Want to Live Life to the Fullest? Get in Touch with your True Feelings

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In the last three days, we have been talking about frustrations, fear, and many other topics in the last few days. So I just wanted to, to kind of take all these things together last few days of different ideas that I’ve been sharing with you, I decided to take all that together today and share in an overall position that I have on this. I’ve been telling you how to express your frustrations and how to overcome your fears. The question becomes is this should you really stop yourself from expressing yourself? What is the quality of living should you express or not express, so somebody is attacking you somebody is showing the anger somebody is making your life difficult should you express or you should not express.

One of there was a research that was done in the United Kingdom, UK. And one of the bad vicious that people expressed was that they wish they could have expressed their feelings rather clarified their feelings to the people with who they were dealing in their lifetime. They wish they expressed more. That’s a deathbed wish. So the quality of our life is based on the way we express our emotions. So in the last two days, I’ve been telling you to be careful how you express your frustration. Be careful how you deal with the fears, because your fears might be separating you from the outcomes. So how do you do this? See here is the truth. The truth is everything that we need is always with people and through people, in many times for people, everything that we are doing. So there is not a single individual I met who said, you know, I’m trying to become successful because I just want to become successful. Right? In their mind, even though they may say that, in their mind, they know they become successful, they want to make more money, or maybe something is going to come as a result of that, of that success. And then somebody beyond them is going to benefit from it. That’s the people talk about legacy.

People talk about charity contribution, all that. So there is a benefit to expressing your emotions. Because the quality of life goes up. If you can express your emotions, you lead a fuller life, even though it could be a small living from a duration standpoint, but you live a fuller life. You lead a fuller life by taking difficult topics on you difficult circumstances on you. And as you express yourself through those circumstances, that means life will be led with some challenges. So when you deal with challenging situations, you are discovering yourself and you’re discovering your true potential, a full lot of life. When you express your emotions, you are also becoming more authentic. So when you’re authentic, that means people will accept you who you are, you don’t need to tell people who you are at that point in time you are authentic, you are telling who you are. When you express your emotions, the majority of the time many of your fears also go away. There is no buildup of any unwanted unnecessary references and all that in the mind. You are more in agreement with things around you. So fears typically vanish.

As a result of that. Naturally, when you are expressing yourself, that means you have a better dynamic with your within your core relationships. But above all this when you express your feelings, people around you feel that liberated. So if I’m doing this, right, if this podcast is right, and I’m expressing myself, right, you feel that you are liberated because you feel that yes, there is possible, what you’re hearing, you can implement that in your life and you feel that sense of possibility. So there is courage that spreads as a result of you expressing your emotions. Sometimes, when you’re direct when you’re honest, it makes things easier for you but also makes things easier for others. So, for example, if somebody is frustrating, you shouldn’t take a position and say, the way you are saying what you’re saying the way you’re expressing is frustrating me. And I want to tell you that I want to be very clear, I understand that there is a risk by me saying this to you. Maybe you will not as many more men will dislike me. But still, I want to say this to you because I think this is the right thing. Sometimes you need to have the conversation sometimes not always. But sometimes it’s important that you clarify your intentions because when you do that you are promoting the common good for everyone. Of course, there are risks every time you do that, but then you as a well-rounded individual, understand risks. Sometimes, when I take account of some of my emotions, in a way, I’m also taking account of other emotions that I don’t, express unknowingly. So when I clarify my intentions with some people, then I don’t get frustrated, I don’t get annoyed, I don’t get angry later on. So in a way, I got control of both attitudes of mine. Yes, the expression of emotions needs to happen. Again, like anything else, we are talking here.

When you are expressing your emotions, you just can’t straight away do this. It’s sometimes there are, maybe you are introvert, maybe you are respectful. Maybe you have certain dynamics within which you exist, where you don’t want to challenge a few things. And maybe you need to have to build that courage to do that. But for all that, we suggest you start small. Practice gradually, and understand the situations, use the languaging. Maybe start with small things, right, and assess how things affect you as a result of you standing up, and then you go out, all out. So this is a practice, you got to do that regularly. So communication improves, presentation improves, positioning improves, interaction improves, acceptance improves, everything improves. So in a way, you do this, right conflicts also go away, because you’re expressing yourself more. And one thing I want to tell you, as we are on this topic, here expressing yourself, you also need to be respectful to boundaries, people are who they are. Just because you have decided to become vocal and have pride in your things, you may not be their priority. They don’t understand you that way.

