5 Moves To Create Lasting Change In Life

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On the podcast today, we are talking about making lasting changes in life. I’m sharing with you five specific changes I made in my life. And I have seen a tremendous amount of change in the way I work the way I operate the way I think the way I communicate in the way I navigate life. Welcome, welcome back to success restraining Happy Hump Day to you. Every day that I’m here recording this podcast, I’m looking at the calendar, I’m looking at the clock, and I’m getting closer and closer to the year 2022 coming to an end, and I’m getting worried I have so many things to do. And my time is running out, it’s crazy what’s happening, five moves, five changes, or five things that you have to do to create lasting change in your life. If I were you, I’m going to make these my goals for the year 2023. If you’re listening to this podcast in 2023, then make it for the next year.

So let’s get into this. The first one is moving from indecision to becoming decisive. It’s very simple to say that right? So hey, you’re not decisive, you’re leading your life in indecision, you got to get rid of that. But how do you do that, by forming a stronger identity within which you know, who you are, you know, your values, your beliefs, your passions, your purpose, and you understand your engagement? So moving from indecision to identity, very, very. So if you have a strong identity, the indecisions are not going to hurt you. That’s the point here. So set a goal for yourself to move and work towards moving away from being indecisive, to be stronger, more aligned to who you are, and to the values to your core values. And that’s you do that for a stronger identity. Okay, that’s the first one second one, let’s talk about this. From friction to an agreement. See, friction is I have no money, I have no time I don’t know what I’m doing. I don’t think there’s going to work. Nobody likes me, nobody loves me. This is friction. Friction is whatever I’m doing is right, whatever you’re doing is incorrect. So creating resistance. So you create internal resistance for yourself by saying, I don’t have this, I don’t have that I don’t know, you know this amount of work or not. So you’re creating internal resistance for yourself or friction for yourself. And when you’re talking to people around you who care and who love you, and you are telling them that they need to follow you they need to do according to your ideals, then you are creating friction with them. So friction on both sides has to go. And you remove that by creating an agreement frame. In your mind, the agreement starts with you making an agreement with yourself that you are going to be flexible with yourself in your own things. So you eliminate internal friction. And then obviously you eliminate external friction to that is giving enough value giving enough respect to other people around you to the views and to their opinions. And you’re in a way you’re agreeing with them. That should be a second goal. Let’s talk about a third 1/3 Move or third step which is moving from insearch to insync.

See, you’re searching for a job you’re searching for some peace, you’re searching for some love, you’re searching for something every individual is searching for something. The idea here is your search is going to lead you to your grave. There is truth to this and people spend all their life trying to solve problems looking for, some unicorn solution to their issues. I get those calls, I get those messages from people. There is it’s a drain on you on your time to keep on searching for something bad or get in sync. Getting in sync means that okay, this is life. This is how it’s going to flow. This is who I am. This is what I have. This is why I do not have an eye to just move along with life in sync with life. The fourth one up be an investigator and start becoming an investor. So moving from investigator to investor, I’m not talking about money, I’m not talking about making money and all that. See our mind, because of its senses, was talking about it yesterday and said, you know how we one of the mechanics of the mind is to protect itself? So because of that, and because of the society we are in and with everything that’s happening around us, it’s obvious for the mind to become more investigative. But unnecessary investigations lead you to no results that drain you emotionally, and mentally. So, in order to create any change order to create any outcome, there has to be investment, not investigation. To an extent it’s okay. But to an extent, it’s all about you making something work. I’ll give you an example. I get this all the time. I want to buy a business, I had somebody, multiple people tell me asked me this question, I want to buy a business. But every time I showed them a business to buy, their response was, if the owner is selling the business, they might be selling it because something is wrong with the business, hence, I don’t want to buy. So which one should I believe in the first statement, I want to buy a business. So effort goes into finding a business. And then when you find a business, you don’t want to buy because you think that the seller is selling because there is some flaw in the business, some issues some hidden issue, see, you know, it’s okay to do that once or twice, but then there is a belief level disconnect. So you need to have the right beliefs in place.

