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Welcome back to Success with Srini. And today on the podcast, we are talking about some self-destructive beliefs. Now, I say some, because there are many. And it’s impossible to talk about all the beliefs that are self-destructive. If I continue to speak about them and record them, as I’m recording this podcast, it may take me weeks, and even months, I don’t think I’ll cover everything. So some of them have chosen, just a handful of beliefs that are self-destructive. And these are some that all of us can relate to. In fact, we have experienced these in some shape or form.
Now, before I go any further, let me establish a baseline here. And the baseline is this. That the way we think and believe is the way we experience the world around us. So you woke up this morning saying that your life is great, you’re having an incredible time, and you want to make the best use of the day that it has to offer, all good things will happen to you. Now you woke up this morning thinking everything is negative, everything is wrong, everything is incorrect. And this whole thing is going to it’s a mess, guess what you are stepping into a mess. It’s amazing how the world operates. The other day, I was at a concert, and I was talking to an individual there a gentleman, and I said, in general, everything is neutral boulders neutral life is neutral. And in fact, on this podcast, I talked about this multiple times life is neutral life is designed to help your life is conspiring to make you successful. It’s just that we are not happening to life, we come with our negative beliefs and with our negative emotions, and we are forcing ourselves onto something that’s otherwise is neutral. Now, I come in negative and I for something that’s neutral, usually, now I have raised my negativity levels, everything that was neutral otherwise has suddenly turned negative and is along with me. It’s reinforcing my beliefs. I come in positive, and I impose myself on something that’s neutral. Now I’m strengthening the positive.
Now everything is fine making everything positive for me. Hard to explain this. But hopefully, hopefully you’re seeing where I’m going with this. Now let’s talk about some thoughts. Some beliefs that we process all the time. One of the self-destructive beliefs is I will never have the life I wanted to begin with. I wanted a beautiful life. You know, my life is half gone, or three quarters gone. I don’t think I will ever have the life that I ever expected ever wanted. Now, take that scenario for a second if you continue to move forward with that kind of thought. And we don’t know how long of a life we have. At any point in time, we already have lived 50% of our life. So maybe tomorrow is my last day. I don’t know, I don’t know, maybe I’m done with today’s podcast, I don’t know. But you get the idea. We don’t know what’s gonna happen tomorrow. And we already know what happened yesterday. So if this is the moment, this is what we have, and this is how this is what we’re experiencing in this moment. So if I continue to move forward, I’m not going to accomplish anything. And I start believing in that statement. It simply diminishes the quality of my life. I see people trying to raise their quality of life by having a good time, they want to go have coffee, they want to go on a hike, they want to go have a vacation, all that but then it’s not about the material stuff. It’s about what they’re processing in their mind. So when we justify or we have this belief that you know, I’m not going to become a man, I’m not going to get anything from life. That which I expected to begin with. What I’m indirectly saying is I don’t want to put in what it takes. I’m only going to make the effort to get what I want.
So, here is the solution to this problem. You simply say I will have everything that I wanted. So, you replace the beliefs from I will never have the life I want to I will have the life that I want. Just by replacing that word and you keep saying that multiple times. This is what is called an affirmation. This is what is called hypnosis. This is what is called self-belief. This is what is called positive mental expectancy, that’s how this works. Simple. Anything that you say that I will never, I can’t I don’t, you start replacing those words with their opposites. I meet a lot of people in a weight-loss set up a lot of consultations. And one of the beliefs people carry is that I may not lose weight because I go after my mother’s side of the family, or I go after my father’s side of the family, my father is overweight. So I carry the genes. And that’s a belief. In fact, that’s an imprint, an imprint given by the parents, it’s a belief. Nobody knows how that came in. Maybe the parents gave, maybe along the way, this belief got picked up by the brain. But whatever it is, maybe some social reinforcement happened, whatever it is, but now that is, what the brain believes that’s what the subconscious mind is believing.
