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Welcome back to Success with Srini. Happy Saturday morning to you on the podcast. Today, I want to focus a little bit on how to raise your self-esteem. This is important because we have been talking about many different concepts in the last, I think last two weeks, 10 days, last 10 days for sure. And makes sense to attach the topic of confidence and self-esteem in bits and pieces, but then a full dedicated podcast episode for self-esteem.
So this in a way is a question also, because this has come up many times in many of the interactions I had on radio, and also in my seminars and workshops. So how do you raise your self-esteem? So the first and foremost thing is, I want you to get a book. Or if you have some time, look back on a podcast I did last year. That should be on the directory here. Talking about a book called psycho cybernetics, I want you to get that book. Because that book by Dr. Maxwell Maltz talks about self-esteem at a level that I have not seen any other book talk about. So that’s the first read. And there are many things he suggests he says that you should always do things that are in line with your self-esteem. So he talks about many things. But then there are some concepts, among the concepts he talks about is how you identify yourself with self-esteem, if you can do that, then you will be the happiest individual as a fulfilled individual. So that’s where I would start.
Let’s talk about self-esteem. In general, why does this happen? See, there are four areas of life have your physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, financial, four or five areas of life. And again, if you go deeper into this, there could be multiple other areas. But then those are the basic areas. Now in any area every time. If you look into area, the reason why somebody feels a lack of self-esteem, or a loss of self-esteem is that one of these areas is where they want to excel, but they’re not able to. For example, physical, let’s say, physical area, you want to go exercise, you knew you were doing exercise, you knew you were working out, and now you’re stopped. And then your physical appearance is when you wake up and you check your weight when you look at yourself in the mirror. It’s not what you truly are, it’s not in line with what your intention is. So you got to make some decisions about going out and working out and losing weight and becoming fat and feeling good and having energy and all that. So likewise, you look into your emotional life or look into your mental life or look into your financial life, there are things that you need to be doing and you are not doing and because of that there, is it an appearance, the way they appear to you are not in line with what you were expecting, hence, there is a drop and you’re doing what you’re doing. It’s not like you don’t you’re avoiding them. It’s just that it’s not happening. So this is where the goals come in. This is where priorities come in, and all that. And we have talked about those multiple times on the podcast here already.
Now, at this point, how do you break out from this? Well, as a part of the rebuilding of your self-esteem is concerned. One of the steps one of the starting step says is to recognize that yes, you have a ladder behind and you have not been given the priority. So that is the starting point. But the next thing is you got to look back into your strengths. What are your strong points? What are things that you have done in the past that really built up the success that you had? And by doing that, you are kind of setting yourself, you’re pacing yourself your mind into the future. By acknowledging your strong points, you are setting those strong points as a way for you to restart this activity if you choose to restart the activity. So that’s the starting point. So past has to be recognized. past success has to be appreciated.
Now, then comes what you love. There is a high possibility, the reason why there is a drop in self-esteem is that things that you’re doing, you’re not loving them anymore. And clearly, if I don’t love doing this podcast, let’s say if I don’t love doing my radio shows or my seminars, what’s going to happen to my performance, it’s going to drop and you start seeing me or women not see me at all. It has in the past. I’ve lost interest in doing this, at least for 2022. I’m committed to running this podcast throughout the year and let we’ll see where this goes. But then the idea of the podcast is to help the listener whoever is listening in hoping that they’re going to use this as a daily motivation or inspiration. Any coaching quick 5-10 minute coaching on it on a daily basis. Hopefully, they’re gonna use it this way. That’s the intent. So if you don’t love what you’re doing, then there is an issue with that got to change the dynamic, you got to look for that which you pay to do something that you love, or you can’t afford to make the change, you got to go back and start loving that which you have. It’s hard but then has to be done that way.
Then comes, what are you proud of? Everything that you’re doing? What is that you take pride in. And we all take pride in something. If you take pride in whatever you’re doing, by default, it should raise your self-esteem.
And then finally, the last thing in this is, if somebody compliments you for what you do, take them, accept them, and use them to even excel more. I’ve seen people showing improper humility when somebody praises them, genuinely, but they just choose not to. And I’ve done that myself too many times. Someone tell me there are some of my close friends and relatives. They told me that Why are you not accepting the compliment happened to me on the radio also. And I said, what happened in this, like, you talk about improper humility, and this is improper humility from your side. And I was like, wow, okay, maybe, maybe the right. teapots to compliments are nutrients for bigger growth. So when you take compliments, you start using them to even create a bigger trajectory for yourself in anything that you’re trying to do, when used the right way. And one of the best ways to accept a compliment is to say thank you, in very simple, thank you, and then go back and process the compliment.
Numerous times have taken testimonials from people sometimes on videos, and I’ve used those videos to recover from the most difficult times of my life. Not to sell or promote myself, but to use them to recover from my own situations. When you see 20 30, 40, 100, 500, over, over 1600 testimonials now, I don’t even have those testimonials anywhere available, because they’re all over the place, but in different hard drives. But then whatever I have on a look at them, you know, why would somebody say this about me in this situation? What is that in their heart? What kind of a connection, internal decision they made internal connection they made. You know, when somebody talks good about you, that means they made a higher connection with their own self, in their mind, in their heart and their soul. When somebody talks don’t talk good about you. That means they also made a heart connection inside their heart and soul. But we catch the positive one, right? Why would they say this? What did you do to them, for them to say this? In fact, even if somebody says negative about you, if you just go deep into, you know, say what is the higher connection they made, that that’s talking something wrong about me or telling me something wrong about me to me, even then you could grow but you have grown differently. But in this context, because we’re talking self-esteem, what is it that as the result of your activities, you doing something to them, something happened to them, they made a higher connection within themselves, that they are now talking to you, and telling you how you have helped them. Take it with absolute grace, I use it as the launchpad to do even bigger things, you grow even bigger, you become even mightier. I don’t think anything creates higher self-esteem than a compliment from somebody else. It’s a very powerful thing.
So these are some things that you can do to increase your self-esteem. And of course, there are many, and we’ll keep talking about this over the next few days. But this gives you an idea. This gives you a frame through which I approach people who reach out to me telling asking me, you know, I feel low, I lack self-confidence. What do I need to do? These are some things I use, even in one on one coaching, even in therapy. These are the things I use. There is no other secret than what I’m sharing here. Or at least in my understanding. That’s all for now. Have a wonderful Saturday, and I will reconvene with you tomorrow, appreciate your listening. Thank you for being a subscriber and appreciate all your questions. They empower me. Bye now.