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Welcome back to Success with Srini. Today on the podcast, I am taking a question. And that is, what should we teach our children as parents? What should we teach our children? Now this question has come up numerous times in my seminars and workshops, also on radio shows. In fact, about four weeks ago, I released a small little video snippet on my YouTube channel, specifically me addressing this question at a live event. And in that snippet, my talk about me quote, Dr. Isidor, Isaac Robbie, a nuclear physicist, and Nobel Prize winner. And when he was asked, you know, what is the secret to his success? He said The secret to success is his mother’s upbringing. And he says, my mother, though uneducated, always asked us to ask a question in class. So she would drop the kids in school and drop them at school at the time of dropping, she would tell them their job in class today in school, is to raise their hand and ask a good question. And at the end of the day, when she used to pick them up, she would ask them, Did you ask a good question.
And I say this because I heard this very late in my life. And by the time my children were already growing up, I tried doing this with my children, too. So and I talk about that in this video, if you are a subscriber to my YouTube channel, or you can go to YouTube and search for success with Srini. It’s the same name as this podcast. And you should be able to find this video, which is a featured video there. So now that being said, let’s jump into some other aspects of raising children and some other things that we need to focus on. Obviously, the first and foremost is we need to teach our children how to ask good questions. In fact, great questions, now you keep on forcing them to ask good questions, then eventually, they’ll ask good questions, because the brain goes there. And you do that very early in life before they are seven or nine years old. The second skill I would focus on is the ability to solve problems. And why because life is full of challenges. And if they are taught how to find solutions to problems, then life will become less intimidating. And some of the common challenges can be addressed very early on so that a cube as they grow up. So the ability to solve problems.
Now, as a parent, I would also focus on helping them find a passion very early in life. Parents do that sometimes they teach their children to play piano, or dance or music, they do these things. But then there are so many things that so many different ways, passions, and the children need to be told how to discover the passion, not a bunch of training and a bunch of classes. Usually, when you start putting them in multiple classes, then there is a lot more expense going as a result of that much bigger expense that’s happening because of that, which is they’re going to end up spreading the resources thin. And then obviously, once you focus, everything that you add to their daily activity, will make them kind of compromise on other activities. So it’s hard to find that balance. But the key is to help them find a passion by teaching them how to find a passion. It’s a hard one. There are multiple passions, by the time you are 16, 18, or 20, you should be able to have two or three passions that you have identified yourself with, within which one is a dominant passion. I said that that’s how I grew up because one of my dominant passions was identified very early as a kid. And I wanted to be that. So life was easier. In fact, even though I really couldn’t accomplish much with that passion in life, professionally or whatever, but then that passion is within me stays with me. And it does come in handy at times. So helps.
Now, secondly, children need to be taught how to become independent, the school system should do that. And most of the school systems, whatever system educational system they are in, already probably have this in place. But independence is something that has been nurtured very early so that other forms of growth happen and other forms may happen. But then when kids don’t have independence, then everything is constrained. So in order for everything else to really stand out, independence is something that needs to be taught. Now, I would also extend now that I said independence, I would extend a little bit more and say that kids need to be taught how to become content. When specifically when they’re alone. You teach them loneliness. Also, most kids don’t these days. And there is some kind of a dependency, either with games or TV or smart devices, whatever they something that they need to have with them. But then teaching them to stay content, when they’re alone, is a very difficult thing. I think, parents tell me what they’re going through and I also go through it at some level as a parent, then there are a couple of more things I would do. And that is, I would teach them compassion. Most of the kids are growing up now becoming lonely, but angry. And some other emotions, actually, those emotions come out. So how do you control your anger, if you’re in public, and, the only way to overcome that is is to learn how to be compassionate. So the different programs and again, I highly encourage you to do some research on your own side. And this podcast, I can’t go into every specific detail here. But then my request to you is that you go do your research, and find ways and methods on how to teach all of it, all of it, not just compassion, all of it.
Now, one last thing, before we wrap this up, I would also teach how to deal with change. Something that as an adult, we are as adults, we are, we are going through we are something that was not taught at least not told to me as a kid, my parents never raised me, asking me to deal with change, I was raised, that if you get a job, you go study, get a job, your life is going to be amazing. And that is so far away from the truth, that statement. So I would teach the children that change is inevitable change is happening in that no matter how well they did last time around next time around, it’s going to even touch them more. So I’m going to put them through a change management class. I don’t think they have four children, maybe they do I don’t know. But then constantly in the talk in my interactions. And in every moment that I have with them, I make sure that at least I have one point of reference, at least once a day, within which I tell them that, hey, things are going to change. And you need to expect the change and deal with it in your own way as it happens. And that prepares them mentally to deal with that. Okay. So these are some of my thoughts. And again, there could be more, but then this is it.
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