Here is the complete transcript of the podcast
Welcome, or welcome back to Success with Srini. Happy Sunday morning to you. Today on the podcast, I want to take a few moments and talk about how to create more balance in your life. And I want to emphasize the word more here or underline the word more. Because there is a lot of literature on how to create balance. And chances are, you’re already creating balance, so many different ways to create balance. And there’s so much material. In fact, I have done several podcast episodes talking about how to create balance, there is one challenge with balance, balance is balance, there are chances you could lose. And we call it to balance because there are so many things you have to juggle.
So in order to not lose balance, you got to create more balance. It’s weird how this works, but, but you get the humor in this, hopefully. Hopefully, I’m conveying it. So we now know that there are three specific things that you have to do to create more balance in life. Because these are the three areas where there is a risk. So if any of these three areas are challenged, you will lose the existing balance of anything that you have got going. But if you kind of address these three, you can create more balance.
So let’s talk about these three, the first and the foremost, these are called the three “R”s. The first one is RESPONSE, your response to people alive, like alive. objects, like your response to humans, animals, and things like that. And your response to nonalive things. For example, your car, your house, the objects that you handle, all that. How do you respond to people? How do you respond to animals or things that have life in them? And how do you respond to nonliving objects? See, when you respond to people nicely, the chances are, they’ll be nice to you. You minimize the possibilities of anger, rejection, disappointment, frustration, and all that because it’s all of that in the communication, the way you respond to them, or the way you initiate anything that defines your success. So when you take out emotional drama, and you’re precise in your communication, then life becomes easy. So that is why this is a significant pillar, in creating balance in life. Then comes objects, the way you deal with things around. And I’ve seen people who tell me all the time, they forget things that drop things, they break things if you become a little bit cautious, and little bit aware, the way you handle things, your life will have balance, your life will become easy, leading to creating more balance.
Then the second “R” is RELATIONSHIPS. Well, relationships as a category is pretty big. And I don’t want to get into many things on today on the episode. But within relationships, there is one specific thing that is known to create more balance, which is defining boundaries. And you will let people know how they’re stepping into Insight coming inside that boundary or staying outside of the boundary. So when we talk about boundaries, there are a few things there are physical boundaries, emotional boundaries, intellectual boundaries, material boundaries, time boundaries, and there are more. Now, the reason why you have to define boundaries and operate is that you want to be safe, and you want to be respected. So when you are safe and you are respected, the chances are, you will also make other people in that relationship safe. And you will also give respect. If somebody violates the boundaries, that means now you are becoming unsafe. And the chances are, they’re not respecting you and you may not respect them either. So one example, I’m going to talk about two specific things here.
Let’s talk about time boundaries. If you have a schedule that you’re operating, and you have an agenda for the day that you need to accomplish, if somebody is stepping in into your time, and they are taking away your time, you got to be very careful. You need to convey saying I’m busy I need to go to another meeting and I need to deal with a few things so that you don’t feel bad at the end of the day that you could not accomplish. A few things that you planned for the day because somebody stepped in and you Now holding a grudge against them. The fault lies with you, if you don’t convey that message, you have a meeting, you say, Hey, I have 20 minutes, let’s talk, and I have another meeting coming up, I need to go. So you need to define that’s the boundary these days are more worried about my intellectual boundaries, declined kind of conversations I have with the kind of people, it matters a lot to me, the discussions matter a lot to me, there is a certain level of intellectual equilibrium that I’m trying to create every time I talk to people. And it’s important that others are also my friends, my relatives, my family, they’re also at the same level. So if I do not get that from them, then I withdraw. So I’m creating those boundaries. And in fact, I’ve been doing that for a long time. But you get the idea. So these are some boundaries that I want you to test.
Now, if necessary, say no, say no. It’s okay. And I’ve been raised in a culture growing up, I was trained, or I was raised, raised, the right word was raised to say yes to everything. And I was raised to surrender to everything. And as I started seeing the world, and as my conscious mind started expanding, I started to realize that the more I say, yes, the more I suffer. So now I say no. And I say no. with compassion, with respect, and with concern. When I say no, I’m not insulting anyone. And I’m not rude. I’m not angry. But I say no, with compassion, love, care, concern, all that. And if you want to learn how to say, No, I have spoken about a resource, an incredible book that changed my understanding. And the book is called The Power of Positive No by William Ury. Get this book read this book, I read this book about 15 years ago, or 12 years ago. In fact, 15 years ago, when it came out, I believe, 2000 5006 incredible books, since I started to understand the dynamics.
The third part, the third “R” in our discussion is the ROUTINE. What we now know is people who have routines, people have a morning routine, early morning routine, a morning routine, an afternoon routine, an evening routine, and a night routine. And primarily, there are two routines that I talk about a lot on this podcast, which are the early morning routine and the night routine. So you have routines that you follow, you have tasks, you have goals, you have activities that you do as per those routines, your life becomes predictable, and your life becomes more productive. And along the way, you create more balance. There is more to routines, and I’ve done multiple podcasts here, but you get the idea. So your response to the world, to living beings and nonliving beings, your relationships, and specifically within relationships, the boundaries that you set, physical, emotional, intellectual, material time, all that. And then the routines that you follow these three things if you are careful about these three things when they’re secured. And when that followed, and are implemented, they will create the balance or the more balance that you’re seeking. And the reason why you should strive to have more balance is that just having balance is not enough. Balance means imagining somebody walking with a bamboo steak, trying to balance on a piece of rope.
Now, anything can go wrong, you might have seen this in the circus. If anything goes wrong with the vein or with concentration with focus, the chances are that the individual will fall or will not have success with the routine, right with crossing over the rope but whatever. So balance is always a delicate thing. The balance will always be balanced itself and is always disposed towards imbalance. So we have to do a lot to keep everything in balance. And we have to juggle a lot.
Okay. That’s all for now on today’s podcast. Hopefully, this is helpful. Do me a favor. You like these ideas, these concepts if this is helpful. If you’re watching this on YouTube, you can write a comment you can like and subscribe to the video. If you’re listening to this on a podcasting app. Then there is a place there to write a review and read the podcast do all of that and have a wonderful Sunday and I will talk to you as early as tomorrow, start of the week. Okay, you take care. Bye now.