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Welcome back to Success with Srini. Today’s podcast episode is based on an interesting conversation I had with a couple recently. And very interesting conversation because they were reaching out on a problem that is nonexistent. It has not happened yet. Very interesting. So their question was, “this is our career, this is the amount of money we have, these are our liabilities. This is our credit, this is our debit, whatever. And we are planning to have a baby because we are already three years into the marriage, and it’s just about time to build a family should we have? Should we Is this the right time to have a kid? And if we do, then what changes do we need to make financially to make this a good experience for ourselves and for the kid?”
It was an incredible question. And the reason why I’m sharing this, this experience of this consultation, or the Cliff Notes from this consultation here today on this podcast is because you may not be having a kid. But you may have a life transition on your hands right now. Maybe you’re moving a house, maybe you’re getting married, maybe you are experiencing some turbulence in your relationships, and you want to change the status. Or maybe you got a new job, maybe you have to move cities, or you’re switching careers. Or you’re dealing with a parent, or an elderly individual’s loss in your life, God forbid, and maybe nothing, none of the above. Maybe you’re just having a friend, a close friend who just moved, and you’re dealing with the loss or a friend moving away, or the vacuum that you’re dealing with whatever it is, the question becomes is how do you plan these changes?
These transitions, we call them, how do we deal with them? Because our response matters, how we respond to these things matters. So it was an interesting conversation. So it’s amazing men and young people, young couples that reach out and ask this kind of question. I wish I was this aware when I was starting my journey. I wish I was this aware. I can’t go back in time, cannot go back in time. Okay. The point is, you got to plan ahead. Whatever you’re thinking about whatever you’re trying to do, if you think it’s going to trigger a transition, you’ve got to plan it ahead in time as much as possible, literally have to schedule this. Planning is important. Now, that’s step one. Step two to this is you got to also understand the space in between transitions, there could be two or three things going on in your life. You want to buy a new house also you want to change a job. How do you space this? Right spacing is important. Sometimes you have to give three months, six months a year. Sometimes timing is not the issue. It’s not about the duration between spacing these transitions. It’s about the focus, the energy that goes into it is also important. Sometimes I’ve seen when people plan, they also undo the things that they have already been doing.
Amazing example, some time ago, I have a dentist friend of mine. She told me something very interesting. He said, no matter what happens. The first thing people do they stop flossing. So it’s an interesting observation. So something happens, nothing to do with flossing but stop flossing. And they never go back to flossing till they go to the dentist back on the six months routine widget very interesting. So people stopped their routines when they are about to take on something new routines are important. Routines mean that you have a structure in place, you can’t stop your routine from just going on and taking on a new transition in a different time and space happening to you. So there is a different allocation in your mind, you cannot stop what is going on. Very important.
Now, sometimes you’ve got to give yourself a solid downtime before you take on the transition. So that’s when people take vacations, they go on, they shut themselves down, they completely withdraw themselves away from everything that’s happening for two or three weeks and four weeks and come back and take charge. So before you take charge, you have to take off. One other side note on this. Sometimes it’s important that you engage in something that you love, not necessarily a vacation, like a hobby or something. You go very deep into it and then detach and go start taking over the transition. And my final comment on this is you need to reach out for some help and support. And there are multiple different coaches that are multiple different networks and support systems and interviews. You’re specialized individuals who can help you with a specific transition. You got to reach out to them. The point is, every transition has to be seamless. It has to feel as if it’s a routine. It’s just one other thing that’s happening in your life. That’s how seamless this should be.
I hope this is helpful. I thought that this is going to be helpful. And that’s my expectation as I’m doing this podcast. If it is, then drop me a comment, write me a review, share it. Okay, stay tuned. And tomorrow I’m going to take up another topic and we’ll go deep. Okay, why now?