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Welcome back. On today’s podcast, I want to extend the conversation I started yesterday. Now yesterday on the podcast, I talked about the five ultra secrets of ultra entrepreneurs, and five secrets of ultra entrepreneurs. And I said I was sharing these five secrets as a part of the mastermind, an impromptu mastermind, not during that mastermind. And there was a question about speaking, presentations, influence, and specifically how to create confidence as you speak. And I kind of took over from there, the question was meant for somebody else, and the discussion was happening on the call. And I took over that conversation, I said, I have, over the years figured out a small little formula. And I shared the formula. And I want to share this with you today on the podcast because doesn’t matter, maybe you are in a job situation right now, maybe you have a business, but all of us at any given point in time, is presenting, I’m presenting now, as I’m speaking. And this is gonna help. So let me know if it does.
Now I’ve condensed this, there is a bigger version of this. But this is how this goes. There are three rules in my mind, every time I make a presentation, or every time I’m about to speak, there are three rules I have, in my mind, I have a rule of many, I have a rule of few. And I have a rule of one. So the rule of many works like this. In order to become a good speaker, who speaks with confidence, you need to read a lot of books. There is no shortcut to reading books. And this is my third or fourth podcast in the last week, when I’m talking about books, I’m referring to books, you read a lot, and there is no shortcut. So a lot of reading of books, then a lot of reading of people, you got to study people, you got to study cultures, you got to study languages, you got to study everything that has to do with people, including their moods, their melodies that like their dislikes. Now, once that is done, you spend hours, literally hours preparing yourself, to study the audience. Now, there is a difference between studying people and studying audience studying people is in general, you study so that you build a base and understanding and kind of develop yourself. Studying the audience means that you are just, let’s say, I’m speaking somewhere I’m speaking now. So I know the audience. And I want to keep my construct or the boundaries of my speech specific to the listeners of this podcast. I’m wanting to come here and talk about surgeries, I want to talk about topics that are not necessarily to this audience. So the audience has a need for you as a listener, you have a need, and I need to cater to that need. So studying the audience, when you step into a room, and you have a bunch of people sitting in the room, you need to understand why they are there. You don’t want to be talking about something that has absolutely no context has no meaning has no relevance, then you end up talking to yourself. And I see that happening with a lot of speakers also. So studying the audience is essential. You spend hours if not days studying the audience, it’s better to get an idea of who you’re talking to, what are their expectations, and what kind of value is created for them. So this is my rule of many. And there are many other attributes I could add to this category. But this is the rule of many for myself, then, the rule of you.
Now the rule of few has a few things, a few things that anybody and everybody should do as a speaker. The first one is the voice. Your voice has to be preserved. You need to have a control command on you can’t be coming here and saying doesn’t make sense? You see doesn’t make sense. I see that speakers do a lot that they clear their throats in the middle of the presentation 10 times. No. So the voice should not choke the voice should not give up should not lose its amplitude should not lose its force. None. It has to be clear. And you’ve got to have a resounding voice as if you’re recording as you’re speaking. Why is a culture very important. I wish I should come back I’ll do a whole different podcast on this one. Then comes from memory, I just have speaker memory. Something that I’m really scared of as I’m aging because what if I’m in the middle of a good presentation and I suddenly forget a story or suddenly forget an experience that I want to share. But I have it in mind as a start as a beginner. But then along the way, 10-15 minutes into the presentation, I forget that story. Or I share the first part of the story, I don’t share the second part because I’m looking for a logical way to bring it back. But then my time is up, or my presentation is done. And then I forget, oh, you know, I forgot to talk about the ending of the story. And I had my ending before the story ended, happens to speakers got to be very careful with your memory.
Hence, practice comes in, then comes vocabulary, the words that you say, and the words you use. And I said this before I was raised, born, and raised. When I was done, by the time I came to my 12th grade, I only had about 800 English words in my thinking, and my children, my kids, through the, by the time they’re done with their 12th grade, they’ll have 30,000 words in their vocabulary. So there’s a huge difference in the way because of the words. And because they have a stronger vocabulary base, they can articulate a sentence in a certain way that I cannot and I struggle, I go round and round and round. So a part of the culture involves one of the few things is to increase the vocabulary. So you got to be learning new words, as much as possible, whenever possible, then comes to delivery. Delivery is the phrases you use the idioms you use the pace, the momentum that you use as a part of the way you speak, all that. So the fluctuations, the swings that you make, as you are saying a specific sentence, the pauses, use the silence to inject all that comes in. So this is the second category rule of view. And then the last category is the rule of one, which is, as I’m speaking, in my mind, I want to deliver one value to you as a listener, just one value. One thing of off value, not one value, one thing of value. I have no idea what that is. So I have a few things in my mind. But one thing is for sure. So this is where the study of the audience comes in.
So the study is right, then the value creation happens. So I want to deliver one incredible value to you as a listener, right, you’re listening, then the room may have, you know, 1000s of people, this podcast, hundreds of people listening. So the question becomes can I satisfy everyone? I cannot. So what are my criteria for success? My criteria are that I would at least want to impact one individual. One individual feels they got the value, they got transformed. They had a breakthrough listening to this. So one thing of value I want to deliver is one individual I want to impact. And then in my mind, I can do those two things, if I’m just one step ahead of the audience. So what is one step ahead? The one step ahead means that I will make an attempt to raise the understanding of the audience, just by one step. I’m not there to completely change their life, I’m not there to do something that no other speaker has ever done, or influencer has ever done. None. I just want to take them one step forward. And for me to take them one step forward, I need to be just one step ahead of them. So I can pull them with me. That’s my mindset. Again, how do I pull them? How do I get ahead of them? I prepare I study, I do my homework before I show up. And understand this podcast also has some prep work and has some prep work because I showed up on the mastermind with the prep work. Interestingly, I was not supposed to talk about this confidence and how to public speaking confidence for speaking in public, I was not prepared for that. But incidentally, it so happened that I was prepared. I ran the slides because there was prior preparation from many years ago.
Do you see how things come together? This is how it works. So there’s also a possibility that you are not prepared to listen to this podcast or maybe you’re listening to this podcast for the very first time. It’s funny how the world works. That’s it. This is my simple formula. Rule of money rule a few rule of one. I hope this helps. If it does do me a favor. Should be able to write a comment if you’re watching this on YouTube or they should be placed in the app for you to write a review Read the port cash and all that good stuff that’s all for now wherever you are be safe and I’ll be with you as early as tomorrow. Stay tuned. Bye now.