So, you know, trust is something that it’s very difficult to learn trust, by the way, but it can be learned. So there is again, there is a lot of literature the on the topic of trust and how to build that internally and how to use it to make external choices. But on one side, you’re saying I want something, and on another side you are saying I don’t want it because this should be something wrong with this. So that part is going to drain you that part is going to the thinking is going to constrain you it’s going to become an obstacle in your growth process. So you will say okay, it doesn’t matter. I understand. But let me see, what can I do with it? How do I drive this? How do I apply myself to this so that I can create the outcome that I’m seeking, there is nothing called a good job. That is nothing called a good business, there is nothing called a good relationship, and there is nothing called a good investment. I have not seen it all comes down to your own pedigree. How far you want to drive something how far you want to invest, invest your time, invest your efforts, sweat blood tears, you’re willing to do that it’s going to yield results for you. And that is why different people, when given the same equation, derive different results in business, for sure, of course, in relationships to interest how this works. So move away from being an investigator to an investor. And the last one, this one is something the pursuit of perfection is over, Amplified, there is nothing called perfection.

So what you see and what you’re seeking is progress. So move away from perfection, towards progress. As long as you are progressive, as long as you are moving, as long as you are covering the ground to whatever goal you have. Whatever outcome as long as you’re covering the ground towards that outcome, you are good. You may not arrive there perfectly. You know, not everybody who runs a marathon gets to complete the marathon in under two hours. Some do. Some people do take six hours or eight hours to complete the marathon. And when they do show up, they show up on one lamp. It’s not about perfection. It’s about achieving, it’s about progression. It’s about that covering the journey. These five in some shape or form should be part of your goal-setting agenda for 2023. If I were you I want to set all these five as my goes I did this overtime over a long time. And I did not really put these things together the way I’m putting them right now on this podcast. I wish somebody told me this early on. But I’m doing that here. Hopefully, this is helpful. If it is, let me know. 888-818-0404 is very contexted me. And if you liked today’s podcast on any of the podcast episodes, please write a review, or share it with a friend or a family member who you think will benefit from this. And that’s all for now. I hope this is good. And before you know it, I’ll be with you as the rest tomorrow. Stay tuned. Thank you.

Why Dream Big After All

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One of the basic ingredients, one of the elemental ingredients for creating any level of success is a dream. Now, without a dream, nothing is possible. Some people agree some do not agree, but they still dream, all of us dream, if you study the body of self-improvement, the entire work, which is very hard to do, but if you study the author, speakers, trainers, mentors, philosophers guides, you study, whatever the road, whatever they say, or whatever they already said, you try to see many commonalities, and one of the biggest standout commonality is dreaming big books written on this topic, there is so much literature already there. So today, what I want to do is, I don’t want to talk about how to dream big, that is how the topic has been discussed already. I want to highlight why to dream big.

So, one of the challenges of the human mind is the mind wants to believe conceive, and create, it wants to lead, but the challenge is, the mind cannot lead until it follows. So, the mind needs to follow. So your job is to feed the mind with the right information and allow the mind to expand to a point where it starts leading you. And this is a this took me a long time to understand this concept. And numerous books, numerous philosophers, and numerous authors, I studied to arrive at the conclusion that the mind needs to follow before it can lead. Let’s talk about the mind for a second what are what is happening in the mind? Well, there are three things if you really, really go to the basics, there are three things the mind is doing. The mind obviously has intellect. Intellect means your thoughts, your emotions, your feelings, all that can be put in that category called intellect. Then comes the image. Now images, memories, and experiences, the reason why we will return bombs calling an image, or the category of images, because the mind repaints experiences or memories in the form of images, even though we think that we are retaining information, as if it’s a movie, but it is stored in the form of images, but when it is retrieved, you construct a movie or a flow to those images. And then the third part is identity. Me I. So there comes ego there. And then position status, all these things come in, within identity. So three eyes actually formed the brain and the mind. So first one is intellect. The second one is an image. And the third one is identity.

Now, if you study different philosophies, ancient philosophies, they all talk about this, and all of them more or less, you know, touch these topics. Now, using intellect, using the images that we form. And using our identities, we navigate the environment we are in. And sometimes we want to break free of the environment. And in the process, we want to create our own environment. So while we are operating in an environment, what’s happening? Well, in order for us to operate in the environment, we need to protect ourselves. We need to grow, we need to achieve a few milestones and maybe some goals and we need to provide and we want to thrive in the environment.

