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Welcome back to Success with Srini. Happy Monday morning to you. Unbelievable. This is the last week before the month of March is done for the year 2022. In fact, 90 days of this year are over. I hope you’re pursuing your goals, your dreams, your ambitions that you set for yourself at the beginning of this year, 90 days are almost gone. I started this podcast thinking I may not survive, maybe a month at the most, maybe two. If I can go till the end of February achieved a milestone. But I’m pretty close to the 90-day milestone, which is amazing for me. And this has kind of become a play now. Not work for me anymore. I wake up I record. Okay.
Today on the podcast, I want to highlight a conversation I had with a friend of mine who after following my podcasts, my radio shows for a long, long time. He asked me this question. He said, How can I become a good speaker like you? Okay. I can tell you for sure. I’m not a good speaker. I miss my words, I lose my thoughts. I’m not well prepared. I don’t put forward. I don’t have a good vocabulary. And multiple times I have said this on this podcast. I don’t consider myself to be a speaker. But somehow he thinks that I do. Like he has to reach up to my level. wherein I don’t have any level, to begin with. In fact, I was so scared that I never went to Toastmasters. I mentioned this multiple times. I never went to Toastmasters. I was so scared because people would say oh, you said a year who said I’m there. And some real constructive feedback they would give. If I would go to toastmasters meetings, I never went so I never got. So I don’t think I have any level of preparation to call myself a speaker. Or that I claim that I can speak well. So the discussion from there went to what’s the difference? See the traditional books on speaking. They all talk the common things like you got to prepare your intro Well or your body of the speech? Well, you need to have stories, you need to have a good conclusion, you need to have a good call to action, all that you got to listen, you got to give compliments as you’re speaking. You got to be sincere the way you come across your body language has to be a certain way. Got to speak clearly. And need to have a good vocabulary base. All that which is all good. numerous books on this topic and numerous other teachers and mentors teaching how you can speak. I’ll tell you, I don’t think I have any of that stuff. And I was very clear to this friend of mine. And that kept me awake.
That conversation kept me awake days over the last few days. So what is it? That why is my friend telling me that he wants to match up to what I’m doing? And what can I tell him that I have that he should do? Well, why did I not tell him what I have? My idea was to kind of help him like, you think that I have something that I could give to him. So here is what I came up with. This is my self-exploration about myself. The first and foremost is in any conversation, whether it’s from the stage or one on one conversations or in consultations, the core underlying messages that I make every attempt to cherish people, to you fundamentally cannot convey anything if you don’t love people. In fact, you should never be in a public business if you don’t love people. So it starts from loving people and I said that multiple times here on this podcast too. So I cherish people and I’m not there to influence them. I’m not there to attract them towards me. I’m not there to tell them what they need to do. And I’m not there to tell them that look what I have done. None of that stuff. The goal is to cherish people. What happens when we cherish people are fundamentally deceptive. We all are receptive. We all are looking for something that can better our lives. We all are magnets going around trying to attract so because Everybody’s trying to attract something, there is nothing else that you have to do or I have to do.
We need to just present ourselves with whatever they are expecting from us. That’s all, I present here myself on this podcast to help. And if you’re seeking help, this will help. If not, it’s okay. At least this is a broadcast mechanism, I have no idea who is listening. People are receptive to anything, but you have got to say, if they can understand, or if they believe, or if they can feel that you are sincere, and that you have a sincere interest in them, and that you want to help them. When they perceive that you have an agenda, then they will run away. It’s not about people, it’s even one on one interactions, private conversations, all that they run away. The only way you could really cherish others is when you are grateful for what you have. For mindset is I deserve I in fact, have less than what I have given to others. Life should have given me more I have met those kinds of people too. And the wrong frame of looking at life and living with that kind of emotion. It’s a bad life. It’s a life filled with hurt, pain, agony to sinfulness. You can’t extend positive feelings to others when you’re leading a life with that kind of a frame. And your sentences will never increase, your reach will never increase.
