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Welcome back to the podcast today, again answering your question. This question has come in for a long time now. It goes like this. “Hi, Srini, I’m 49 years old, I have two great kids, one in college, and one in high school, and have a great family and a great job. I’m a C-level executive, also an angel investor with many investments in Silicon Valley in startups. My question to you is I get triggered? I do not know why.”
Very interesting question. Thank you appreciate the question. So for those who are, who do not understand the spot, where he says, I get triggered, he is saying that he gets angry. Okay. So there are many podcast episodes I have done here. And talking about anger and things that stimulate anger, and how to overcome anger and all that this question is not about how to overcome anger, this question, I think is, and the way I read it is, you know, why am I getting triggered? Or why am I getting angry? So my very short and quick answer to this question without knowing much is you doing a lot? Very simple, you’re doing a lot. Maybe this has to do with the way you’re allocating your time. And the allocation is correct. Maybe this is this has to do with energy. So stress is where I’m going with this. I’m just focusing on the health part. Health is where I would focus. And I don’t think the question is how to overcome it. Because if that was the question, then there are so many ways, I’m pretty sure you might have tried many things. So from a health perspective, I would see if I can eliminate a few things that might be contributing to this, which are inconsistent eating, and irregular eating, I think they both are the same. But inconsistent means you don’t have a proper menu that you eat, you have regular means you don’t have a proper time that you eat, you’re all over the place. Maybe sugar is contributing, maybe some hormonal changes are contributing, we don’t know that. So I would focus on that. And for that, there are very specific and well-documented methods to address this. So I won’t worry about that. I think you’re doing that already.
Now, let’s talk about why this is happening. And the first and foremost thing I would focus on is the environment through which you were raised, I would, I would look into that, I would also look into the societies that you deal with, or you carry yourself in where you see others. Maybe I’m just making this up. And you have to excuse me for saying this, because this may not be the case. Maybe you are working and you’re overcompensating for other people’s success. So others are working on getting the success you are putting in the effort and you’re not getting so you’re overcompensating, which means you’re overworking for the same result that otherwise other people are or not. And that is coming at a cost. And in order for that to be balanced, those emotions have to be taken out somewhere. So maybe that is leading to the displacement. So anger, displacement, that emotional displacement is happening. So there is that pot, there is another angle to this, maybe this could be by birth, maybe you’re wired this way. Maybe it runs in your family, maybe in 22,009 2010, there was finally conclusive evidence that your genetics are playing a role, the researchers concluded there is a specific gene, I believe the HT is to be, and we talk about this all the time. Now I’ve been talking about this is responsible for anger, to persist across generations, something like that. So maybe this has to do. Only you can answer this. And I cannot. But could be. And now, I’m telling you after I read about that research, and I go back and look into all the cases that I’ve dealt with, clearly the anger runs in families.
So these are two or three things that come to my mind. This is what’s happening. And I don’t think the question is how to deal with it because I’ve done more than happy to send you all the past recordings that I talked about anger and all that there is a mindful way to approach to deal with it. There is a very, very autonomous way to deal with it, which is hypnosis and all that. That’s where my area of work comes in. So there are so many ways to deal with that. It’s not the question if you want to eliminate it completely from your system. And unfortunately, this is very difficult to remove from the system. You can take classes you can build understanding, and develop understanding. But here’s what I suggest, I think your kids and family, already know this dynamic.
So they are very aware of your situation, probably they already made a truce with it. But as much as you learn about why this is happening with you, I think they also should learn to expect this to happen with you. So they have to learn to do on their end, you have to do learning on your end, their learning is probably very mature already, I think. So, my one-line suggestion is, again, this may work or may not work in the situation. But usually, when somebody has a bad temper, and a lot of displacement going on, I suggest that they practice empathy. And there are so many routines that are available online on how to practice empathy. And I did a podcast talking about how to do it. It’s interesting how angry people lack empathy when it’s needed. But then also take the first opportunity to wash off their guilt by doing the same thing to somebody else that otherwise they don’t want to do to their loved ones. It’s funny, it’s weird how that works. But I’m not saying, that this applies to you, but you get an idea. Maybe I’ll practice if you’re practicing it already. And I will practice even more.
There isn’t a direct way to eliminate anger, anger is contained. Anger is put in a cup or in a jar and sealed. You cannot take it out completely from the jar and say the jar is empty. Now if it is empty, that means the anger is somewhere and most probably within you. Somewhere within you need to really, you know, seal it off. Okay. That’s all hopefully answered your question. If not do let me know. And that’s all for now today. And as I say that all the time here, wherever you are, be safe. Thank you. Thank you for your questions to everybody who’s listening.
Thank you for your support. Please keep those questions coming. I will catch up with the questions from my end. And I’ll be back here again tomorrow. That’s all for now. Talk soon.