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Welcome back to Success with Srini. Happy Sunday morning to you. I’ll keep today’s podcast to the point, small. Let’s see. Let’s see. Okay, I want to share two things with you today on the podcast, which are the outward behavior we exhibit and the inward perception scary. I’ll tell you why I’m sharing this. Because this is a question that came in, not specifically about a listener of this podcast asking questions about themselves. But it was more a question that was targeted towards me. So the question was Srini, I heard you talk about having mentors and coaches, who you work with people who train and coach, you, mentor you? And I wanted to find out why. Okay, and this gentleman is asking this question is, again, I already answered them, I said, this is not for me to learn something new. Okay. And I’ll tell you why I have this many coaches and mentors, this is nothing to learn new, of course, there is always new learning. But then this is more about some other aspects of me, that I cannot control. And I want a clear and honest, and to-the-point calibration, at any point in time towards the goal that I’m working towards, or the life that I want to live. And that calibration comes only from people who are much more aware and outside of me, and I cannot calibrate myself. Self-improvement is good. Personal Development is good. All that is good. All these learnings are good. You know, there there are many things that we should do ourselves. But then there is a level, if I want to attain that level, I cannot do it myself. I need external intervention. And we’ll talk about that in a second. I’ll tell you why.
Now, the truth is this. The truth is the way we come out. Okay, the way we exhibit ourselves to the outside world, that’s the truth. So if you really want to know who you are, go talk to five or six people who know you. I was just talking to my friend the other day, and he said, Oh, you know, a year ago, we were discussing many different things. And now you don’t even discuss those things with me anymore. You have moved on, you have changed. He’s right. I might have I don’t know that. I think I am. But he says I am not. And I have I cannot question him because he’s outside of me and sees the true behavior. So who am I to question that? That’s the truth. But my invert, you know, by the illusion that which within which I live, is the invert perception I have I have ordered myself with illusion is that yeah, I’m into everything. I talk to you all the time about these things. And he’s like, No, you don’t you used to a year ago, but yeah, moved on. And I took it literally when he said that I did not resist. He said it, I took it in, and I respected his comment. And, I moved on. You see, you can’t fake who you are. It’s very difficult, I’ll tell you it’s, it takes a lot of a lot of resources, a lot of effort, a lot of time, and all that is not worth it. Okay, so the truth comes out the only way to fake truth is to become truthful inside the inner perception of who you are, which is what fixes the outside behavior. Very simple. So you want to fix the outside behavior, fix the inner perception.
The problem is the inner perception is polluted. A lot of people who talk to you who tell you things media is doing your relatives, your friends, your families, your spouse, your partners, they’re all constantly not with any bad intentions. But it is they’re living and you are getting things because they want to live their life that way. And they say things and they take it out from their inside. And when things come out into the outside, you are there and you are receiving them. Simple. Now think about this. Let’s focus on this whole inner perception thing. In perception, all of us, have a perception of who we are. And if we do not have a perception that means our cognition is not working properly. Everybody knows everybody has a perception, right or wrong is a whole different story altogether. But all of us have a perception of who we are and what we do or capabilities or strengths or weaknesses at some level of a substance that but the challenge is most of the time, our inner perception is lopsided. It’s wholly favoring us. Oh, this money I can make it oh, we overestimate ourselves in every aspect of life or we underestimate ourselves. We never have a true estimation of who we are. And these estimations are these understandings of who we are. They came very early on. At a time when we were not equipped to deal with life early on born, literally like 3659 years into life. And our parents, everybody around us telling us things that we otherwise should not be listening to, they were pouring in their values and their beliefs and their understandings, which by the way, are all good, but they’re not good. Every value that had been that was put in into, I can tell you right now, as a student of success, I can tell you, there are six values that I have today, there are many values, but there are about five or six values that are completely crippled me in life. And for a decent discussion, I can really list each of those values and can go through and spend three or four hours explaining how each one of those values has completely crippled me to become or stopped me, or sabotage me.
