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Happy Monday morning to you welcome or welcome back to success with Srini. Today on the podcast, we are talking about how to have more control and how to position ourselves to be in control of life. And yesterday, I was here talking about how to have more balance, how to create more balance in life. And it made sense to talk about control today. So that these two episodes are back to back. Yesterday, I made a case that there are three things that you have to do to create more balance. And I’m talking about control today. Because when you lose balance, there is pressure on control. Now you’re under pressure to control whatever balance you lost, and you will do whatever it takes to recreate that balance. So the way to preempt anything happening to balance, it makes sense to be in control. Some time ago, I made a point on one of the podcast episodes, that the only time you are in control, is when you realize that you are not in control. And even though it’s kind of it’s an oxymoron, like you’re not in control when you’re not in control. Well, that’s the human part. But then the truth is this, when was the last time you felt that you were in control of something, only to realize that you are not in control? In my 20s, and my 30s I was, yeah, I’ll control everything. But now with a receding hairline, almost bald. Head, I think I lived enough to realize that. After all, I’m not in control. And as we mature as we go along with life, you know, we realize that we’re not in control. And things happen for a reason. And whatever the reason is, who knows what it is. But, you know, some things are in a certain way. You know, it’s destiny, you can say, I don’t want to say that. I would rather say I have a firm belief that we design. But there are certain things that we cannot control. And that’s the truth. But there are certain things we can and certain things we cannot, we can control our thoughts, we can control our feelings, we can control our movements, we can control our activities, we can control our time, and all that despite interferences, despite of others, and encroaching or stepping in. And I talked about boundaries yesterday, we can control certain things, and there are things that we cannot control.
So let’s understand what are the things we can control, and how to bring more control. And I’m gonna give you a formula. See, if you bring in a little bit more discipline into anything you are doing. You are now in control of your life a little bit discipline, are you kind of wake up early in the morning, you have a routine that you work, you have an early morning, mid-morning, early afternoon, late afternoon, whatever your routines are just a little bit of discipline, you can you have more control life a little bit of activity, like maybe you meditate a bit more, maybe you do yoga mood board or whatever, whatever activity, a little bit of more activity brings in a little bit of more control on your mind. A little bit of more feelings. brings in or a bit of effort on existing feelings brings in more control on relationships. A little bit of full brings in better health or control on health. You see there are things that if done, create more control. And anybody can do it. And the lot as I say all the time here on this podcast, a lot of literature available a lot of content available on how these things have to be done precisely. But you get the point. That little bit of more brings in control. But for some reason, people choose not to do it. And sometimes I meet people who tell me I’ve done a lot in life, how can life is not rewarding me.
When somebody says like that, or somebody asks a question like that I’m doing I’ve done a lot. I’m doing a lot how can life is not rewarding me. Then at that moment. I know they lost control. See if I ask a question that this podcast is going to be there on YouTube. There’s a high possibility of listening to this on YouTube where you’re watching this. You’re not seeing me but at least you’re listening to this B-roll that’s playing and my voice is playing in the background. There is a high possibility at the time you are listening to this podcast on YouTube. There might be two or three views or maybe five years If I look at my views of my podcast, and I measured myself with the views, guess what will happen to me tomorrow? And you go back and look at all the other podcast episodes on YouTube, there might be four or five, maybe six views on each of the episodes. I know that because I’ve seen that. And if I take that as a measure, guess what happens to my mindset? I’m like if nobody’s watching this video on YouTube, why should I post on YouTube? If everybody’s listening to this on my podcast app, which by the way our people are, but not really watching this on YouTube, then my mind is what my mindset I’m compromising my state at that point in time. I’m like, Why should I even produce and render this, create a video, render the video, upload the video, target? All that write a heading, write a description, all that takes time and effort? Why should I do this? Well, in my mind is like, okay, if I’m doing all this, there’s no response, why should I do this? That’s me, effectively at that point in time losing control. So I’ve never allowed this thought to come in that I don’t want to feel I don’t want to find data points.
