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Welcome back. And on today’s podcast, we are talking about leadership. Every time I have recorded a podcast, at the beginning of every podcast, I say there, and how I got the idea of that day’s podcast. Oftentimes, this has to deal with a question coming from the listener of this podcast, or maybe a conversation in which I was part of the conversation, or I was part of a consultation, or somebody was consulting with me. I take the gist of all these conversations. If it’s a direct question, it’s okay. But then, sometimes when there is no direct question, I get the ideas from the recent conversations, and I present them in a meaningful way. Hopefully, I tried to present them in a meaningful way, as a part of the podcast.
So again, today’s podcast, as I said, is coming from a meaningful conversation I had yesterday last evening, with a friend of mine. And again, as a part of the discussion that came up, actually, a bunch of people came up is there are a lot of books on leadership, and everybody is writing a book on leadership, and why I have not written a book on leadership. And the discussion went, of course, the question was why I have not written one. But then there were multiple discussions as a part of that. And at some point, the conversation goes like this. And I said, that in order to say anything that you want to say, or in order to do anything that you want to do, whether in the profession or in personal life, you need to have a voice. And that voice has to be authentic. And then the conversation became, okay, now that you say, you need to have an authentic voice, how do you create an authentic voice. Because if you do anything beyond that, then they may all sound incomplete, they may all sound ineffective, if you do anything, without figuring out your authentic voice. So that was my point. Now, if you are an influencer, you are a leader, you work with people, you play any of those roles. By the way, all of us are leaders. And that was another point I made in the conversation, all of us are leaders, doesn’t matter, you are alone, yours, secluded, you are lonely doesn’t matter. All. Each one of us is a leader and we are leading something. Sometimes we are leading invisibly, which means our leadership is invisible, only visible to us. And because we are invisible, hence, we don’t get the credit, or we don’t get any attribution for what we’re doing. But all of us are leaders.
So any leadership role that you play, whether you are playing that in private or public, you need to be authentic. It all starts with that with an authentic voice. Of course, as an individual, you have to be authentic. That’s a different discussion, but you need to have an authentic voice. Then the discussion was, how do you build one there was an agreement on Yeah, okay, I get it, okay. Everyone has to be true to themselves, or the leader has to be true to himself or herself. And then from there, everything stems that people agreed with that. If you go back and listen to all the podcast episodes I have done here, as a part of my podcast, in the early part of this year, January, February of 2042, I talked a lot about communication, and why it’s important to communicate in a certain way. And I made a point that you cannot communicate, you cannot communicate, can’t get to the board, you cannot communicate with the world. See, sometimes I run into these problems with words, words unless you cannot communicate unless you are clear. When there is clarity in your thoughts, that’s when you can relate. People can relate to you if you have clarity in your thinking. So the only way to do that is not by reading books. It’s not maybe it’s not because I can’t come here and say a few words to impress you. It’s impossible. It’s just not right first of all, it’s not the right thing to do. And if at all let’s say that I can do it. Let’s say I can use amazing quotes and incredible phrases and all kinds of stuff still, I can miss the basic part which is that I miss sound superficial, I am not authentic.
So you can’t communicate with words even if the words are essential. You cannot communicate with phrases and stories and all even though they are necessary for every communication. But the core essential ingredient for any communication is, how authentic Are you? Now I can go back and edit that word, the communicated word. Okay, multiple times, I said it’s wrong in a podcast, I could take it out. But that’s my true expression. That’s who I am. That’s my belief. That’s how I’m performing right now. So I can take it out and make the podcast sound great. By the way, I didn’t say that. I didn’t say that to make a point, it just happened. And you can go back and listen to what just happened. I didn’t say that. But then my idea is not to make it sound good. My idea is to create an impact. So your voice, whether you say the right word or not, words do matter. But then that’s a different discussion. But then your voice has to be a force in anything that you’re doing. So you raise awareness with your voice, and you make issues stand out, and you make issues important. And as you do these things, you’re creating a posture change. And you do all these things. When you identify who you are, it’s not about identifying people, I get this in business conversations, people say, I need to find the right client, I need to find the right lead. Everybody’s right. We are wrong.
