You go start your week, and I will come back tomorrow and we’ll talk who knows what maybe a question may be something that’s on my mind in that at that point in time. So for now, you take care of yourself. Talk soon

Know, Like and Believe Your Job!

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Today on the podcast, I am re-answering a question, which I have answered multiple times in the past on the podcast, and also on my radio shows, which is about passion jobs carrier. And this question specifically, is about a gentleman who is changing jobs, but he is very unhappy no matter where he goes. So what should I do? That was the question. This question came in a few months ago, I responded back via email, I responded back with a recording of my earlier podcast, I think, a YouTube link. But then I realized, as I was going through my inbox, I thought maybe I can answer this question differently.

Now, you see, I’m growing. I’m also growing. So if you ask me the same question to me, a month from now, you’ll get a different answer. Two months from now, a whole different answer altogether. So that’s the beauty of the human mind is that you can attempt something, and you come back after an hour or two or a week later or a day later or whatever. If you attempt the same question, you will have a different answer. The beauty of the mind. Okay, so the question is this, I’m changing jobs, and I’m unhappy, no matter where I go, What should I do? Should I retire? No, didn’t say that. First of all, I’m happy that there is a pursuit, that is an effort to change a situation. Most people give up. They do few things, few attempts, then give up. I’m happy that you are attempting and you’re trying to change the situation. So first of all, let me tell you, if you’re unhappy in a job that you are in right now, you are not alone. Okay, there are numerous studies done and there are studies being done right now. And the unhappy percentage is very high. Or what 80% There is documented research, I think from the 1960s. Consistently for a long period of time in the 60s, they did some research, and the data was over 80% are unhappy today, despite social media, high-paying jobs, the economy, the way we are in the world economy the way it is still, that unhappiness continues. And that is why people are leaving their jobs and doing things.

Thanks to social media and all the avenues that Internet has created. People are staying home doing what they want to do, they want to take control of the time, and they want to have autonomy in everything that they are doing. And they want to have the flexibility in making the money while enjoying life, which is awesome. But still, that unhappiness continues. In one of the radio shows recently, just about a month or two ago, I suggested that change your thought about work. And happiness is everywhere. And you cannot justify your happiness by saying that you have a better title now or I’ll make more money now or have more people reporting to me now. I hear people say that, but it’s just a matter of time before something is going to annoy you. And something is going to take over your existence. So you got to change your thoughts about the work that you’re doing. And there are numerous stories of motivation and motivational stories from the past. And I’ve gone through these myself at a point in my career. About 25 years ago, I was struggling in my job and I was like, What should I do? You know what, why am I unhappy, I keep changing jobs. I’m unhappy. I went into consulting I consulted while came back to a full-time job. I struggled there. So the bottom line is the association in my mind about the work I was doing was incorrect. I was doing something that was not in alignment with who I was. And I’m lucky in a very few now it looks like luck. But I was I don’t know what, but somehow along the way, I moved and shifted to do something that is in alignment with my self-esteem, which is this work. So on the radio show, I said you got to know what you’re doing. First of all, the most important part is you need to know what you’re doing. You cannot wake up in the morning, go to work and try to stitch a few things together.

It doesn’t work that way. You really have to know what you’re doing. You really need to be on top of the work that you do. If not it’s going to become hard. I don’t have words to explain this. It’s painful. It’s that every day you die every day because you’re in a crappy situation and you will never you can never get out of it. Okay. And not only that, you know what you are doing but you also have to like that which you are doing. Imagine me showing up on this podcast and not liking this and Not knowing, of course, knowing I can you can figure out what I’m doing. But if I don’t like what I’m doing, that’s, that’s horrible. Now, there’s a third element to this also, which is you got to believe that which you are doing. So know like and believe. I just not only believe that what I do, but there is also this underlying belief that that which I do is helping people.

Not only just not I don’t believe that, okay, yes, but podcasting also is the right thing to do, or coaching is the right thing to do. Mentoring is the right thing to do. It’s not, but I believe that it’s helping people. And the way you believe that what you are doing is when you associate your work with a higher purpose, your mission, your purpose and that you believe in the end result. The end result is not an organization, the end result is not the title, it’s not the money, it’s not who you dine with, who you wind with none, none of those people. So amazing. Even at this time, of the age we are in right now, people still give these or my help. In my last job, I had like 300 people to put in I only have 50 people. I’m like, really? Does it matter? I hear that I hear that there is there are some measures that have to go away. That’s the incorrect way to really bring the best out of you when you start looking at these numbers, salary, people reporting their titles, your title, none. So, the end goal is, you know, whatever you’re doing, whatever I’m doing, you know, does it align to a bigger purpose, and I have a mission, you know, and then it really impacts and changes, transforms, whatever, I have those in my mind. But it could be something totally different for you, whatever it is. You know, there are two measures, and I’ll talk about measures, there are two measures. Everything you do has to be something that has to happen for you. Okay. And everything I do, I’m for me, it’s about impact. That has to happen, there has to be some level of impact, if not money, on all those things that don’t really excite me. Young when I was young, yeah, maybe not anymore, right? So there has to be something Something has to happen. And that has to for me is the impact. And they’re also something also I want to Okay, so has to and want to these are two things that I always look forward to in things that I do. Unhappiness at work has to do with your mental state. And the pursuit has to be the pursuit not to change the job. That means you’re changing external variables. And changing anything externally doesn’t really necessarily change something that’s happening internally. So your likes, dislikes, your tastes, and your inclinations have to do with what is happening inside of you. It has nothing to do with it. And this has to do with your belief systems.

This has to do with the way you have created some associations within yourself. And probably this has to do with the environment that you’re in, maybe people around you do not have the right conversations. They do not. Probably they’re focused on the wrong things. Maybe you are drawing that energy from the environment. Maybe I could be wrong, though. You know, your job will absorb your entire life. That’s the truth. I was just talking to my nephew the other day. He says I’m going to retire in two years. Wow. And I said, What’s your definition of retirement? Well, I wake up in the morning and I will do whatever I want to do. I don’t need to go anywhere. I said I’m doing that for the last 15 years, or more than 15 Now, I wake up in the morning, and I choose what to do.

So the sad story is that your job is going to take over your entire life. So you better be liking it. I tell you. I don’t know if I answered your question or not. But I attempted and I’m going to stop here. You enjoy your Sunday and I’ll catch up with you tomorrow. Beautiful new week, Monday. Okay, stay tuned.