If that’s the situation, it could create a whole different dynamic at that point. So there is some level of sensitivity that you need to carry within you. And maybe don’t be directly on some topics. Right. So some people have, for example, political beliefs, religious beliefs, you don’t need to be direct on those. And if you do, then there are other deeper consequences. So that’s where the concept and analyzing the consequences important. But then, here is my observation when it comes down to me studying people who express themselves. People who express themselves, clearly, who express their emotions are people who are good listeners. So it starts with you listening. You’re giving full attention to people. Understanding how they’re attuned what they’re tuned to what are their concerns. Sometimes it’s important in maybe on a conversation where you’re somebody’s saying something that you have absolutely no understanding of what’s going on, and you’re overwhelmed. You got to listen, you got to ask yourself to clarify what it is that you’re saying. Then you take your time to reflect. And then you go back into the discussion. And then you clarify your emotion and you clarify your intention. And then you position your argument, see how this works. That’s how I would approach it.

Hopefully, today’s podcast is helpful. If it is, then you know the drill, you can write a review for this podcast, make a comment or share it with your friends and family. If you have a question for me, please, by all means, the number on the podcast is 888-818-0404. Call me leave me a message or text me or email me, you know how to reach me. That’s all for now. The idea of me sharing all this is because I want you to have a life that is to the fullest. And you cannot have a full life unless you truly get in touch with your feelings. And sometimes you got to get those feelings in the open. You bottle them up, then life becomes dull. It’s boring and challenging. So your job is to keep on enriching your experience. At the same time empowering those people around you.

Why Confront Fears Face-to-Face

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Welcome, or welcome back to Success with Srini. Today is a Friday morning as I’m recording, happy weekend to you Happy Friday to you. Given today is a weekend, I’m going to keep this podcast very small and precise, hopefully still impactful. One of the elements that separate people from their success is fear. This fear is just enough in itself enough to derail somebody from their success. Despite having no harm, experienced knowledge, wisdom, connections, resources, everything, you could have everything. But just because you have that fear, you will not attain the outcomes. Sometimes fear can turn the world upside down in practically no time. So the question becomes is how do you confront fear? Or should we confront fear? Well, clearly, you can’t hide from it. No matter where you go. It’s going to chase you. So rather confront.

Question is, what’s the most effective way? For the best technique? I get this question all the time. I’ve done numerous podcasts on numerous radio shows on this topic on how to overcome fear within hypnosis, there are so many concepts that so many different approaches you can take. But what I want to do today on today’s podcast is I’m going to keep this very precise, and not get into the hypnosis part of this. techniques are many. And even in yesterday’s podcast, I talked about the same thing. I said the only way you overcome frustration is to this podcast is you, in principle agree that you will not get frustrated. And that’s also true. In today’s podcast, which is the best way to overcome any fear is to tell yourself what’s the worst that could happen? You ask a question to yourself, What could go wrong here? Seriously speaking, I mean, yesterday, I talked about this too, I said, I don’t sweat small things. And everything is small, very to fear, in general, is a shadow feeling something that develops in the back of our mind, you know, it’s an unconscious thing. And it takes a shape and form based on how much we think about it.

We kind of make it bigger, it doesn’t exist. It doesn’t have any physical shape or form. It’s something in our mind, we create it, we nourish it, we make it bigger than us. So it’s a small thing. We may have made it very big in our minds. So what is the verse that could happen as a result of this fear? Staying with me? It’s a question you have to ask. Now, some people tell me that they have small fears, they have big fears. I asked them even in consultations therapy, to ask the question said to know, if you have to grade this fear, on a scale of zero to 10, zero being small, and it being high. You know, where do you put it? Well, I would say maybe two or three. Okay, okay, fine. So if there’s two or three that Mr. Small? Yeah, okay, so do you have any other fears, they come up with 510, whatever number of fears, usually, an individual is fearful. That means they’re leading their life with fear. So they fear everything, and they have a long list of things to fear about. So they kind of put all that on paper. And I start looking into each of them and say, Okay, start categorizing them based on high, medium, and low. So they usually have a few on the low side, a lot in the middle. And then a lot more on the extreme side. So the strategy there is that there is some capability within you to deal with fears. So why not take that capability and focus on the smallest fears you have. So let’s look into all the smallest parts you have. And you tell yourself that you are capable of facing these fears. Because you have the skills and the energy to deal with them. So you’re never you’re prepared. And you kind of create that comfort in them in their mind that he has this can be dealt with. So the small fears are not larger than you.