Every individual is right. You know, every individual is dealing with their own issues. I have no right to sit here and judge somebody, somebody’s performance towards me. Because if I put myself in a position and say, what I’m going through, they might be going through, or they might be going through even a bigger challenge than what I’m going through. If I use that frame, magically. Now I can relate. Now I can see. So people say others are wrong, others are incorrect. I have no idea who you are, you’re listening to this podcast, we might have met. Maybe you just happen to discover me now. And you’re listening to this. I don’t know you. But if you are here, let’s say you’re listening to this podcast for the very first time, you have no idea who I am. Somebody may have told you about me, maybe somebody sent you this link doesn’t matter. You heard me till this point, let’s say today is the last time you’re listening to me. Or listen to this podcast. And from today onwards the rest of our lives. Neither you listen to me. Or you will ever hear my name. If you just take these few minutes let me quickly check how many minutes I’m in. Okay, right around seven, eight minutes now into this podcast. If I add an intro and all maybe nine minutes into this podcast if we stop in this nine minutes, do you think that I got attention? Do you think that there is something that kept you here for nine minutes? Think about it. I think so. And unless you tell me I didn’t think so. And again, by the way, I didn’t share anything incredible.
On this episode, nothing groundbreaking, nothing, you know, earth-shattering none more mistakes than any good. If in more mistakes than I thought. I thought I will commit fewer mistakes as a part of today’s podcast, but I have multiple mistakes I have already done. And I know what mistakes are making clear. Some could have been better, this whole thing could have been better. There are some things that I should have been more careful that. But one thing is for sure. You cannot remove the truth which is whatever is happening here. I’m authentic. I’m not talking about a degree of authenticity, some people got to be extremely authentic, that’s different. But you get to the point. The point is people will overlook every deficiency you have. If they know that what you’re saying is what you mean. Anything that you say you mean? They will all look if they know your intention. Your voice is the probably the most effective tool that conveys your attention. Whatever intention, whatever your brain is thinking. Your voice can communicate. Yeah, your hands can communicate, your eyes can communicate, and your body can communicate they do all contribute to the overall concept of communication. Yes, they do play roles. But then your voice can do 90% or more of it. It can convey the intention of the mind.
You can spell stories, you can express stories with good intent with the right intentions, and you can take images that are in your mind and give them a flow through words. Things that you can conceive, you can convey amazing. So why not? If this is such an important thing, right? If this is such an important thing, then why not use the voice to achieve success? Why not work on making it more authentic? That determine the spa power, at least for sure we know if you use the voice slide, there is tremendous power. And why not make it more authentic? How do we make this authentic? Let’s talk about that for a second. The most important part is that you got to be true to yourself. I’ll give you the truth, how I’m trying to be true to myself, as I’m doing this recording. As I get on to this recording, I connect the microphone and press the record button on my laptop. The first the foremost and the only thing that goes through my mind is the listener who’s listening has a problem. The listener who is listening is going through some pain. The listener who is listening is investing some time to listen to my podcast, the listener is in control. Here. My time here is to serve. That is authenticity right there. That is me being true to myself. And I’m here not because I want to be here I’m here because there is someone who is allowing me to be here. I get into you, you don’t listen to this podcast, the numbers drop the downloads drop, it becomes zero, guess what? I’ll stop recording, I’ll stop producing. I understand the importance of being true to myself. How can you find your authentic voice? the question came up last evening and said it’s very simple. You are an in on the face demonstration of your values and beliefs. That’s who you are. You are the face demonstration or an on-the-face representation of your values and beliefs everywhere where we go, we carry our beliefs and values, and in every conversation we have they come out, they come out. I have, I have never been in a conversation where I did not represent my core values.
