Feel A Deep Sense Of Professional Uncertainty? Then Do This

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Welcome back to Success with Srini. Happy Sunday morning to you. A very, very interesting question has come in. And it’s an open-ended question. I expect specific questions on this podcast. If you have any questions for me let it let them be specific so that I can give specific answers. And people love specific answers. Not all the listeners love specific answers. So this is a generic question. It’s an open-ended question. So every time I come across an open-ended question, I don’t know how to answer it. Because there are so many different ways you can answer. And every time you take a path, you lose, or you ignore, or you miss taking 20 other paths to answer the question. So interesting question, because, okay, here is how it goes. Streaming I have been in Silicon Valley for about 11 years now, I make good money. But there is a constant fear. And I don’t know what’s going wrong with me. Or if there is anything wrong with me? How can I become fearless? It’s a wonderful question. It’s not a specific question, because the question was specific, then it should have been, okay, this is not going right with me or this job is not going right, or this investment is not going right, or my dynamic with my boss is not going right. Something specified. I wanted a little bit more specificity in the question, but it’s a good question.

So here is how I would approach it. If I wake up in your shoes, the few reasons why we feel this kind of uncertainty. And there are few areas I want you to look into. The foremost area is lack of trust in the nature of the work you do, or you don’t trust the work or you don’t believe in what you do, or that you don’t feel you’re equipped enough to do what you do, or you don’t trust the environment within which you work. Some of those along those lines, I want you to focus on that. Now, the reverse thought to that is that in order for you to really overcome this fear, this professional fear is that I want you to start believing that you are a real player, in whatever you’re doing, you’re a real player, that means you are the best in the game. That means that you have greatness in you, that means that you have what it takes to, to weather and stand and still make sense and still be impactful still be relevant to everything that would otherwise happen to you and to the profession and to the industry in general. That’s the kind of a conviction, we are talking about here. So that means if you study the real players, real players have some level of uniqueness to them. The question you have to ask yourself is what is unique about you? So take some time, sit down today? And answer that question. So talk around and talk to your spouse, your partners, your friends, whoever you have in your life, people who know you well ask them what is something unique about you? What is something about you that they think that you only have it and nobody has it? Nobody else has a toxic boss? Talk to your co-workers? Why not? But there’s another big question you got to answer. And that is, what is that you do that others rarely do? Or others do not do it often? Or others do it but you don’t see it? Or maybe they’re not doing it. That’s why you’re not seeing it. Right. So what is that you do? That’s so rare? Obviously, you are unique. But then what is it that you do that others rarely do? It’s the question.

And obviously, there is something in you that’s so unique and we all of us are unique, all of us are made different. So that isn’t going to be a situation where somebody is exactly like you. There is some training, some teaching some values, some beliefs, some upbringing, all that has made you who you are. So your job is not to deny that your job is not to question that your job is to find who you are. What’s unique about you, what is that you do that others do not do? Given that you have been given all this to you? And given that you are given all this? You have to kind of go deep and find this.

Once you know that that is the path. Well, that’s the starting point of you identifying your greatness. And identifying greatness is a lifelong pursuit. It’s not something that is done in one shot but once you identify this, I think it becomes easier. I think it becomes somewhat easier but you have to believe that you are a real player. You are real. You are unique. You feel you are undeniable, you are unique in what you’re doing. That’s where the peace starts. It takes away some of these fears, at least it’ll address some of these fears right away. But then this won’t help you, let’s say do this exercise in the next few days, this doesn’t help you, then maybe the problem is somewhere else, maybe something else is causing this uncertainty, this disconnect. If this doesn’t help, then one thing will definitely happen, which is, the real specific question will come out as a result of this, you will discover a few ways better ways to ask the question. And once you discover a few, a better way to ask the question, me or anybody else can help you. So that becomes easier for us people like us, whoever you’re asking this question too.