Your boundaries will be limited. Your moments will be constrained. So starts with cherishing people. And the best way to cherish people is through your words. Don’t say I have good feelings for someone feelings are invisible. Don’t say that I have good intentions for you. Unless you said that on the face. Starts with cherishing people, then it comes down to you holding your self esteem as high as possible. Your job is to contribute. And you’re good at that. And for you to really feel that you’re good at that is you have a deep retrospective of yourself on all the accomplishments you had in the past. If you can’t count and tabulate all the accomplishments you had in the past, then you cannot hold on to your self-esteem. Because in the moment, you might be attacked at the moment you could be rattled by things around you. The only thing that keeps you intact is self esteem. And I said that I think yesterday on the podcast. Then in every conversation, you express your emotions. See in this podcast up till this point, if you don’t if not hearing my motions, I lost you. If my motion is not words, these are not scripts that I’m reading, or this is nothing, no preparation for this is these are words, words that are completely coming from the court of the depth of the heart and coming across. If it’s not then forget about I’m losing you now I probably lost you for the life. If not to come back, listen anything it’s over. So I hear people who don’t express their emotions when they’re presenting them talking. They get into discussing conflicts on the face or discussing things about some other events that are happening around the world and politics and why Why should I discuss a conflict with you without knowing your affiliation without knowing your position?
You can only express your feelings for honest to yourself for not honest to yourself means you have not discovered your true feelings. When people have not identified their true feelings, they can not speak in a constructive manner.
It’s that simple. Then comes focusing on the present moment when I’m speaking with anyone, not in a discussion, I’m fully focused on this situation. Of course, there are distractions, I don’t create distractions. I give full attention, my mind is zoned in totally to see what can I do for them. I have also seen good speakers, well-rounded speakers, they lead meaningful life. They are lifelong learners, they’re committed to learning. They take pleasure in using the time in the most constructive manner possible. They want to do good work. And when they do good work, essentially, every time they’re given an opportunity to speak, they’re only conveying the good work that they have done. And also seen good speakers consistently practicing what they’re preaching. Language is a thing, which improves when you practice. Language goes away if you don’t practice. I studied my childhood, I went to school, I learned the language. And for the last 25 years, I’m away from a country living all over the world. And I’ve started to forget those words, phrases, idioms that I learned, as a kid in the school, in my native language, goes away, it doesn’t stay, doesn’t stay. So every opportunity that I see where I go to a store, I find somebody in there Porter or whatever, and they’re speaking, a language that I can speak, I know five languages, six languages, in six languages you want to somebody speaking, and if I’m speaking to somebody, I discovered that they can speak any of those six languages, I try to move to that language and speak as much as I can. And sometimes I tell them, Listen, I speak six languages, three of them are not good. If they’re not good, they’re not good. I’m, I tell them that, so that I am in a way, I’m taking the permission to speak to them in that language. But if I make mistakes, they will over overlook that, knowing that I don’t know that language that well. But the point here is, if you don’t practice, it goes away. So, a good speech has to be practiced, a good message has to be practiced. A good delivery has to be practiced. So these are four or five things that I was trying to convey to my friend, these are things I do not necessary, that need to be done. And these are all learnable skills and these skills. These are things that I’ve seen others do and I got them into my life.
Not that I was born with it. So you keep cherishing people, you keep your self esteem high as much as possible. You express your emotions as much as possible. You focus on people, you lead a meaningful life and you’re away from people and you practice whatever you want to convey in it consistently for a long period of time. If you are considering becoming a speaker, if you’re considering becoming a presenter, or somebody taking an influencer position, any aspect of life, then I’m hoping that today’s podcast will help dig this, if you have something else that you would like to contribute to what I just said, let me know. Text me the number in my direct podcast number is 888-818-0404. You can text me you can call me on that, leave me a message. And I will try to improve even whatever I shared here a bit more with your input. That’s all for now. solver. Now you have a wonderful Monday, and I’ll catch you tomorrow with a new podcast episode. Stay tuned.