This podcast is impossible that I record a podcast like this which is going to go into 15 minutes or so. And I do this on a daily basis that my values and beliefs don’t come right in front of you, you know exactly where I stand and what I stand for. And let’s say you listen to this podcast every day. And you when you meet me and you this is not who I am. I’m completely somebody different. Guess what, what I’m saying is who I am, that is a big difference. And at that point, you will probably choose not to engage. And you’ll see the discord you see the distance you see the gap. So your values and beliefs dominate you. So if that’s the only thing that we carry our beliefs and values wherever we go, and we give shape, we give formation to those beliefs and values and represent them through words. Why not? We start thinking about values and beliefs more rather than anything else. Who am I? What am I doing here? How better can I do what I’m doing? How do I discover myself? You ask questions about yourself. Every day you wake up you ask questions every day, every day you ask Who Am I? What can I do better? Why am I here? What all can I improve? What are my deficiencies? What are my efficiencies now that I’m given this wonderful day to deal with myself? How to improve myself and how to improve the world around me. You ask some seriously deep questions that completely change your entire existence every day. You’re not what people do they sit there they ask questions about why this life is like this. Why am I going through like this? You know others are doing so well. How come my life is like this? Weird. In the questioning itself. The intent is representing you can read the intent as people are so amazing. It’s just so funny. It’s just funny.
No, this brain this intelligence this knowledge this no Aha, and this human form is given to us, you know why? Because we can ask intelligent questions. It’s amazing how highly educated, overly qualified, independent, you know, living independently and leading incredible groups and teams and big companies, people, people I meet, ask silly questions. In fact, for lack of a better word stupid questions, Maha myopic they have become, with this wonderful thing that’s given to them, which is called life, blessed life. Yesterday, I made the same comment I said, you know, it’s funny that you all are in a leadership position doing what you’re doing. And then you question why I’m not writing a leadership book. I may not write one because there are too many, I don’t have any unique or outstanding ideas to represent. Maybe not maybe this, I may not write at all. But then each one of you is in this incredible position to do or you’re already doing. And you don’t see that you already have these things in you. Well, I’m thankful that you asked me that you know why you haven’t written a book, I’ll take that as a compliment. But then, if you don’t become authentic, and use your authentic voice to make the changes, given that you are in that leadership position, that role, the title given to you in your companies, you’re not doing that, then you will be unhappy, you’re unfulfilled, you’re not self-actualized, you’re disconnected. And then you live a life that is filled with gaps everywhere. A lot of disconnects are dotted, it’s a straight line with but a dotted line you see. That was my closing comment. Sci-Fi finding an authentic voice is one aspect of the discussion.
The other discussion is how do you develop one? How do you develop one, constantly refining and us discovering the values that are not serving you, you drop those values, bring in new values, look at your beliefs, drop some beliefs, bring in some new beliefs? And reading masterminding having discussions with other enlightened people, all those things contribute towards forming. And that means nourishing an authentic voice. Just having one-word help. Now that you have one, you have to keep one, I made a point the other day to a friend of mine, and he said, you know, in order for me to really stay on top of my podcast, I need to be on top of myself. I can’t come up and say oh, I need to say something. So I will say something doesn’t work. So here’s my challenge to you for today, I will wrap this up because you’re going to fall into this. And you see, there are so many other elements to this, that I could talk about all day. Here’s my challenge to you. I want you to really push yourself and say things that truly represented values and beliefs that say you are seeing something or you are being asked to do something that is against your values and beliefs, to stand up and say I don’t, I will not try doing it. Because if you are in conflict with your values and beliefs, you still agree to do but you are in conflict with the core values and beliefs. You’re going to start experiencing unhappiness. And that’s okay. But if you do it for a very long time, you can’t even find your voice. And that’s why people become subservient. Because they compromise their values and beliefs. Hence, they don’t have a voice. They just follow the big instructions. I wanted to bring it back. If you can make that simple attempt. Every time you’re, you’re supposed to say yes. Try saying no once and see what happens. And you succeed. Try saying no twice. And see what happens three times, four times a day, a week, whatever the frequency is, and see how your life shifts. Because by saying no to something that you don’t like or don’t love, you are saying yes to your core beliefs and values. And that’s a very powerful thing to do. And that’s how you become authentic.
Okay, I want to stop here. Hopefully, today’s podcast is helpful. You found value. If you did, write a review, write a comment. And you have a question for me. Then the number in this podcast is 888-818-0404. Call in with your questions. And that’s all for now. Take care. Talk soon.