So that’s all for now. If you are listening to this podcast, hopefully, this is helpful in general, if you’re listening to the podcast, everybody else who’s listening to this podcast, hopefully, the cell phone. Hopefully, you see how I’m approaching this question. That’s all for now. You have a wonderful rest of the Sunday and something unique today. Something very unique today, but I’ll stop here. We’ll talk about this tomorrow for a podcast. Okay. That’s all for now. Wherever you are, be safe, and we’ll talk soon

How To Develop A Possibility Mindset

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Happy Saturday morning to you welcome back to Success with Srini. On today’s podcast, I want to talk about a book that changed my life when I read it for the very first time. And ever since I have been reading this book, and a lot of my radio shows, this podcast, my seminars, my bookshop, they all are influenced by this book. And this book is probably the second-best book on self-improvement. This book is written by printers, Montford, and this, I believe, came out in 1920, sometime 1925, I have the physical copy of this book. And I treasure this book. And I don’t know how much I paid for this book, maybe three $400 Because it was rare, which is not available anywhere. So somebody was selling it got it. I read this book once every seven, eight months because I paid I didn’t pay I invested into this book.

Okay, so today, I want to take something from this book, there is a lot in this book, but something from this book and I want to highlight that on today’s podcast episode. There are two sides to us. One is the higher self and the other is the lower self. The higher self of us has cravings. So the higher self of us is driven by a possibility mindset within which we are constantly pursuing ideas, we are constantly in friction. So a lot of things happening in our life, we want to become successful, we want to attain perfection, we want to give our best to everything and everything that’s happening around us and there are too many things going on. So we are constantly in the friction. And because of that, we are constantly arguing with ourselves. And we do that a lot with ourselves, we end up having those arguments spill out of us into people around us. And it’s good because we are pursuing everything at our best, we are giving everything that we have to everything that’s happening within us and outside of us. So, this is called an argument for freedom. And every time there is a pursuit for freedom, there is pain. Okay. So we want freedom from pain, and hence we are having this argument. Hence, our mindset is yes, it’s possible because we’re doing it every day. So we think it’s possible. And that is the craving we have and that is what is known as our higher self. So at this point, you know, if you are having these arguments within you, and you are pursuing freedom, freedom, from pain, freedom from all the chaos that is happening, and you are pursuing everything with everything that you have within you, that means you are higher, you’re a possibility, mindset driven individual, and practice your higher self.

Now let’s talk about the lower self, the lower self is a victimized mindset, where you’re constantly living by the standards defined by other people, and people who have a lower self. In other words, people who drive their existence with that kind of a measure where they’re constantly comparing and contrasting themselves with other people, and living by the standards defined by other people, usually are going to suffer for a long time. And that is why they say you are born to suffer if you continue to live in that mindset. So it’s a victimized mindset. So the higher self is a possibility mindset. The lower self is a victimized mindset. If you are a student of success, and you listen to this podcast and you read books and other podcasts you listen to, and you take personal responsibility for all that. That means every day you wake up in the morning, your job is to question how can I shift myself from the lower side to the higher side? That’s what this book is this book. Thoughts are things is the quote messages that you need to separate these two self serve you and constantly work towards moving from the lower self to the higher self. That’s what this book talks about.

Now, it goes into even more it talks about the material mind and the spiritual mind and how we are caught up with all the material stuff. But one of the other things this book also talks about is in order for you to move from the lower side to the higher side, from the lower self, the higher self. You need to create a thought atmosphere. And a thought atmosphere is where you read some good books, you mastermind with right people. You have some good ideas and you educate yourself constantly. When you do that on an ongoing basis for a long amount of time you unknowingly unconsciously graduate from the lower self to the higher self, that so many things, it talks about thoughts, adjustability, it talks about relationships, extortions and relationships and quite a number of things. This book talks about, I took numerous notes along the way over the years. But one thing is for sure that when you wake up in the morning, the first thing you got to ask yourself is what can I do today to put myself and get into the possibility mindset? And what can I do to avoid or diminish or eliminate the victimized mindset? So the pursuit is always for your higher self. And once you put yourself in that, and when you start or question yourself that way, at the start of the day, or early in the day, then reading, educating yourself having good conversations, all those things automatically happen. But I see people who read books, and who listen to great ideas, just because they want to do it because that’s the right thing to do. Or this is a cool thing to do. Well, results don’t happen because you are reading a book or you’re having a great conversation. I mean, of course, there’s always a positive effect of that. But then, it’s always good to do something with an overall and a bigger agenda in the mind, the bigger agenda here is that you are pursuing a higher self of view. And for that to happen, you need to do these things reading books or getting into great conversations are masterminding with incredible people.

