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Happy and bright Sunday morning to you. Welcome back to Success with Srini on the podcast episode today, I’m going back to one of the presentations I did last weekend at the real estate roundtable. And this was towards the end of the day, and I was talking about how to use hypnosis to make positive changes in life. My idea was to do a demo, but we ran out of time, and we had to vacate the facility. So I couldn’t really go through the whole demonstration. But then I was prepping myself up for the demo. And as a part of the process, I was explaining what hypnosis is. And I said, if you do this right, then nothing in life can bother you. Because you create a wall within yourself, you compartmentalize your brain. And I give my own personal example that my mom came down with cancer, my dad came down with a stroke. And none of these things bothered me to a level otherwise they would bother someone. Now, how do you do this? How do you create these compartments? How do you compartmentalize your brain? How do you deal with things that are coming at you that you have no control over situations, people’s circumstances? And how do you find yourself in a way within which you’re holding the ground and you are in control?
Now, this is the truth of life. We will never have anybody outside of us for ourselves. Let me rephrase this. In your life, the most important person is you, you do not have anybody else other than you to yourself. Everybody else has come in. And everybody else may leave. And the only day you leave is when you leave. So you’re only for yourself, that’s the starting point.
So if you are to yourself, then why not? You are yourself. So to be yourself, you have to believe in yourself.
So the question becomes is how do you believe in yourself? If you don’t believe in yourself, now the strategies work. So this wall, this compartmentalization of the brain, all these things work, if you believe in yourself. So what can you do to strengthen your belief system? The first and the foremost is this, we got to know ourselves. This is where people start. This is what people realize very late in life that they need to know themselves. They spend a while, sometimes while means years decades, trying to figure out who they are. They read books. They go to places of a higher power. They roam around the world. Some people find themselves, by the way, most don’t. So it starts with knowing yourself. Well, what do we need to know about ourselves? The first and foremost is Who Am I? How do I describe myself to someone who doesn’t know me? So I sit down and write a description of myself. My name is and I do this. I was born to I was born. educated me, I got some education. I studied, I excelled. And I graduated through layers of life and layers of education. And then I got into the stream of life. You write and keep on writing about yourself. When you’re finished, you read? Does it give you a clearer idea of who you are, when you read it? It doesn’t give you a clear idea that says, then do what? Go back. Write down who you are. Describe yourself. How do you describe yourself to somebody who doesn’t know you really start the process again? Go through the whole thing, then bleed does it give you or the reader a clearer idea? Do you read yourself? Once you read yourself? Do you feel that it gives a clear idea to somebody who doesn’t know you? Is somebody else is reading it? Would they get a clearer idea of who you are? If they don’t then rewrite. Keep on writing.
Amazing how many times are you wrote this See, we develop a clear understanding of who we are. By studying how we react, in certain situations somebody is attacking you, somebody is making a remark on you, maybe in person or maybe in the public, how you react to that defines who you are. If you react, understand there are 20, 30, 40, 50 people around you who are watching you. The way you react is the message that goes to the rest of the people, about your capabilities and about your senses. It’s a part of knowing yourself. A part of strengthening your belief system is also you being comfortable with your own feelings. Every time you feel a certain way, recognize the feeling, write it down. I sometimes become angry, let’s say, Do we all do? We are humans. If you are human, you will become angry. So given it’s an innate emotion, it comes the function of the brain. Anything that’s extreme is not good. But the presence of every emotion has to be there to live a fulfilled life. So anger is okay. Now, every time you get angry, you got to see what are the leading triggers? Or what are the leading events that trigger the anger, you write it down? Then you start modifying the leading events. So you don’t get to the point of being or becoming angry. If you’re feeling sad, then why are you becoming sad? What are the leading events for you feeling that sadness, eliminate them? Now, this is one way to find yourself and obviously strengthen your belief system. But then the most important point is why you find the negatives in you. If you find irregularities in you, it’s also important to find the strengths in you. Because strengthening your strengths also strengthens your belief system. So everything that is strong about you has to be recognized and has to be celebrated. Not by anybody else, but by you.
So I know my strengths, I know my weaknesses. Or at least I work on strengthening my strengths. At the same time, I always keep on trying to discover my weaknesses. And all of us, everybody, everybody knows their weaknesses. They don’t talk about them. But they know. Sometimes finding strong points is hard. So that’s why people tell me nothing is going for me, nothing is happening for me. Well, you are here. And you’re talking to me. So something is going on something is right about you. What is it? I really make them start to go deep into themselves. And that’s when they start telling me that’s when they start recognizing here things are, in fact not as bad as you think they are? Of course, they do not see all of us. You mean all of us. We have all made it here through some really challenging events in life. And we need to pause and acknowledge that fact that we have gone through have we gone through extremes of extremes? No. No, may not be. But then still, we have our experience is mine. Your experience is yours. I can’t question your experience. I can’t say that my effort is more than yours. It’s like me saying my mother is better than your mother doesn’t work that way. It’s very easy to recount all the typical features of life. All the good things people forget bad things they do remember. So if 10 years ago, you had a bad situation 15 years ago, five years ago, three years ago, and you have made it through all what makes you think that you will not get through the one that you’re going through now? Well, that’s not the point of the discussion. The point of the discussion is that because you have gone through that, that means there is something of real power within you. So that’s your strength. Or you start recognizing the strength you’re now strengthening your belief system. And that’s why we say he always stays inspired, always has courage, builds yourself to have the courage. So, seriously, if you have gone through some difficult challenges in life, it means you showed some level of courage, you saw some level of grit, you had some personal strength, all that got you here. So that means you are an achiever.
One other thing that can strengthen your belief system is the ability to admit when you make a mistake. I can’t tell you how much this has changed my life. If I make a mistake, I say I’m sorry, but you’re under the deal. In fact, if anybody does a mistake, even on my side of the office, any of my employees or anyone, any of my co-workers, I take responsibility for that, because you are subscribed, you’re listening to me. There’s no customer service, there are no sales and marketing and customer service, customer care, all these departments, and departments. Only one man in the fund, something goes wrong in Tesla, who gets blamed only one man in the fund. something great happens in the slop, obviously. And the fun takes the credit. So you take the credit, you take the blame. So what do you do? Here’s what I found out. All of us are wrong. This is the truth. All of us are wrong. And you know how wrong we are. We are wrong more than once in a day, multiple times you’re wrong in a day. So when you close your date night, or when you start? I don’t know, I’m hoping that you’re listening to me this morning. And you’re going to end the day today, right? When you end the day. You acknowledge that you made something wrong. You tell yourself yeah, I did something wrong. Even though you did everything right. It keeps you humble keeps you grounded. strengthening your belief system. See people who recognize their own errors that are considered wise. We cannot correct mistakes unless we see them in the first place. So if you’re not doing it, you got to start opening yourself up to honestly acknowledging that. By doing this, you’re now building the ability to deal with any situation that could potentially go wrong in the future. Okay, so the case in point on today’s podcast is that if you believe in yourself, your life will become easier. As simple as that. And because you have only you to yourself, you better be yourself and to be yourself. You need to believe in yourself. Believing yourself brings a tremendous amount of confidence it raises your self-esteem. The only person you got to believe is you.
For now, you have a wonderful remainder of the Sunday. And I’ll catch you tomorrow morning and we’re going to have another incredible coaching podcast session. Stay tuned, bye now.