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Welcome or welcome back to Success with Srini. On today’s podcast episode, I am sharing something that I learned many, many years ago from my book from an incredible author. Towards the end of this episode, I will tell you the book, and I’m sure you’re going to get this book, you will read this book. Somehow I had that feeling.
When I heard for the first time about this book, I got my hands on it. So if you are a success minded individual, you will also do the same. Okay, for the last few days on this podcast, have been talking about how our thoughts create our destiny. I took Lao Tzu, Chinese philosopher, Lao Tzu’s quote and I kept on expanding on it. It was all about why we need to focus on our thoughts, and our words and our actions. And today, I want to share with you how to develop the skill of using the right words, or saying the right words, it’s a skill. So today’s podcast episode is the how, and the last 10 days were all about why.
Anybody who’s listening to you, is listening because they want something.
The first, the foremost thing. Anybody who’s listening to you, is listening because they want something. Your spouse, your manager, your co workers, your children. Everybody wants something from you, unconsciously the brain is. If I’m talking to this person, what is there in it for me, every conversation, every word that they’re hearing or listening from you is what is in it for me? So if I’m doing this podcast right now, your brain, your brain unconscious brain is asking what is in it for me? What do I learn by listening to today’s podcast episode, or listening to Srini? Or to this podcast? I’m subscribed. I’m listening to this. What is it for me? Guess what, what we do? We always talk about ourselves, our brain always talks about ourselves. I’m very careful about it. Even today, after like 15 years, doing 20 years, nearly on stage, 12 years, nearly 12 years on radio. I always try to check myself, I want to guard myself my thoughts because I don’t want to get on a microphone and talk about myself. I see people do. They talk about themselves. I have done this, I’ve done that. And the best of the greatest. Nobody cares how great you are. Nobody cares about your story. But they will care about your story, if you care about their story.
So for example, if I ask you what’s the secret to success? How did you get here? What is it one thing that you want to share? What’s the one mistake you made? So that I can learn from a mistake? And I will stop making or repeating that mistake? How was your childhood? Tell me a little bit. A few words about your parents, a few words about your mentors, is what I’m talking about you. And when I talk about you, you are activating value to me. In a way, I’m raising your self esteem when I’m talking to you about you. When you’re expressing yourself, and somehow unconsciously, as a result of you raising your self esteem, that automatically happens, you are attributing value to me unconsciously. Yes, there is a place for you to talk about yourself. And the place is when you’re invited to talk about yourself. For example, I was invited to talk about my Everest expedition. Not a successful expedition. It’s a failed expedition, at least as of now. But I was invited to talk about it on a radio show. And I talked about my experience because I was invited to talk about it. There was an organization that invited me to talk about my Everest experience in person life. I went there I spoke about it for about 45 minutes. There was an audience that was expecting me to talk about my budget expedition and I did that I cannot talk about myself on this podcast. You are subscribed audience or you will be subscribed audience I want you to subscribe to a second line of thinking or a certain value that I provide I will not be providing any value talking about myself. So there is a place to talk not this place. If you want to really get people to comply or to agree with you, you need to agree with them.
In every disagreement, there is an agreement.
In every disagreement, there is an agreement. I like what you’re saying, I agree with you, I see your point, I understand what you’re saying, I see where you’re going with it. When you start using these lines of these words or these phrases, in any conversation, you’re unconsciously moving. The person who’s saying what they’re saying to your way. And by doing by saying these words you are creating, see, one of the human traits is we dislike people who disagree with us. And we like people who agree with us. So why not take that as an asset within which you are agreeing? In every disagreement, there is an agreement and your job is to seek that agreement. Every time I’ve seen somebody saying no, it part of them was always saying yes, my job is to look for that yes. And when you do that, you become an incredible influencer. And you will be loved by everyone. If you do that.
Happy talk.
The next one is happy talk. Your job is to always start, carry and end every conversation with a happy talk. Nobody wants to listen, that the whole world is going to collapse, the economy is going to collapse, everybody’s going to die, everything is going to break apart. None. Nobody is interested, everybody wants you to be happy, they expect a happy conversation from you. So go around and start having happy conversations. That’s the biggest secret in this podcast episode today. And if you are unable to start, carry and in any conversation, in a happy note, then you need to go meet a therapist and get help because your emotions are overriding your reality.
If you want to have great conversations in public, then you need to have a conversation with yourself.
Okay. This is an incredible one, the next one. If you want to have great conversations in public, then you need to have a conversation with yourself. By public I mean people around you, in your relationships, everybody outside of us is public. There’s nothing called private. You with you is private, you with anybody else’s public doesn’t matter how close the relationship is. In order for you to have an incredible conversation of public you need to have an incredible conversation in private. That is you with yourself. So here’s the technique, take a paper, write down everything that you want to tell yourself. For example, you had a bad day, you write down three and you had a bad day. It’s okay to have a bad day. It’s okay. Some people are unreasonable. It’s okay. The world is going to collapse. It’s okay. The economy is going to fail. Write a letter to yourself. read that letter. Like literally write don’t type this in on a computer, write it, read it. At the end, trash it. Start your next day with great emotions, resolve today’s emotions on the spot.
This is the biggest secret you know where I learned all this? As I told you in the beginning, from a book, I came across this wonderful book, How to Have Confidence and Power and Dealing with People by a legendary. What do I say, self improvement expert, philosopher, maybe. Somebody who changed the direction of success that would be appropriate. Les Giblin, Les Giblin, was born in 1912, led a difficult life he became a sales agent. And as he was selling door to door he started to study the human character. He started to study how people act and react and interact and picked up all those nuances and wrote this incredible book and many books he wrote four or five books, did many seminars how to have confidence and power in dealing people get this book, read the book. I read the book, everything that I’m saying on this podcast is flowing out of me because I read that book multiple times. And this book has sold nearly a million copies or more since it came out.
That’s all for now. Hopefully today’s podcast episode is helpful. If it is, then write a review. Read it, share it with your friends and family. And most importantly, please come back tomorrow. I have some more ideas have on share with you. That’s all take care. Bye now.