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Welcome back. Happy Sunday morning to you on the podcast today. I’m not answering a question, not a question from a listener of this podcast or a listener of my radio show. I have about 14 more questions to answer. I have a lot of questions, seriously speaking, but I was looking for a window where I could kind of take some time and speak something that I have on my mind that I think will bring some value to you your life. And I was looking for that window. It so happens that today is Sunday. I thought I’ll do this. But I respect your questions. I get pleasure from your questions in the sense that I’m being put to work. I go, I do the research if I don’t know the answer, and I take absolute immense pride in responding to you. And every time I create an answer podcast here, I know deep within my heart that it’s going to help you. That’s the conviction I have to this podcast is a rant, and also a story, a story in the form of a rant.
You know, I am notorious by when talking about public speaking and all the challenges I had. And I continue to have the speaker, English is not my first language. And I never really went to a school that really taught me English, through the first 10 years of my schooling, and English was my third or fourth language. And everything that I speak is, and the way I say has a lot to do with years and years and years of living in America and traveling the world and all that. So this is a hard-learned language. It’s very difficult. It’s a whole different story when you are speaking to people in it, day-to-day normal conversation. When you are on a public platform, on radio, on a podcast, and on YouTube, and all that place all these places. It’s very difficult. Because I don’t know, you know, sometimes I mess up my words, my phrases, and all that. And sometimes I lose my thought, my intent, it’s very hard. So recently, just a few days ago, I talked about my vocabulary base. Last year, also on this podcast, I talked about my vocabulary base and the number of words I have. And I said 800, 700 to 800 words, maybe at the most now back then maybe 100 200 300. And in contrast, my children who are just entering high school, in that age range, they have 30,000 words in their vocabulary. So they can articulate, they can present they can speak, they can convey things much faster and very eloquent in what they do and how they do as compared to every time as compared to me. And I knew this from the beginning. So how can we overcome this there are chances that you might be going through this also. And there is no harm in acknowledging the fact that, you know, we have a deficiency and what can be done to overcome this. So here, I want to today on this podcast, I’m gonna share with you 10 words, that completely changed my life. And these are the words that I use every single day, as much as they can. But these 10 words, if I go back and look into all the presentations have done, this podcast, radio shows, workshops, seminars, consultations, even at work, when I used to work, all the words that I have used these 10 words extensively I have used, and I continue to use these words, and I’m going to give you these words because if you bring in these words into your vocabulary and your speech and your day to day, daily speaking, I know your life’s gonna change. And you can’t put any monetary value on this. I could, because I’m in the space, but there’s no monetary value. Don’t worry about it. We are only talking about intrinsic value. And that’s all I want you to see. If you want to become a good speaker, you will speak constructively. And you will speak with impact and influence. That’s what you need, by the way, and all of us need that. So why Why speak constructively because the majority of the people in the day-to-day conversations speak destructively.
I listen to people I talk to people I see the patterns through which they speak. And most of the time destructive is destructive because unknowingly they use the same words of the use phrases where they come across as if they’re criticizing the speaker. They think that criticizing the content or a topic that the speaker is other individually saying, but then the way they respond, they end up criticizing the speaker, who, by the way, is not at fault. But they do. And sometimes, depending upon what the competition is, there are certain words they say, that lead to some confrontation. And that’s not the way it should be. So why do you want to confront somebody with words, and when you don’t mean that anyway, to begin with, some Why would do. And sometimes I’ve seen people make extreme statements, like using words like, it’s always like this, or it could never be like that. You see, the world doesn’t operate like that. And the truth is always somewhere in the middle, can’t be, you know, always can’t be never somewhere in the middle. In I’ve seen this. And at the end, the outcome is the entire conversation, whether it’s for an hour or two or five minutes, whatever it is, ends up being nonconstructive, destructive, what should we do, we should be energizing the listener, we should be putting positivity into the listener, we should be as we speak, we use the words we are supporting them, we are caring for them, creating the comfort will bring the trust, we are creating that and most fear where the other individual has to feel that they are secure. That’s how we should operate. But we don’t. And it doesn’t. It’s not difficult. It doesn’t take a lot to do the change if you are going through it. So these are the 10 words that change my life.
Okay, there were some more words, but then these are only 10 words, literally, I use. The first word is amazing. If you go back and listen to two or three prior podcast episodes, you’ll see me using the word amazing, a lot. This word I use at least 20 times a day. But I’m writing or I’m speaking 20 times a day. And maybe today’s podcast is the only place where I did not use the word amazing. In a way that sounds like a part of the narrative. This is only today’s exception, but on the podcast, I frequent myself with this word. And what one is amazing. Number two is incredible. Number three is remarkable. Number four is outstanding. Number five is extraordinary. Number six is spectacular. Number seven is wonderful. Number eight is marvelous. Number nine is incredible. Number 10. Phenomenal. I used to do a success tip for three minutes on the radio for about six years, every day in the morning. And I used to end up end that success day by using the word phenomenal. You have a phenomenal day, something like that I used to say, people used to tell me later on the hurt that success tip so many times repeatedly. Over the years, every time they used to see me they would end up saying every time we hear the word phenomenal, you come to our mind. Because we have heard you say this so many times at my seminars, people have told me this. So these are the 10 words, I repeat myself in every conversation as much as possible. And so that it’s seamless, it has to be seamless, not like you keep on dropping these words everywhere, but seamless. Now, when you use these words, you have to mean it right? Otherwise, it doesn’t, they don’t create impact. So overall, it keeps my mental state in sync. And it gives me you know, allows me to clear the care and comfort in the listener’s mind and gives me leverage also, as I’m doing this. Now, there are two other things I also do and this is for you, if you know me, you know within close quarters, and we met or we have spoken to each other and you know we have some kind of a prior working relationship. I use a statement. So this is a friend of mine calling somebody who you know, I speak to maybe once every six months, eight months in a movie professional friend. And I’ve used this all the time every somebody calls me I go like this, right? Ladies and gentlemen, the man the myth, the legend, the one and only, and then I use the name whoever is calling. Let’s say John is calling. I said ladies and gentlemen, the man the myth, the legend, the one, and only John, right.
And then I go into the call. I like a complete change in the temperature of the conversation. John wouldn’t be calling him feeling a sad little bit depressed, a little bit off a little bit all that and it’s possible that John might be in a very bad state calling me right but I completely change the entire Congress, you know, conversation and I now set the frame to move forward from here. That’s the idea behind sounds awesome. Makes them feel good. Okay. The second line I use in conversations is Hey, big man, something like that, like, every call hit big man something, right, depending upon on my leverage how much leverage I have with that individual. I use these two lines, you know, in a funny way, but then sets the frame. Yeah, so these are the words 10 Words, that changed my life and continue to change my life. And these are the two lines that I use every time I meet people just to kind of make them feel good about who they are. And in a pump them up. And so that I get to hear good things from them. Whatever time I’m spending with them.
That’s all. Hopefully, this is helpful. Because this is something that you know, every time you record a podcast like this, where you have to come up and share something from your own site. Sometimes it’s very hard for me to assess whether this is really creating any impact. Is it of any help? I have no idea. So you have to let me know. So listen to this on YouTube, maybe on the podcasting app, wherever you are listening to this, that should be a place for you to write a comment, rate, podcast, and all that. So please do that. And I’ll be back with my questions. Hopefully as early as tomorrow, depending upon what happens between now and tomorrow. Maybe I’ll get on the idea or something like that. Then we’ll come back with one more rant. But that’s all for now. You be safe, and I’ll be talking to you. Bye now.