Now. Sometimes we do break away from the environments and we disassociate ourselves and we go and do other things. But every time we disassociate we create another environment for ourselves. So whatever the case is, the idea of the way the mind works is it’s comparing contrasting it’s studying understanding, and measuring, so aligning, zooming in forming all these activities going on in the mind with an idea that it has to either thrive or survive in the environment. That’s it, right? Now, where does a dream come into all this? You see, to really survive in the environment, you just can’t survive like that, because there are too many risks. If you, for example, if you stop doing what you’re doing there is a risk. If you do not apply the skills that you have towards a progressive goal, then there is a risk. So there’s a risk, so you can’t stay idle, there is nobody can, anybody with some basic understanding of life with a basic understanding of how life operates, they can’t stay static, they can’t stand still. So they have to move. Now, when you talk about moving, now, where should you move, you got to move towards an outcome, or to a goal or something like that. So a big dream kind of allows you to experience a sense of achievement. So the bigger the dream is, the more will be this sense of achievement. Now, how do you attain this sense of achievement, you attain that by setting goals by passionately, you know, defining a purpose and passionately pursuing the purpose and, and getting focused towards the outcomes, whatever those outcomes are, and, and trying to attain that fulfillment. That’s how this works.

So in order to set goals in order to have a sense of achievement, in order to define an order, identify a passion, define a purpose, and work towards fulfilling that purpose. And staying focused on that purpose, all these activities become easier when there is a dream, to begin with. Now, the bigger the dream, the more these things become. The more you can experience these things more you can pursue these things and you feel you are in control of your life, or you have this sense of you become more congruent. That’s the word I was looking you become more congruent. So I want you to look into your dreams today. And if possible, I want you to take a moment and write down some of your dreams. And you put a question mark around these dreams, whatever you write, maybe five or 10, whatever you have. And it’s not hard because these dreams are there within you, you haven’t taken the time to really sit down and put them on paper and you start writing these dreams, I want you to look into your reality, and ask a question for yourself. Is this dream big enough? Is it big? If you don’t get the answer, that answer doesn’t really talk to you, then all the goals, all the outcomes that you set for those that dream, they’re going to be mediocre. It has to really resonate the minute you write it down, you look at that you read it and you feel like you jump out of your chair, jump out of your bed. That’s the kind of feeling you need to have within you. Wow. So one of the goals I had was one of my dreams was to go climb Mount Everest. And, and big dream took literally, you know, 20 years of dreaming 10 years of working one year of full-time work to go and try to you know, get up there did not happen. I couldn’t get there. That’s a different story. But all these things played out goals for the dream, you know, purpose, you know, my passion, my purpose in the end, and the pursuit to fulfill this dream. It’s amazing how congruent I became along the way.

So I want you to see whether the dream that you have is big enough. If you’re making $100,000 just making this up, you make $100,000 a month, a year. Why not be $100,000 A month $1.2 million a year? Why not? Why not shoot for 100,000 a month? See if you wake up in the morning, thinking I make $20,000 a month, that’s my salary, then that’s how the mind is going to operate in it. That’s the measure of the mind. The mind has nothing to do to calibrate itself because the gap immediately fills the gap because the gap is attainable, or there is no gap for the mind. But what if it’s 100,000 200,000? a month? 10,000 a month. And now the mind is thinking, okay, how can I get there? How can I get there? This power to this? There are numerous books written on this concept. And I want you to get this book. The magic of thinking big. Get this book. I read this book in the year 1998 or 99, I believe. Not sure to nearly 40 years ago, well, you probably won’t need to go get the book, read the book. I promise you, your mind is going to expand at a whole different level altogether. Okay, I’m going to stop here. And before you know it, I’ll be with you. That is tomorrow. Stay tuned. Keep listening.