Those are the steps for you to get to your highest self. If you can get this book, get it, read it, you will get some incredible ideas, you will get obviously, wisdom from this book. But then you will also discover how to form a higher order of your mind. So you formulate your mind to the highest order. That’s what this book has done. I will not tell you to just you know this, this can happen only if you read this book, you got to become a student of this book, there’s a big difference in reading a book versus becoming a student of this book. And one of these days, I’m going to come back on the podcast and talk about how I use books to make myself accountable to them. That’s a whole different discussion itself. But for now, get this book this all this book also talks about one more thing, which is how you can step away from being cynical and sarcastic about things and situations and people and all that. So there’s also an element of that in this book. So thoughts are things.

Essentially, the book is about everything that you see around everything that you touch and feel around what the thought was conceived by somebody. So the house you are in the car you are driving the phone that you are probably listening to right now this podcast, everything, everything around us, was a thought before it became a thing. So if you read your thoughts, your thought frequency, your thought vibration, then you can also create things. And creating a life with good thoughts is the easiest part. Refining a life-modifying your life and launching a life-extending life. Those are all easy with a good thought. But then you can do bigger things also, just by shifting your thoughts. That’s the message in his book.

That’s all. That’s all I had on my mind for today’s podcast, by all means, check it out. It should be available somewhere. It’s there on Amazon. I know there are multiple other reprints of this book. That’s all for now. Stay tuned. I’ll be back here again tomorrow. We’ll carry the conversation forward. Bye now.

How to Document Your Legacy: In 2022 & Beyond

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Today’s podcast episode is for you if you are in your 40s 50s, and even 60s. It doesn’t mean it’s not for you, if you’re in your 20s and 30s, it’s for everyone. But then I think if you’re in your 40s 50s, for sure you will connect with today’s message. The 60s, for sure you are with me if you’re in your 60s and beyond. And before I get going before I get started Happy Friday to you, because it’s a weekend, I’ll keep this very simple and precise. Okay, so you can think about this over the weekend. Okay, what are the next two days Saturday and Sunday? So the question is this question is, at this point in time in your life, you need to be thinking about your time here. 40s 50s 60s. That’s the time when we start thinking and how long we have, what’s the duration left? And what do we need to do with our time? So at any point in time in everybody has lived 50% of their life. So we don’t know what’s going to be like tomorrow. So we are above 50%, at any given point in time.

The question of legacy comes in the question of, and what happens after me, everybody wants to become immortal. This is the truth. Everybody wants to be remembered. Everybody wants to be cherished, long after they’re gone. If you historically go back, you’ll see that back in the day, people used to build cathedrals and temples, big buildings, big monuments, that’s the right word monuments. And that’s how they wanted to be leaving the legacy behind. That’s how they wanted to be remembered long after they’re gone. Then some people who could not build big monuments, they were doing paintings or writings, things like that. Along the way, books came by manuscripts that were before the books, but then manuscripts on palm leaves, if you go to different parts of the world, you will see manuscripts written on stones and in the mountains and things like that. And then afterward, books happened. And people started writing books, journals, and things like that. Then along the way, people started filming their stories, and obviously, audio, the video was all that came in. But we are in a time right now, where we can effortlessly leave our legacy behind. And a question that crossed my mind in 2017, and 2018 was if I’m going to go to Mount Everest, which was one of my goals, which I attempted in 2019. And given that, you go into an extremely dangerous place like that, again, the danger is relative. I never thought that to be a danger, but then people around me thought it is a danger, it was a danger.