Now, what do we do? Well, as a child, as a kid, I’m speaking from my perspective, I have a subconscious pool, to be loyal to my parents. That subconscious pool exists in each child. And that’s the beauty of this creation. Every child thinks that their parents, his or her parents, are correct. And they have to be loyal to their parents. But by the time you really grew up to realize that your parents were incorrect, to begin with, and their parenting was nothing but a chance. They did not know it, they did not know how to raise great children, it so happened. And guess what you are put in a situation to raise your children. Today, you don’t have the greatness either. Maybe times are different. But then there is no magic formula. Your children are going to grow up to find the same force in you that you are finding in your parents. As simple as that. The SE works. So there is a push to be loyal to the parents, every kid has it. Now, that is something in hypnosis in consultations, a good therapist would call it out. Hey, what’s the need for you to be loyal to parents towards that specific statement where maybe a father his mother said, Listen, you go after my fat my side of the family, and that’s why you can’t lose weight. That belief has to go away. So you got to realize, that long-standing self-deprecating beliefs have no chance in today’s world. They have to go, you got to free yourself from being loyal to your parent’s sentiments about you. So use one. Stock about a few more that I’m recording, I’m getting text messages on the messenger. So they’re popping up here. So let’s talk about one more such self-deprecating belief. I am not pretty or I’m not handsome. So I will never, ever get a partner, whom I want. This is a belief that has played out numerous times in my office in consultations. Now, here’s how you deal with this step out of the house, go around, go to a party, go to a social gathering where people are and look around, look around and primarily look at people who have their partners with them. You will see a huge contrast. Now, these people are not models. They are not Mr. America or Miss America or any of that. These are common people. Look at your parents. Chances are their common people. Each individual has a unique style. Each individual has a unique thing about them. I talked about this also on the podcast before 32 chromosomes from the mom and 32 chromosomes from the dad. And the combination leads to a billion different permutation combinations plus and then here you are, and here I am. Out of those 32 chromosomes combined 64 chromosomes. So the point is this you have stopped becoming honest about yourself. Because you’re not honest about yourself. That’s why you have this huge, self-deprecating belief that you’re not good enough, whoever you want, you’ll find your partner. As simple as that. There is somebody for you to see the truth, 7 billion people on this earth, you can’t go wrong. Okay? My life is like this. Because that’s just the way it is. I can’t do anything about it. This is what my life is, I can’t do anything about it, I have to suffer.
So I hear that belief. I see people say that multiple times, the answer is this. You have chosen not to deal with it. Maybe you’re waiting for something to happen. Maybe you’re waiting for somebody to come and rescue you. Maybe not. But I’m just making it up. Hopefully, I’ve seen people say that, to me also. Now, people with this kind of belief system that waiting for life to happen. The wake up in the morning thinking that okay, maybe today something will happen. If not, this is my life. And this is how it is supposed to be. And I’m okay with it. That means there is no accountability, that means you’re not self-initiating something. So you’re not taking a stand? Or you’re not initiating yourself into something new. you’re subscribed to? Whatever it is it is. And you’re resigning to that truth. Typically, in a situation like this, you have to focus only on one thing, which is, what is the power? What is about you? That’s so unique, so different, something about you? Is it possible to just take one strength that you have in you, and craft a life around it? A question that, if that’s the starting point, the question you have to ask yourself, and then spend some time identifying that strength, whatever it is, and committing that you want to start building a life around it. Difficult to explain this on a podcast. But hopefully, you get the idea. You don’t take charge then I guarantee you. Tomorrow, you wake up the same way. You don’t take accountability for your actions. You want to wake up the same way tomorrow. You don’t initiate yourself into something new, a new line of thinking, you want to wake up tomorrow the same way. And you start cussing yourself none of these. I listen to this podcast or read these books, you know, I’ve watched all the videos, and nothing good happens to me. It won’t. It’s amazing how life works. It expects that you do something to it before it does something for you.
Okay, speak one more, before I wrap up the podcast here. I’m not smart enough. Hence, I can’t make money. I can’t get a job. All that I’m not smart enough. There’s a smart next question here. And usually, people say this because they’re trying to achieve something in life and they’re not getting there. They see other people getting there. So there is a compare and contrast situation going on subconsciously. So, again, in this situation, I’m not smart enough to listen, if you give enough time to anything. And there is documented proof now that we’ve put 10,000 hours into something, anything, you go to become reasonably good at it. 10,000 hours will give you a diploma, or four years of education amounted to four years of education who gets it you get a degree or diploma as a result of doing it. And then that’s good enough for you to get started $10,000 To start and then a little bit more. Maybe a few more hours beyond that. incrementally over a period of two or three or four years gives you an expert status may not make you a genius but gives you expert status. But you’re not committing to taking the steps to do whatever is necessary to obtain the carrier that you want. See, you know exactly where you stand with your carrier you know where you want to go the gap you know, you understand the hops, you understand what needs to be done? Why are you not doing it? The question you would ask. So it’s not about smartness as much I would any day take hard work over smartness I would any day take discipline or smartness. Everybody is smart to some level everybody has some smartness in them. But all that smartness doesn’t translate into success. What translates into success or what would take that smartness and convert that into success is hard work, discipline, commitment to a cause, and daily, increasingly higher, incremental actions towards the outcome. I would take that any day. I wouldn’t take any smart as I’ve seen people who have had genius in them. People have been gifted with some skills. I’ve seen them sabotage them.
I’m gonna stop here today. Hopefully, today’s podcast is helpful. If it is, do me a favor. By the comment, share it with your friends and family. laid the podcast and then you have a question for me, you know, you can reach me here 888-818-0404 Is the number. And again, this is a coaching podcast. There is no other agenda behind this podcast. I just want to coach you. And enough people reach me reach out to me on my radio show and via emails asking hey, you know which seminar which workshop if I do one you will come to know but then this podcast is my way of just coaching you if you are seeking a change if you’re seeking outcome, so go there throughout all the old destructive beliefs and replace them with some new positive and more realistic beliefs if possible. That’s it. Bye now.