So that I have a proper excuse to walk away from doing what is necessary. What if that one listener, who happens to be you now watching this on YouTube? Still, does this make sense to you? And if I don’t do this, then maybe I really missed out on helping someone. I’m not saying I’m directly helping, but at least it contributed to your thinking in some way I did my little bit. I’m not saying that just because of me, you are getting anything. A massive result. That’s not the point. The point is at least is it sets you to discover more, maybe somebody else will help you. So I’ve met people who asked this question, and I’m like, wow, okay. So you understand that you’re losing control. And these thoughts, pull you away from what is necessary, what is your thing your game, that you have to play your role that you have to play, you are being taken away from it. And the more you ask these kinds of questions, the more you get dispensed from what is otherwise, the thing that you have to do.
So here is what we know, if you want to create better control, this is the secret part, if you are looking for the ultimate secret on how to have more control over life, it starts with you. By giving you give, if you want to have more control, if you are perceived as a giver, or you are recognized as a giver, or you are tagged in people’s minds, as a giver, your life is going to become better, for some odd reason. And I’ve seen this happen, people who give are the people who are the happiest, and things have seemed to happen to them. It’s amazing. So it starts with you being a giver, then you give, and then you share. There’s a difference between giving and sharing. Sharing is, whatever is a part that you think is yours, you give a small part of it to somebody who also deserves it or who also needs it. That’s what’s called sharing. But I’m giving you something where you give it away, you no more have it with you, you give it away. So giving great control, and sharing creates control. Now, let’s say you can’t give you cannot share, then comes something else which is caring, you care. That creates more control. It makes people around you trust you and believe you all back. So there is the magic that happens is a part of caring. And there’s one more thing which is much bigger than this, which is you live somebody’s life.
That’s even bigger. Okay, so you care for someone, you give something to someone, you share something with someone. And above all, let’s say none of that. But you choose to live somebody else’s life. That’s even the highest level. All this creates control. And this plays out in our life in different shapes and forms. I’ve seen parents who live the lives, literally, you know, the children that don’t do anything. They are working hard. I know somebody, there’s this lady who completely took charge of the life because her two sons and two daughters, they do nothing. But she has gone out to really create an economy for them literally working and making money for them, literally living the lives of each one of her kids so that the kids are grown up and all but so that they can have a comfortable life. I’ve seen that. I’ve seen people give away everything I’ve seen people share everything. I’ve also seen people who don’t are interested in tuition give or share, but then truly care for others.
Now, let’s pause for a second and go through this for now, which of these four things do you think is the most impactful? Which is the least impactful? Okay? When you give, you have some impact. When you share, you have a lot of impacts. When you care, you have the ultimate impact. Caring doesn’t involve anything, you’re just sharing your emotions, which means you are thinking about somebody in your thoughts. Magically, this one, this element caring part is ultimate, the least is when you live somebody’s life. So forget about some impact or a lot of impacts. Let’s talk about the least impact and ultimate impact. The ultimate impact happens when you care for someone. And least impact happens when you try to live somebody else’s life. So the mother who is working for four kids, they don’t value her work. Your friend, and your relative will value if you sit down and have an emotional conversation in which you tell them that you care for them. That has value, they will value you. But here, the four kids grown-up should be working should be bringing in money should be leading their life. They depend on the mother, they don’t care for the mother. These are interesting dynamics of life. And I happen to be in a position where I’ve worked with people, I get to see these things, I get to hear these things. And like, wow. And today’s podcast, in fact, is motivated by this specific event where I’m seeing this mother working so hard for four kids and said, Wow, how can this mother create more control of her life? Or how does she get control of her life? That’s how this whole podcast episode happened. That’s the secret.
The secret is that you give, share and care. Do any one of those, you will be golden. That’s all for now. Hopefully, today’s podcast episode is gonna motivate you and inspire you on some level at some level. If it does, then do me a favor, write a comment, and read the podcast, you’re watching this on YouTube, then there should be a place for you to write a comment and like and subscribe to the channel. That’s all for now. You go ahead and have a wonderful start for your Monday and I will catch up with you tomorrow. Hopefully with another event in my life. Something that I witnessed something that I experienced or maybe a question coming from you. We’ll see what tomorrow has in store. That’s all for now. You take care of yourself. Bye