If you look at statistics there, there is a decent amount of death rate, even though it’s not alarming, but still there is and people do die on the mountain. So the question that did cross my mind is if you go to Everest if I go to Everest, and if I don’t come back, then what is the message that I need to send to my children. So one of the projects I started working on right before I left for Everest, which I did not complete, was recording a bunch of the messages, the values, and beliefs that I would like my children to have, in case I don’t come back, not that they need it. But then I wanted to do it only for my children to record a bunch of videos and talk to them at different stages of life. And leaving those videos for them. I never completed it. But I did record a lot of those videos. And giving them some history about the family and you know where we come from and all that. So something they wanted to leave behind that was my only legacy, in my mind was to leave behind the story for them so that they can refer to it if they need it. Now, has it ever happened to you where a loved one of yours left? unexpectedly? You had some questions for them. And now you don’t know what to do. And you don’t know where to go.

So this was a thing that crossed my mind. What happens I leave and they have some questions for me and I’m not there to answer so I had to fabricate the question, I have to answer the question on a video and leave it behind for them. I tried. Now the reason why I’m sharing this with you today is a lot of those values are now I am leaving on this podcast. So if I have to train my child as an entrepreneur, I’m going to help my child in self-improvement or whatever I’m going to Want to leave that in this podcast? Now, I’m not expecting them to listen to this, I’m not expecting them to study me through this podcast, but I’m leaving it behind just in case. Now, today, we all have this opportunity to leave a legacy behind, primarily our work if need be. And one of the other ways to leave legacies obviously trained a bunch of people, you know, a bunch of students in whatever skill that you have. Now, that may not directly pass on to your children, your grandchildren. But then given the presence of social media, you can leave your Facebook account for your children, you can leave your YouTube account for your children, you can leave your website for your children bunch of information about who you are, what your values are, what your beliefs are, what your experiences are, what your skills are all that to your children and grandchildren and the next generation if you want to if you take your mind there if you take your mind that my father left a bunch of his observations of life. For me, he wrote 30-40 Different diaries for journals that he’s locked behind for me, I say left behind, he has not he’s not gone, he’s dead, but then some of his cognition because of a stroke. And he lost his memory because of a stroke. But now he has left behind a lot of writings, his writings that I can read if I want to.

The question now becomes is what is the most effective way to leave a legacy behind? Given that there are so many options available? What should you do to leave your legacy behind, and what’s the most effective mechanism to do so? I was thinking of my website, but my website is a website that is going to go down after I’m gone unless it is held through some other means. But it’s a paid website, or I pay every month to run my website at about $40 a month. So it’s going to go down it just you know, the website is not a mechanism to leave behind anything. It’s a good place to structure things, but it will run after you is a big question. If it runs at all if it turns green. So it’s a big question mark there. Then comes your Facebook account. Let’s talk about Facebook for a second. Facebook, usually retire the Facebook account after you’re done. Facebook expects that only active people be there on the platform. active people interact with active people, real people interact with real people. So they can do an ID request from you at any point in time they can do expect you to validate that you are alive and you’re you are who you are, so that they don’t allow fake people on there are fake identities on the platform, if you are gone, they expect that you nominate someone who will take care of the account after you are gone. So if you have not done that yet, do it quickly. But I did that already. So that’s a part of my time gone than I expect my children to close my Facebook account down. Then talk about podcasting. This podcast is a paid podcast. So every month I pay to run this podcast. So a hosting fee, I pay about $30 a month.

