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A long time ago, somebody asked me in a seminar, what’s the secret to success? And I said, I do not know the secret to success and nobody knows the answer. Nobody knows the secret. But I know that if you keep on applying that which you are learning, and you keep on doing that, despite not getting success, then eventually, you will win. Eventually, you will succeed, eventually, you will make it big. And so true. So true. And today, when I do seminars, and workshops, I meet people, and everybody wants me to tell them, what’s the secret? And what’s the one resource or one secret or one technique or one thing that they should do? So that they can get to whatever outcome they’re seeking? And my answer is there isn’t any. And no matter how many times you ask the question, no matter how many people you ask the question, you will not get the answer that you are looking for, for unless you learn, you take action, you apply, and you fail. And you learn one more lesson from that failure, and then you go and apply again, everything that you learned in the beginning in the first place, and then the incremental learning also you apply, now you go after it, then chances are you will again fail, you will come back with a new lesson.
Now one more lesson. Now you have two lessons, and also what you learned in the first place, the third time around, you go and apply everything. And then chances are you will fail. And then you have the third lesson now, including the first one and the fourth attempt, you will apply all the four chances you’ll fail. And this process continues for a long amount of time, sometimes five years sometimes 10. You Who knows, nobody knows. And then eventually, you are this overnight success. Eventually, like an overnight success could be 10 years, 20 years, people don’t see that, by the way. Nobody sees that. But then you are. You just made it overnight. Every time I met someone who is an overnight success. There is so much to them.
Recently, I was doing a radio show. And I asked a question about the show. I said what is the one thing that you overcome some darkness in you something that you that you struggled with? And you did overcome? And what did you do? How Jura sang was listening to my show, and he called in. And let’s go to that, too. He has an incredible story to share. And as I was listening to what he was saying, I ended up clapping. You will you’ll listen to that I’m going to play his story. Amazing story. That is, you know, so many people listening to my show, and this wonderful story on mistakes and failures. He made a huge impact on all the listeners, let’s go to the recording. And when we come back, I will add a bit more to it. So tell me, what is your secret? What’s What did you overcome to have what you have today?
It’s the fear of failure.
Okay, wonderful.
So in this role in pressure to succeed, and not celebrate. That’s when I realized that you’re learning and you’ll fail and grow. I remember way back in 93. My CEO said something if you don’t try, you will not fail.
And if you fail, I’m happy because you tried. But then you fail once and you’ll learn from it. That’s great. For the second time, I love you to happy and I failed the third time during the same mistake, then I’ll fire you because that means you didn’t learn from your first failure. And yes, you made the second failure again on the same mistake. And yet you didn’t learn. That’s the biggest difference. Failure is not bad. Not learning from failure is not fun. Never.
I mean, a long time ago, I read. I read two courts actually printed these out in my house. One said, you know, you know the true character, your true character is how you go from one failure to one failure to the other without losing enthusiasm over the first go direct and still in my brain. And then there’s also one more What I started with many, many years ago, which is failures are portals of self-discovery. So true, amazing. So here is the message on today’s podcast. And the message is, there is no shortcut. Don’t try any, there aren’t any. And no matter who gives you a system or a formula, or a strategy or a technique, I claim it here many people like me claim through their podcasts and through their seminars, and workshops, nobody has the answer. Nobody has the answer. There are so many incredible philosophers, and so many incredible minds. We all are humans, nobody has the answer. The only answer is that you find your answer. The only answer is that you put in the effort you put in the time you make the mistakes, you learn from your mistakes, then you create your own success. That’s the answer. That’s the truth. And you can’t create any success unless you surrender to this process called making mistakes.
Many, many years ago, I shared a story on my radio show, and also on this podcast at some point in time, a story that I read somewhere. This is a story of a vice president of a division within IBM, who takes on this project $10 million project to come up with a next-gen operating system. And they work on it for about a year or two, whatever. And there are some deadlines that his team has to meet. And they don’t have at the end of those two years or three years, they do not have a product, they do not have anything to show or whatever that is not worth it. So he’s called into a board meeting. And so he walks in with his resignation letter and sprocket thinking that he’ll be fired and goes meet the CEO. And without the CEO saying anything. He says he takes out his resignation letter and says like, I’ve already printed this and signed this, just in case. And the CEO says something incredible. You think I’m such a fool that will fire you. I just put in $10 million to teach you a lesson. Now that you’ve gotten that lesson, you think I’ll fire you? So an incredible story and I forgot the names, and I had them written somewhere. But you get the idea. If you seriously think about this life is constantly teaching lessons to us. We are without a constraint mindset. We choose not to learn. And we don’t want to learn because we don’t want to try. And we don’t want to try as Jura pointed out because we just don’t want to fail. None of us want to fail.
Nobody wants to fail. The single biggest reason why I did not do this podcast every day is that I was scared. What if I do this podcast, and I declare that I’m doing this every day? What if I do not do it every day? It’s a failure. I don’t want to fail hence I don’t want to do so. The fear of failure is the single biggest separator. You can’t learn nobody can learn anything unless they try. That’s the message of this podcast. You go enjoy your Friday. And I’ll be with you. Before you know it as early as tomorrow. Stay tuned.