Otherwise, I could have been a different individual altogether, I have understanding, I’ll tell you why. Because goes back to my earlier point, I have mentors and coaches working on me. If I do anything incorrect on my radio show, say something wrong. I’ll tell you, my coaches, my mentors, they are on my case. Now, these mentors, and coaches have nothing to do with the outcomes of the didn’t, they’re not working on my goals. They’re not making me accountable, they are not my performance coaches, none. These are the people who are there to make sure that my inner perception of who I am, is intact. Now, this friend of mine just said, you know, you don’t talk about these things. The reason why he said that, a year ago, you were saying things in your talk, we were talking about these topics can now the discussion has changed, it has changed because I have successfully shifted my perception of who I am. The more realistic the inner perception is, the more truthful the external behavior is. And that’s how you stay grounded in sync in reality and centered. I get the question, how do you stay centered? This is how you stay since centered, you know the values, you know, know your perceptions, you will know you’re not shifting and drifting and moving. You’re not going sideways, you’re not accelerating, you’re not staying back. You are in the flow. I don’t know I tried different ways to answer this question. But this is why I have so many people who are working on me for my development. And they all cost money.
They all cost time, everything. But I value it. Because if I slack, then 110 100,000 10,000 I don’t know how many listeners listen to this podcast or radio shows or whatever things I do in public, or I compromise all of them. I’m not accountable to them. How can I get on the air? Or come on this podcast and talk about a principle that I don’t practice? Or how do I share a strategy or an idea that I don’t believe in? I see people do that. And the question How come if nothing happens for me, nothing happens for you because you are not happening for yourself? I can repeat that. But just rewind that line for a second and just go back a couple of you know, 30 seconds behind and listen to the client, please. Nothing is happening to you. Because you’re not happening for yourself. Your beliefs and your convictions. Your inner perceptions are not in place. You won’t believe what you do. You won’t believe who you are. And that is why everybody around you doesn’t believe in you. Simple. If somebody thinks that you are not stable, somebody thinks that you’re anxious, somebody thinks you’re angry because you are giving them you are exhibiting that. You think people around you are angry. You are angry. You think people around you are chaotic. You are chaotic. You think people around you are naysayers, negative, selfish, self-centered, you are one that is why they are I’m not saying there are no toxic people there are I’m not taking that out from the discussion. I don’t want you to send a bunch of messages telling me that all you know, I’m not saying the world is a difficult place. I’m with you. I understand that. But think about it even if the statement is true and nine out of 10 times the statement is true everything that you have around you that is not in sync with you and that you choose to feel that he’s not in sync with you because you are not in sync with that?
Simple I think answered the question. Here’s what I want you to do. I want you to go around and ask your loved ones, you know, what is your true behavior. And I want you to find a way, whatever way you can to work on your inner perception of who you are. See that illusion has to be removed. That’s when you’d really, really, really become successful. If you’re measuring success with money, with wealth, which by the way is a meter everybody has a different meter. And I go to places where people say, How many hours do you meditate, their measure of peace is these hours of meditation? Okay, I go to meetings, I meet people that will say how much how many investments you’ve made, how much money you have. I go there, I have friends who I talked to tell me how many books have you read, in the last 72 hours, different measures, impossible to live up to all these measures. But through the attainment of success comes when you really understand and remove this illusion, and understand your perceptions. And totally put forward a behavior that is congruent to who you are insight could do it had promise you your life will change. You don’t need expensive pieces of training, coatings, books, you know all that. All? None. And that is why I sometimes don’t believe my own perceptions. And that’s why my coaches modify those perceptions to keep me accountable and stay aligned and tell them well which way I’m deviating. It’s very important for me, I’m not saying that you should have it, but it’s important to me, for me.
That’s all for now. Have a wonderful Sunday. I’ll catch you early Monday morning, tomorrow. Stay tuned. Bye now.