Now, once I’m gone, and I’m not producing this, I’m not expecting a $30 monthly fee to keep this podcast alive either. So this podcast is very contextual. It’s timely. It’s done. It’s done. It’s over. It’s over. I don’t I’m not expecting people to go back and listen to all the podcast episodes, specifically my children on my all the people who are expecting to listen to me to take this and listen to every episode of this podcast. I don’t think that’s going to happen. So now the question becomes is, how can you make your information perpetual? Well, here is where YouTube comes in. YouTube is a place where you can record and post and leave behind all your knowledge, all information, everything. And something that I did not do. I blame myself for not doing this. Over the years, I’ve seen YouTube evolution happen in 2005. It started in 2007, I opened my YouTube account. I never did anything over the years. And the only place where I focused all my energies was on the radio. But radio again is in the moment.

You know, broadcast or in the moment information, if people don’t listen to you, it goes away. So in comparison to radio, a podcast is better because there is some level of persistence or some level of existence beyond simply the radio part. So people can go back and refer to your podcasts if they want to. But then YouTube could be fresh. Everything you do on YouTube is fresh, everything is perpetual. Everything is going to stay hopeful, hopefully again now, that also is a question mark. But then, for now, YouTube is free. So where am I going with all this? If you ever wanted to build your legacy, and you really don’t know what the real mechanism is, my first and foremost suggestion to you is for you to build all Your legacy on YouTube. So everything like all your ideas, experiences, no house, the journey that you had, everything can be documented, everything should be documented and put on YouTube, available to everyone into your children, your friends, your family, anybody everybody sees, listen, the whole world is a family. Right?

If you think about it, the whole world is your family and you are a unique individual, you there is nobody ever going to be like you. Right, 32 chromosomes from the mom 32 chromosomes from the dad, unique combination, I don’t know a trillion different combinations would have come from this to the 32 chromosomes from each and you are this unique individual made. And nobody else is going to be like you ever in the history of this world anymore. There can’t be so you have something unique to you. So that uniqueness can be preserved today, thanks to the technology, thanks to all these social media, all this available to us. And I think that you should work towards taking all that and putting that together and building. If you want to, again, if you want to, I’m not saying you should. But if you desire to, I don’t plan on doing this either. And, you know, here is my mindset, I don’t want anybody to remember me long after I’m gone. I’m doing this because there are a lot of things that I shared on the radio over the years in my seminars and workshops, that I want to take in bits and pieces and make it available to people not because they have to remember me but there is some message there that’s going to help them. So here’s what I’ve done. And the start of this year, I’ve taken chunks of information that I think is relevant and helpful to people. And I started to turn them into small YouTube videos, and I’m posting them on my channel. That’s all I’m doing now. And this is my legacy project, which I started.

And I’m going to wrap this up over the next five or seven years, depending upon how this goes. And at some point, his life has to stop, or I will stop. And I get to a point where I say I have nothing else to share, I’m done with this, I don’t think that’s going to happen. I don’t want a moment in my life where I don’t have anything else to share with people. And my time is up, I don’t want to be in that state. So I want to be a step ahead, which is I’m sharing and then I’m sharing, and then I’m sharing, and then I’m gone. That’s the state I want to be in. So enough information is all put together in a concise manner that can be digested that can be seen in left behind on a YouTube channel. That’s the platform of preference today, as of today. So that’s where I’m focused on right now. And I wanted to share this feeling with you today. Because I want you to start taking yourself seriously beyond your time here. If you have some experienced knowledge, you know how that you gathered and we all gathered over the time, it’s impossible to live a life and not have experienced so take that, you know build it up. Maybe for your kith and kin, or maybe for your friends or extended or people who you will meet long after you’re gone. And thanks to YouTube. And thanks to social media in general that we can meet people long after we are gone. It’s powerful positioning. It’s amazing.

This whole thing is thinking about it over this weekend. And give it a deep thought how you can do this. I think I give a reason why you should do this question becomes is how you do it. The regardless thing you should do it. Okay, that’s all for now. You take care. I was trying to keep this very short. It’s gone nearly 14 minutes now. Okay. That’s it. We’ll talk tomorrow. Stay tuned.
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