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On the podcast today, I’m taking up a topic that has come up numerous times in my coaching engagements in my consultations, and not only that this is something that I also dealt with in my own life, and also in the lives of several of my extended family members. And because this is so wide, it’s so widespread, that I think this is going to help you. And there’s something I’m expecting that you might have dealt with also in your life. So that’s where this is coming from. This has to do with we living in our past, the struggles that we go through, when we contrast our past, with our present, if our past was glorious, was beautiful, then we spent a majority of our time, the present time, thinking about the past because the present is not going as well as our past was. And because we experienced the glory, we now are struggling, why our present is not matching up to the past. If the past was not beautiful, that means there was pain, there was a trauma that was suffering. And then even though the present is good, we are constantly thinking about the past. Because that’s something that trauma is still there in us. And this is a common play.
This happens across the board. Every time there is a consultation every time there is a therapy-related discussion, this comes up and primarily in hypnosis, when we do regression, this comes up a lot. The question becomes is this. The truth is if we constantly live in the past, that means there are signs of depression, it could lead to depression if you spend a lot of time thinking about the past. If we constantly think about the future, now, there is anxiety, anxiousness, all those things coming in. Now, either way, there is a loss. And the only loss there is the present, the present is compromised. At the moment, we are not doing what we are supposed to do, which is to stay happy, to stay aligned. To have a full and complete view of life. As the current moment as the moment at this time, time is going we need to be in full control and have a full vision of what’s happening around us. So we are not the question becomes says, first of all, how do we know we are living in the past? And what can we do to overcome? How do we know we are living the future? And how do we overcome? Here is how we do this. And there are some symptoms, there are some things that you exhibit. And the problem is that our own behavior is invisible to us. It’s very hard for the mind to separate what is the past and what is the present. It’s very difficult. The brain oscillates everywhere. And we all of us have incredible memories because we have already seen the past. And because we have seen the past we know the past is most glorious. But of course, as I said early on, some memories, some events, they stay and the coolest down.
I’ve seen people do crazy things to forget their past. Sleep, literally sleep in the day throughout the day thinking that I’ll have better dreams, good dreams. So I don’t need to remember my past. I’ve seen people say that to me. I’ve also experienced people telling me that I want to sleep throughout the day. So that I have a good recollection of my past, I want good events from my past the play out as if they are in the present. And I can do that when I’m sleeping. So I want to have all my past come to me in my dreams so I can enjoy my present. I’ve seen people do that. I’ve also seen people spend a lot of time distracting themselves so that they can forget their past. I’ve seen people distract themselves to forget about the future because they’re anxious. And they do this distraction. They practice distraction by spending time on their laptops, on their iPhones, watching movies, Netflix, all that distraction. So essentially, there is this urge to escape, escape the reality and reality for them is either the past or the future, both combining together right and occupying the present space. Because if the future is dark, then obviously the present is getting darker. The past was dark, the present is becoming darker. So from either of these situations, they want to escape. The mind wants to escape In all this, there’s only one truth that is that you are in denial about your current living situation. You’re not accepting what is happening with you.
Now, if the past was dark than the present, this moment is the time, this is the time for you to take control, in a way diminish the effects of the past so that your future becomes good. If the future is dark, then this is the moment where you take control of your actions, your intentions and your time, and your activity. So that the future becomes less painful and more hopeful, kind of becomes positive. So the point is, we got to start living here. And now, how do we do this? The first and foremost thing is, we need to acknowledge that whatever we are doing, is not helping us. If I’m living in the past, I need to acknowledge Yes, I’m living in the past. If I’m constantly living in the future, I need to acknowledge I’m constantly living the future. So it starts with acceptance. And most of the times people don’t, even though people come to therapy to consultations, but the time somebody comes to you, that means they have already acknowledged that they have a problem. But then still, even once they are there, I take numerous commitments from them, that they are acknowledging that they have a problem. Because if there is no full acknowledgment, then it’s very difficult to find a solution.
Then the second commitment is, yes, I’m decisive, to make a shift. And I want to make a shift into the present. That’s an affirmation that has to be forced. And I do that, when I’m working with one on one people, I do it myself too, sometimes when I get stuck in the past or in the future. So it’s not about living in the present or shifting into the present doesn’t mean that I need to clean my car, I need to clean my house, I need to clean my closet, my clothes, my books, all that people do, I have done that. That’s not living in the present. shifting into the present means mentally making a commitment that I need to live in the moment, literally moving into them into the present. So I think about the day. So this is my day, this is what I have to do. These are the activities, these are the challenges, I have to apply myself to the clock and to the sun and to the moon and to the wind and to the water of the day. Now, and we do this, if you are a listener of this podcast, you heard previous episodes, we do this by setting goals. When you have figured out your goals, and when you know, you have your macro goals, you have your micro-goals, and you know your schedule, you know your time you know, your activities, all that figured out. That means you should be living in the present. Ideally.
Now, if you don’t write, despite knowing all that all your goals, everything, despite knowing all that, let’s say you still go to the past to still go to the future. That means it’s time for you to look into your goals. Remind yourself what are your goals and your activities. Sometimes it happens that we forget what our goals are, we wake up, we don’t know what to do with the day sometimes happens. We call it a funk state, you wake up you don’t know what to do. Right. So knowing the goals are important. That’s why we print the goals we base them on the walls. Now, one other critical way of dealing with or stepping into the present is understanding feelings. In an effort that goes into understanding your own feelings, people want to master their feelings. Everybody wants to master their emotional state, they don’t want to get angry, they don’t want to get worried they don’t want to get stressed out. All that could happen if you get control of the emotions of your feelings, the challengers, in order for anybody to get mastery over the feelings you need or they need to become a student of their feelings. So you need to surrender to your feelings before you can take over your feelings. So there has to be some work that has to go into understanding your feelings. So this is where journaling comes in. This is where writing comes in. This is expressing your thoughts come in all that. So there should be a commitment.
Usually, in consultations in therapy, I make people commit to making some special efforts to become a student of their own feelings first, before gaining control of their feelings. Now, despite all this, let’s say, you’re not able to step in into the present, you’re not able to move in into the present, then, of course, I suggest you connect with the professional. There’s a lot of help available today we are in your 2022 The world is an amazing place to be with so much information, so much knowledge, no, you, if you are not able to fix a situation that you’re going through today. That means it’s your denial, it’s your own limiting belief that stopping you, there is help everywhere. Also, step up. Every day that you waste is a day that you can’t get back. This is the truth. If you live in the past, then it robs you. If you live in the future, also a lot, always getting worried and always getting concerned. Always become anxious. It robs you to life that we all truly deserve, is living in the present. And that’s the point of today’s podcast. But it’s also about getting control. I recorded a video and I published it on my YouTube channel, talking about how I lived in my past. And if you’re interested in finding what this video has in it, I’ll be more than happy to send you the link or you can look up the success with the Srini YouTube channel. And you’ll find this video on how I live in my past and there is a specific technique I use to remind myself of my past. But then the most effective way to live in the present is to constantly restate your life goals to yourself. And that’s how you live out your dreams in the present time.
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