They’re not larger than your life. And you can overcome them, you can defeat them. That’s the start. I usually take that path. And then I tell them to learn from what they are going through as they’re dealing with the small fear. So usually I send them back. I tell them, go deal with it. And come back in a week or 10 days and let me know what was the lesson you took when you were dealing to overcome the small fear. So the suggestion to them is this one because the only day marked as small, so I’m not telling them it’s a small fear, they marked it as a small fear. So they know that they have now the capability to deal with it. So they go home, they come back after a week they tell me so So yeah, you know, I was able to overcome this fear. So that’s a win. And now we use this as a positive spin to deal with bigger fears, they have the middle fears to help, Nick. So it starts with categorizing the fears in three different buckets and dealing with the smaller ones, going to the middle and then going to the extreme in a bigger one. You can try this technique, by the way, and it works. And it’s another explanation to you how this works. It should work. Now, every time there is a success with dealing with the fear, we feel good about ourselves, we feel accomplished, we feel just good, good about the whole thing. So that kind of kick starts the next process.

Now, here is the truth. And this is a universal truth, everything that we need. And everything that we will get. And everything that we deserve, is on the other side of fear. When I was going to Everest, people told me don’t go you will die. And yeah, but how much do you know about Everest? But not much. I saw Everest on History Channel. I see it on YouTube said well. But you don’t have any knowledge about Everest? No, no, but they show people dying the dead bodies on the mountain. True. But I have been to higher altitudes and I feel good about myself and I don’t see a problem. So you’re telling me people are not dying? I said no, I’m not saying that people are not dying people do die, people die everywhere. So there is an equal amount of risk right now that you have driving a car. And I have sitting here and recording this podcast, then somebody on average, the risk is the same. It’s how we perceive it. It’s how we perceive it. And there is a proven example.

This now has been made into movies, which is you put a plank of wooden plank between two different two rocks, and then you make you walk on the plank from one end to the other. It’s easy. But if you take the same plank with the same distance, you put it across two buildings, and you walk on that, then obviously you’re scared in the fall. So it’s just how we associate ourselves to that fear. And a lot has to do with the way we were raised a lot has to do with the way we were exposed to or you know, in the upbringing and all that, but you get the idea. So where are we going with this, what happens once you overcome fear, there is something else that has to happen within you, which is you got to build the courage to face the fears. And when you do that, that’s when progress happens. And it’s an ongoing thing. It’s not like oh, I overcome. I’ve seen people who did overcome the fear of driving on the freeway, and then going high. It’s an all the hard fear before but then it did come back later. But you got to keep working at it. There is nothing in self-improvement or any place within which we’re developing ourselves or minds in any school of thought.

Every time there is a mind involved mind needs to be told. As much as it tells us to do what it has to do. So the mind has to be told. So it’s an ongoing thing. There is not a state within which you say I am I have done it I have experienced people lose experience to do. People get exposed to something you can say, God, you don’t have one year one, or two or five years of experience. But if you got exposed to it, but then over a period of a long time you lost that experience. Now you’re as good as somebody else who’s starting, but you have exposure from the past because you were at it for five years. So it’s an ongoing thing. But it starts with baby steps. And you become brave along the way and you conquer and you prevent this problem from coming towards you again. If you stay at it, why all this is going on you are now maximizing your potential to the fullest. So my challenge to you is to discover yourself. Deal with all the spheres you have at least one start with one and then see where you go with it.

Okay, I wanted to keep this small but then this When did longer, but you have a wonderful weekend. But for me, I’ll be here tomorrow, recording and sending your podcast. Bye now.

How To Overcome Frustration

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Welcome back to Success with Srini. Today on the podcast, I want to take up a topic, which has to do with our success or happiness and our joy, but mostly with our success. And this is something that we all suffer with. And we suffer from different proportions. And this is our ability to handle our frustrations. All of us there is a cap when it comes down to it, you know, our ability to handle situations beyond a certain point. All of us give up we are humans. So some people, have an urgency to express their upsetting feelings. It’s not that you should completely avoid expressing or upsetting feelings, but some people have an urgency to do it. And if you are one among them, then today’s podcast is going to be helpful. I’ve been asked this question across all my engagements, you know, how many how do we deal with frustrations? And the answer to that is, are there any techniques? Yes, there are. And I’ve tested a few myself. And over a long period of time, I’ve learned how to deal with it. But then I also get frustrated and frustration is an innate emotion, it is there in all of us. If you are a human, you are expected to become frustrated at some point in time. But if you have goals, you have ambitions you are trying to get things done. And then you are dependent on other people, you are dependent upon your energy, you’re dependent upon some hidden things that you don’t know. And because you’re dealing with a lot of unknowns, then it’s natural that you will find yourself becoming more frustrated as compared to other people. So how do you deal with this? Oh, the answer is one of the most efficient techniques to deal with frustration, is hypnosis. And I talk about it all the time. I’m a big proponent of it. And beyond hypnosis, certainly, you have to do the self-hypnosis that’s given. But beyond hypnosis, let’s say you want to do something outside of a technique that you would take six months or a year to learn. You’re going through it now you need a solution. Now, what will you do?