Lessons Learned From Living Through Difficult Times

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It’s Monday morning, the start of a new day, the start of a new week. Welcome, or welcome back to success with Srini. On the podcast today, I am going back to a question. In fact, a suggestion that I received a few days ago when I was at a conference, I’ve been talking about this conference and some of the questions I got there. So at a conference, talking to a bunch of people in the hallway, and this gentleman says, Trini, I’ve been on your email for over 10 years now, on my email list for 10 years, I don’t send a lot of emails. Not at a level that I should be sending. But I should, but I don’t. I’ve been on your email for 10 years now. And he was now listening to this podcast, he says in I have some suggestions for you. And you should do a podcast on all the difficult emails that you sent out. I was like, wow. As I said, what emails I sent it, oh, you sent about your father’s stroke, then all the challenges that happened as a result of that, and then your mother’s cancer, then your father-in-law’s cancer, then you lose your God, brother, your cousin to heart failure. I’ve seen all these emails, and, and all the other emails that you talked about, and in all the challenges you’re facing, and you should talk about all these lessons you learned in one of the podcast episodes, great suggestion, incredible suggestion, I never thought this way. So, so amazing, when somebody walks up to you and talks to you like this, you know, it’s like, wow, what, and how people think you know, what, sometimes like, I’m like, I feel like so insignificant when, and someone comes in and talks like this, like, wow, you know, there’s so much of so much that is out there. And I’m like, I’m so small in front of all this stuff. So I thought I will, I will record a podcast on this, you know, some lessons learned, living through some difficult times. I like.

So I was thinking if I have to talk about how I lived through some difficult times and have to share some lessons on a podcast, what should I say? What will I say? And I was thinking about it. And as I was focusing on it, it turns out that I have a few things to share. To talk about, but I don’t know if it’s of value or not, you let me know if it is or not. So here are my observations through all this. And I really thought this through. There are two things that will happen to everybody. Regardless of who you are, and what you do. Doesn’t matter. Two things will happen. And they happen. But they happen to all of us regardless. But I happen to open my eyes and recognize this because I went through some challenges. But they’re happening, it’s happening to you also right now, regardless, now I don’t expect or think about any bad times on anyone. Whether you are my friend or my four doesn’t matter. I don’t wish for any bad times I wish, you know, a tremendous amount of success, happiness, joy, and fulfillment to everybody doesn’t matter. That’s how I process myself. So, here is what I’ve seen. Everything that you have today will be tested. Every strength you have today will be tested. every possession you have will be tested. For example, let’s say you think that your experience and your skills are your assets. That’s what you have, they will be tested.

Suddenly, you will be put in a situation where you start to question really do have will it work. Can I make it happen? So something will happen? Will we be tested on that? Let’s say you have possession. You have a house or land or whatever. suddenly somebody claims that you know this is mine, you can’t come in you are no more the owner suddenly becomes a nightmare. Maybe you have some gold, maybe you have a car or whatever, whatever possessions you have, they will all be tested. And trust me, you know your children will fight over them. Your siblings you know will fight over them. It’s just it, that’s how life is. So everything you have will be tested. Now, everything you do not have will exploit you. So everything that you have will test you, and everything that you do not have will exploit you. For example, if you don’t have the skills, but somehow you got the job, you’d be exploiting I mean, that’s it, you will be done exploiting it, you will make an investment for which you do not have the money you are exploiting. You start a business for which you don’t have the skills and talents will be exploited. Employees will exploit your system will exploit you. I mean, it’s this is how it works. So, things that you have, you will be tested, tested, and things that you do not have will be exploited. So, the question is I will I’m oversimplifying this, there are many things to this. So I want you to grasp the message here, not necessarily the words, or specifics I, I’m talking about, I mean, I want you to catch me through my feelings and through the silence hear things that I’m not saying you got to listen to those. So whatever assets that you had yesterday, the if they have not yet become your liabilities today, that means you are okay, you’re doing good. But every asset you have sooner or later will become a liability. It’s very difficult to understand this. But that’s the truth, every asset will become a liability.

First, it becomes a difficulty then becomes a liability. So a lot of examples there. But I did several podcasts on this in the past, anything and everything that you think you have today, or what you had for a long time. For example, I’ll give you one thing, you have a house, you have a land you have, you know, whatever. And what one point it was an asset, your experience was an asset, your job was an asset, your skills were an asset, your business was an asset, suddenly, you’re in a position now you can’t take care of them anymore. You can’t work on them anymore. And now suddenly their liabilities. Interesting. So how do you lead a life? How do you break through these circumstances? How do you make yourself? How do you find yourself in all this? That’s the question. Well, there are four things that I have seen. I mean, there is there’s more to this also. But I tried to simplify this on this podcast, three things, four things, two things, because people, anybody who listens to this can, they can take some notes, mental notes of what I’m sharing. So I want to simplify and oversimplify things on the podcast here. So coming back, there are four things I’ve seen, that have kept me in the game that will keep you in the game before going through some hardship, through some challenges right now. The first and foremost is acceptance. You got to accept the fact that you are not in control, that you can’t control the outcomes, that you can’t change the destiny of others you can’t make others follow, understand you or follow or believe in you or trust you none. You cannot because everybody, everything has a mind of its own. And everything operates in its own way.

Every human, every relationship, everybody, everybody has their own mind, they’ve all they all want to operate in their own way. So you cannot control a lot of things that you otherwise think you are controlling the day you accept that you are not in control, that is the only day that you will be in control. So and if I had to take it realistically accept in Acceptance comes in different forms. You have to, first of all, accept who you are. The place where you live, the people with whom you live everything you have to accept. This is the truth. This is the reality. This is where you exist. This is how you operate. And why create friction Why fight? Why have a discord because it’s not going to add up? If at all it’s going to add up in a negative manner. What’s the point? It’s a must-win battle or loses the war. So starts with acceptance. Yesterday I talked about gratitude. So the second one is gratitude.

And, again, gratitude, I said, you know, appreciating small little things that you have in life, attaching meaning, and not worrying about what others have removing yourself from that competitive mindset. All that. And yesterday said I’m going to share with you an experiment I did. And, here is the experiment I did. For one day, for one whole day, this was something I did about in the month of May, or April or May of this year. 2022. I took one day, I woke up in the morning and I said, thank you, for everything. Opened my eyes. I looked at Oh, thank you. Wow, the day I got a day. Okay, so I started from that. And all thankful for the water, thankful for the air and every small little thing. Everything for 24 hours, I said thank you. In the end, at the end of the day, I lost count after 165 Thank yous roughly. I didn’t count. So by the time I said 165 Thank yous, it was already. So I woke up at 430. By the time seven, seven o’clock, I was already 165. Thank you, sir.

So if I take 24 hours, or whatever, throughout the day, right? I have easily crossed 1000. Thank yous easy. That takes just a thank you word. That’s it. That’s all thank you for this. Oh, thank you for that. So got started. Thank you. The tracker is moving. Thank you. It’s amazing. What it did, I forgot who I am. I forgot what I was doing. I forgot I had no resentment, no frustration, and no anger. Not that I have but didn’t have all I was in a different altered state of existence throughout the day. The incredible practice works. Prior to that I also did one more gratitude, experience experiment, which is saying thank you three times a day and time saying sorry, three times a day. So if you are on my email list, you might have gotten some emails from me, you are text messages. If I text anybody, I start I’m every text message in every interaction with any individual there is and there is a word Sorry. It’s strategically done. Not to gain any advantage. But every time I say that that word is designed to modify me that that puts me on the lower side of that interaction. And I implicitly transfer the power into the hands of the other person. And that is an element of gratitude. That’s it. So mentally, I don’t picture myself on about anybody who never did. I never woke up and said, I know more than somebody else that I have more than of this than anybody else ever did. And this is the sequence that has gotten this years ago. And I talked about that in the podcast also. So gratitude keeps you going through difficult times. Obviously patience.

See, patience means calmness. And calmness means no anxiety, no frustration, and no overwhelm. When you’re calm, you don’t have these things. I get that question all the time. I’m always like, too many things going on with me. You know, I’m like, always anxious, always stressed out. And I said, you know, you got to practice patience. Simple. Practice patients to become calm, are calmer. And when you’re calm, there is no that means the mind is centered. In the end, there is no old flow of thoughts or emotions. And you are in control of your senses. That’s it. That means you’re calm. That means you’re practicing patience. It’s amazing how problems go away when we give time to them. So just give them the time they go away. Magical. And the last one that will get you through difficult times is a lesson that I learned. He is you got to become resilient. Like doesn’t matter what is coming at you or Who is throwing what at you It doesn’t matter every time just sit back, pick yourself back, and get back into the game. You’ve seen that you know successful people do that beat and they fall down. They gather pick themselves up and come back into the game. The more you are knocked down, the more you stand up. That’s it.

Now, you could be hurt. You could be weak. Doesn’t matter, you stand up. These are the four things that have gotten me I could have added more. But there is so much to this as you’ll see clearly. Okay, I’m going to stop here. Hopefully this helps if it is let me know at 888-818-0404 Where you can text me and keep listening. Thank you.