Beyond hypnosis, meditation, and mind expansion techniques, the first thing I would do is breathe. Breathing allows you to kind of dissipate that feeling that emotion very, very quickly. A long time ago, I talked about the 555 technique. And the 555 technique involves that you breathe, or you inhale, counting five, you hold your breath, counting five, and when you exhale, slowly counting five. So I’m gonna inhale, now, you’ll see this. It’s a small inhale, I could have done that in 30 seconds. But then let’s say, if I’m standing, I suggest that you stand and inhale. So you count five, when you inhale, like, I’ll do that slowly, and you’ll feel it. And I’m going to hold it for five. And then we’ll Excel this would be much better if I’m standing and doing it, I’m actually sitting and recording the podcast so you can feel it. So 555 is a good technique, you can take it to 666, or 777, depending upon what your lung power is, where you are in a given situation.

Usually, the idea behind this is when you are breathing, then your focus, your mind is shifting to your breath. So that means you are a little bit disassociated with what’s happening or whatever is the one thing that’s causing the frustration in you, you are disassociated from it for a moment. That’s the idea behind this. And I would practice that that’s very effective. And you could do it even if you are with a bunch of people in a social setting. Then the next method is obviously disengaged. And disengagement means that you walk away from the room, wherever you are, let’s say you are getting into a fight or you are seeing that there is going to become tense and there is not you’re going to get angry and all that. So you see it’s bottling up, then I would leave the room. I practice this for years and it works very effectively. So that is disengagement. And the third technique is, is challenge yourself not to say anything, regardless of what is coming at you. This is hard. This is like you’re putting a wall around you. But then, you know you don’t leave anything you don’t you’re not walking away from anything. But then you are sitting or standing there without saying anything. It takes a while to get into a position that involves a lot of things self-discipline. But then if you can practice that, that means the practice of not voicing your opinion immediately upon being challenged.

And naturally, one of the feelings we’re talking about here is frustration or feeling frustrated, right? So try to challenge yourself not to say anything. The best technique of all is something that I have seen this is the ability to expect the unexpected. There are some people in your life right now, you know, they will irritate you, they will, they will get you frustrated, whether knowingly or unknowingly not It’s not their fault, but then they can really trigger you. And you know, they have triggered you. So why not expect that behavior of font and get ready with your breathing and walking, have your technique in place or your wall technique in place within which you’re challenging yourself not to say anything. Magic happens, this is the best approach, being proactive is the best, that gives you a lot of energy.

Now, there are some other things like you can distract yourself, somebody is saying something to you, you can just take your mind somewhere else. That is, again, a mind expansion technique, you could do it I’ve you know, I’ve done in spontaneous hypnosis, self-hypnosis, on myself, and distract myself in a situation where I’m being attacked. I’ve done that. So there are some affirmations that I’ve run in my mind instantaneously, that I’ve done that, too. So these are all the techniques. But here is the biggest technique of all, which is every feeling dissipates. Your anger will dissipate, your frustration will go away. Why would you lose your reputation, all the things that you have built over the years to be where you are because hardly takes one thing to destroy everything? Just one thing. So why even engage in that activity. So one of the affirmations I use, in fact, affirmations I use is that I will never sweat, small stuff, no sweating of small stuff. And the second follow-up affirmation I have is everything is small too, don’t sweat the small stuff, and everything is small. It’s very simple.

So I already recorded a YouTube video on this on my YouTube channel, which I’m considering not to re-record, but maybe I’ll just have it there. The way it is, it sounds good. So maybe I’m going to have that you should check that out on my YouTube channel, all you have to do is go to YouTube and search for success with Srini or my name, you will find my YouTube channel. And I’m talking about the exact same things that I’m sharing here on that video also. So just if you want to see the video, then, by all means, do that. See it hear the truth, some shifting, some breathing, like shifting, using some breathing techniques, using some disengagement techniques, avoiding to speak techniques, there are so many different techniques that you can use to overcome frustration. But the technique is a technique. And you have to keep on applying this you have to keep on practicing index this for a long amount of time. The truth of the matter is you got to fundamentally agree that frustration is something that is unnecessary. It’s not about learning technique, but the support in principle agreeing that frustration is not necessary. When you do that, then none of these techniques matter at that point in time.

So I hope today’s podcast is helpful. Hopefully, you put this into practice, and hopefully, you want to get some results if you do, let me know. Please if you find a YouTube video, please comment on the YouTube video also. Okay, so that’s all for now. Wherever you are, be safe and we will talk tomorrow. Bye now.